How do you not be irritated by everyone??

[Whatevermission]

Is this the curse of being middle aged? Or am I just a miserable old hag? I think I do a pretty good job of containing my seething rage and incomprehension of everyone's idiocy. I smile alot and friendly and chatty. But, wow, it's an effort. I used to love 'people', finding out about them and enjoyed how different we all are. Now I want to live in a cave and never have to have an interaction with anyone I don't already know and like, ever again

I actually feel like my outlook is getting more lighthearted as I get older... When i was in my 20s i was quite serious and boring mature, maybe because I had my kids in my early 20s I don't know? But I was very much routine, strict, took most things a bit too seriously and got annoyed with a lot of things.

Now in my 30s I find I'm much more laid back, quite lighthearted and find humour in most things whilst also not getting annoyed by most things and let it just float over my head. Live and let live type attitude.

Things like road rage, what the heck is that all about? Can't get worked up about it all tbh.

I think I might just be the opposite to people though?

I'm 29 (puts on tin hat) and feel like this every day. I just don't like people. I second the refrain of "oh for fucks sake"

I'm not miserable. As long as everyone stays the fuck away from me, then I'm pretty happy

@lizzie I am young yes, which is lovely, but certainly not innocent

My mother never had that attitude, she has always had a young spirit.

"You're a long time old..." is always her wise words. She's 70 now and people never believe her! 😁

I'm 38 and have never suffered fools. However, my anxiety makes me more of a people pleaser than I want to be!

My mum is hilarious. She truly doesn't care anymore. She's reached a point where she just says 'no' to things she doesn't want to do or doesn't agree with. It's quite funny to see people's reaction (She's in her 60s).

This is what I love about MN etc, I can read as few or as many of the threads/posts I want before I move on to the next without any repercussions. Harder to do that IRL but I'm working on it.

To be fair, I’m a mid 30s parent and am unbearably irritated with most parents in their 30s. It’s the incessant faffing over which pram, then bringing it into a bloody swimming pool changing room, the cliqueness of clutching to your NCT friends at every bloody playgroup, the leading “how old is your daughter?” as they visibly weigh up whose child is the most advanced, the moaning that their darling wasn’t “swimmer of the week”, the bullshit about how because they took them to babysign they’ve been speaking in sentences since 8 months old . The dads are even worse with their mansplaining labour, breastfeeding and baby wearing. I wore my daughter in a sling because she literally wouldn’t stop crying unless she was feeding, not to show how “woke” I was or because it matched my knobby top-knot. It’s all so much bloody performance, fannying and wasting money on whatever Instagram is selling you.

I'm like this. I'm 39 and lost most of my tolerance about a year ago.
Last week I was away with work and at the hotel buffet breakfast in the morning I was waiting to use that conveyor toaster machine that hotels have. I was stood RIGHT next to it holding 2 slices of bread and this absolute cow marched past me and stuck her bread in the machine.
Now 5 years ago I would have seethed internally about it but not said a word. Last week however I loudly said "oh I wasn't waiting or anything, I just like standing near toasters holding bread for fun"

I don't even care that she looked embarrassed either.

And what is it with all the people that think corridors or doorways are an appropriate place to stop and have a conversation?!

I also hate almost everyone I come into contact with! I do a lot of glaring at folk and swearing at them in my head, and I do worry that one day I will actually tell my colleague to shut the fuck up or snap "Don't bloody stop there" at people who get in my way.

I am counting the days until I never have to do a school pick-up or drop-off again.
The people I like, I like. The rest of them? I can't even be bothered to say hello. Thank goodness for dark glasses.
They waste so much energy mithering and moaning about the most inconsequential issues which I can't even be bothered to recall.

Thank you! You are my people.

I'm 52 and now find I haven't the patience to listen to shite. I hear myself cutting across people with phrases like, 'don't be so utterly ridiculous' in a brisk tone of voice before changing the subject.

And it is very liberating to be so appallingly rude and not care - because the upside is not having to waste time on people who are annoying.

46. If I had the choice I'd pretty much never engage with anyone but DH and the dog ever again. So little tolerance for anything these days, and I struggle so much with superficial conversations, pointless pointless, pointless!

Fuck. This is such a depressing thread!

Cmon guys....you need to FEEL THE LOVE

Its a shitty old world... Full We need to be good to eachother
HUGS
AIR KISS
FIST BUMP

I'm almost 50, have aspergers and have always struggled with being around others, but it's become unbearable now. Everyone seems so stupid and childish. Don't even get me started on doctors, particularly male doctors who just 😶 at you and seem to need plugging in to the mains in order to elicit some sort of response.

I had to visit the camping shop the other week for last minute DofE stuff for ds. The store assistants could only be described as 'wired' in their behaviour. Totally loud, overbearing and mansplaining stuff to all and sundry. The one behind the desk was cracking jokes and it was embarrassing.

I went to Costa drive through last week and the young chap who was serving asked me if I was "living the dream" and was unfeasibly happy for 08:00 in the morning.

It feels like everyone has suddenly gone mad.

I don’t. Embrace it.

I'd fist-bump a fellow groucher who interrupted shop assistants in order to get servied ...

I told someone to tuck off today. Not shouty just hissy.

In my defence if just had a crap day, had some crappy news and it was one of the well dressed panhandlers who always loiter near my office and whisper ‘excuse me’ as you go by to get your attention, then lean in conspiratorially and ask you for money. She bloody grabbed my jacket arm today as I walked past. I usually ignore or say ‘no’. Red rag to a bull today though.

There are some people I've stayed friends with in FB because I fear I'll forget how annoying they are and suggest a drink.

OTOH - I value my long-standing friends more.

I've always been quite easily irritated. Less shy about showing it now.

Oh, and one GP told me it wasn't possible that the antibiotics I had been prescribed for my tooth abscess had also settled my bile duct pain down. I happened to mention it to another GP and she told me that antibiotics are indeed prescribed for such a problem and promptly gave me a script for some more along with some omeprazole.

Doctors, some of us know that you got your qualifications out of a xmas cracker and we will go along with it, but don't act all superior and treat us like fools whilst you're about it.

'Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about'

One of my favourite quotes and something, as I get older, that I find easier than when I was younger.

I need to be on this thread.
Sometimes I don’t talk to people.
I go and sit on the toilet/any toilet just to get away from them.
Even at work.
It’s like respite.
It’s the only way I can get through the day.

Another one checking in . 43 and I find I have less and less tolerance for people with every week year that passes. I find so many people dull, self obsessed, ignorant, uninformed and sooo fucking boring! I don't want to hear about their pointless dramas, I have no interest in their uninformed opinions, I just DONT CARE!

I don't feel in any way bad about it they're the problem not me . In fact having spent the first 30 years of my life caring far too much what others might think of me, being nice because you're supposed to be nice, pasting on a smile while listening to people's boring crap and self inflicted dramas, I find my intolerance very freeing. I don't care. I'm not obliged to care. I don't need to put up with other people's shit. I don't have to be friends with people who bore me to tears. I don't have to "respect" the opinions of uninformed arseholes. I don't have to treat other people's problems like they're my problems.

It's flippin great! Sure, we find people irritating but then I reckon I always did, I just felt like I shouldn't, that I needed to try harder or be more patient or understanding. Now I use my time and energy on myself and the people I really care about - my family and my (small) group of friends and I just don't sweat the rest of it.

I'm 28 and have felt like this for the last couple of years.

I asked a colleague a yes/no question last week and I got a 19 minute rambling answer. I know it was 19 minutes because I make a point or checking how long she has been talking at me, she does it so often.

I now automatically assume people will be talking nonsense and I'm pleasantly surprised when they don't.

Oh and I'm often described as an old woman. I think I was born middle aged.