How do you not be irritated by everyone??

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Is this the curse of being middle aged? Or am I just a miserable old hag? I think I do a pretty good job of containing my seething rage and incomprehension of everyone's idiocy. I smile alot and friendly and chatty. But, wow, it's an effort. I used to love 'people', finding out about them and enjoyed how different we all are. Now I want to live in a cave and never have to have an interaction with anyone I don't already know and like, ever again

war similarly, on train or bus, i will always ask a person to move their bag from a sit, so I can sit there

Haha.. it's US that are annoying/rude, isn't it 🤣

big people in their 30s. And especially hipsters

Oh God, the sunbed small talkers. I could sit on my balcony but then I'd miss all the people watching which I adore. Interacting - not so much. Very dark sunglasses and a book works well as a barrier when actually lying down on the sunbed, but it's a gamble when I have to get to go to the bar or loo. Do I just rush straight past them with purpose and hope they won't notice? Or do I exit the hotel via the back gate and take the long walk around the block to enter the hotel at the front?

Dh got caught by an annoying one a few years ago who happened to work in the same industry. He was boring as fuck and a huge show off. Doh! Rule one, never give too much information away! We ended up hiding from him for the rest of the week. Its hilarious really and all part and parcel of a holiday. Some of our best holiday memories are about the annoying people we've met .

DH and I live in fear of being befriended on holiday. We actually are frightened of it

49 and just the same. Made worse by the fact I had DTs in my early 40s. All was fine and lovely when they were babies but by the time they started school I was mid-late 40s and I had changed. I have two whole new classes of excitable, earnest school mums to mix with and its so hard not to shout IT DOESN'T MATTER about pretty much everything. I was them once so I try very hard not to be rude but its hard work.

I have 2 female friends who constantly look at their phones, answer messages etc when we are mid conversation. I want to shout "For Fucks Sake Stop It"!! Instead i just go completely silent until they have finished and then say with a small smile, "Err, you done now? Where were we"? Proper Passive Aggressive.

Just turned 44 & have come to the conclusion that I pretty much hate everyone

Shit, wrong thread, sorry! hahaha

Oh no its not the wrong thread . That was weird!!

Even more irritated now.

its so hard not to shout IT DOESN'T MATTER

Oh God yes!!!

Oh, thank FUCK it's not just me.

I'm 45 & when people's phones are being noisy, whether it's music, videos or the person on the other end, I want to lean over and ask them to turn the noise off. I've also been known to put my arm up to block someone if they're waving their hands around & get too close to my face.

As for people standing on the wrong side on escalators...

I'm also finding this. Combination of getting older and just less bothered about pleasing others and also realising that lots of people aren't all that nice really...
It's liberating really...

Ironically I have found my people!

Now fuck off!

I am completely intolerant, pushy and over bearing to everyone when I’m out and about.

I cannot abide smug jobsworths or poor customer service.

My pet hate is people that work in the food industry but don’t know what a vegetarian or vegan is. “Oh I thought you could eat fish?” Is often said to a family member.

I wear large headphones whenever I can to stop people taking to me. I hate people.

46 and this is me too.

I wonder if it's decreasing oestrogen levels that makes is less bothered about making sure other people are happy even if we're bored shitless?

I hear you OP, although my social circle has diminished we have recently made three new friends in our local pub. They are however 25 years older, fantastic company, don't give a stuff about rubbish and just 'get shit'

paddling oh God, enthusiastic new/first time parents....they might actually be my favourite

I have found my people! Now fuck off!

In a nutshell

Shall we have a meet up to sneer at one another?

Another one who thought it was just me. I was extremely irritated yesterday when a small tribe of children walked into my trolley because they were all glued to mobile phones (thankfully no injuries). Four of them aged no more than 7 or 8. Mother wasn't bothering her arse.

Conversely this is the first thread that has relaxed me and cheered me up in ages. I am 45. The world seems to be crafted entirely of fuck wits. The only plus side is I'm hard of hearing so when the primary school parents start up I can pretend not to hear them and drift away rapidly

so hard not to shout IT DOESN'T MATTER about pretty much everything

That.

Why oh why do parents allow their small offspring to wear those awful wheeled trainers in public places?

It really pisses me off when a child zooms in front of me in a supermarket for example.

Or children running around screaming in a restaurant.

I can see myself at 80 slyly sticking out my walking stick and tripping them up!

I just ignore , smile and walk away and now fly business to avoid overcrowded noisy places .

Fully paid up Grumpy Old Woman here.
Though I'm careful to keep grumps to myself most of the time, especially since a grown up dd once said, 'Mum, you're starting to sound just like Granny!'

It's amazing how you begin to see folly, stupidity and general inane tripe everywhere you look, once you hit a certain age, though.

First time parents with their bloody baby monitors - complete with a screen so they can watch their baby’s chest move up and down for proof of life. The baby who is in the next flipping room!!!!!!!

EXACTLY! I’m thoroughly enjoying being older and not caring what people think anymore. My favourite pastime is standing in the park and yelling “that’s not 5 miles an hour! 5 miles an hour PLEASE! “ at cars not driving slowly enough. Why are they in the park anyway, who drives through a park fgs!