How do you not be irritated by everyone??

[Whatevermission]

Is this the curse of being middle aged? Or am I just a miserable old hag? I think I do a pretty good job of containing my seething rage and incomprehension of everyone's idiocy. I smile alot and friendly and chatty. But, wow, it's an effort. I used to love 'people', finding out about them and enjoyed how different we all are. Now I want to live in a cave and never have to have an interaction with anyone I don't already know and like, ever again

I suppose the thing about people in their 30s is they are in the prime of life, mature (ish), have a house, money, health, that youthful glow etc and are having new families. And talk about it like no one in the world has ever had a mortgage, had a baby etc. How busy they are and life is just insane right now but i must dash to pilates blah blah

I just feel so irritated by the lectures on how life is supposed to be from people in their 30s. People in their 20s i just smile and think Ahhh Bless. Perhaps we were all so insufferably irritating in our 30s too?

When you get even older, you just let all the bull wash over you. Sometimes I call people out. Mostly I can’t be bothered.

I dunno because the people I know in their 30s had their kids in their 20s so it's not knew and renting because house buying is unaffordable.

I always felt like the generation before me, "generation x," who are now in their 40s and 50s were a bit old for their age. I remember being a teen back in the early 00s and used to work with women who ranged from late 40s to early 70s and they were all great spirited with good humour and an attitude of you are only as young as you feel. Then in my 20s i started working with women in their 30s plus met many at the school gates of that age group. I remember being quite taken aback that they kept saying how "old" they felt and were always quite patronising to those younger than them. I never really looked up to them as older and wiser like they thought I should because it was all too try hard on their part.

The women who I suppose would fall under the baby boomer generation, war babies and even pre war babies just always seemed better spirited and less patronising, even though they actually were older and wiser...

Not *new

Only as OLD as you feel ffs!

Mid 30s and my tolerance has gone, completely!

My mum has waffled on about issues with my nans boiler for the past two weeks, initially my eyes just glazed over and I nodded in all the right parts. Now I'm at the point where I want to scream at her "I DON'T FUCKING CARE" and I feel awful!

I don't mind people talking to me about actual real life important stuff like politics or world news but I don't care about who is shagging who, I don't care about someones neighbours sisters dog dying, I don't care about TOWIE or who is a secret drunk ... I'm at about breaking point with people tbh.

I find everyone annoying really, regardless of age. I suppose 30 something's are probably most annoying as you don't forgive them for their youth or their ageing status.

exhausted Grinch ah welcome, you bloomed early

Today, I just want my own cave.

Oh goldenpineapples I think your post was supposed to be a dig. I think you'll find a whole lot of meh, here

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ah welcome, you bloomed early

I dread to think what I'll be like when I'm in my 60s/70s if I make it that far! Does anyone else find that often people talk AT you these days rather than with you?

@tana433

I seem to have become a person that random strangers in the street assume is up for a chat at about the same time as I have entirely lost the capacity to be arsed humouring them. In my younger days I would have liked to be thought of as 'approachable' but I am reliably informed my resting expression is 'fuck off'. This should have been a blessing to my current grumpy self but is seems like being middle aged and going about my business in the middle of the day (as I work odd hours) over rides this.

The other day in Morrisons the bloke on the check out made a comment about every single item I was buying as he scanned it. It took every ounce of self control not to scream at him to keep his thoughts to himself and hurry up. And I only went to his check out because I am sick of the self check out telling me I have a 'surprising item' and having to wait for staff to finish chatting to tell the machine that I am in fact old enough to buy wine.

And breathe

CathyorClare
I’m 53 and that’s me. Have I known you for 30 years? No? Well I’m not getting to know you now.
Socksontheradiator
Yep, walk away. Especially from men. Christ, their egos...

Don't get me started on self checkouts. "Unexpected item in the bagging area"? It's a friggin' loaf of bread, how is that unexpected given that I'm in a supermarket?

I've found my clan In my case, it's a combination of age (50 today - just to trump the PP who said they were 48 today) and having an autistic child, I don't have time for flannel. Or waffle. Or bullshit, Or lies. Or fake promises that professionals will never keep. Or people constantly staring at their phones. Or people walking whilst looking at phones. Or retail staff who natter, whether to me or someone else. Or the over-friendly neighbour. Pretty much everybody pisses me off, actually.

Me, early 50s. I am in this club. I cannot abide most people and this thread is giving me "permission" to start showing it.

I have stopped going to the cinema/theatre because I always seem to sit near the fuckwits. Commuting is never nice, these days its torture. Early commute last week a man got out a tupperware of porridge and then proceeded to eat the porridge noisily with a metal spoon, scrape scrape. It went on and on - I had to move before I screamed at him. The woman who routinely ate stinky boiled eggs on the morning commute has seen sense because I used to stare at her with a sneer on my face.

My DH has got mellower. He tries to shush me which enrages me even more. Let me fucking rage! Unless he is driving when I think he would cheerfully run down and crash into most people!

I'm 31 and I fucking hate everybody. Am I doomed?

Yes

I agree about people who can be annoying and have no time for nonsense such as the fake Towie types or most reality TV for that matter. I've also deleted Facebook because I found it just became nonsense which I don't care about.

But surely just walking away from someone mid sentence is just rude and unnecessary?

If people are in their 40s now, you could live for another 40 or 50 years! That's an awful long time to feel so miserable and old! What a waste of time..

Oh I LOVE this thread-thankyou to all of you!

I'm 53 and have recently been thinking there's something very wrong, as I'm constantly coming across people who annoy the fuck out of me. I'm so please to find out it isn't just me!

I go about most of the day, biting my tongue, so that I don't get arrested

That's an awful long time to feel so miserable and old! What a waste of time..

Are you under 35?

No?

36. Does that count?

Ok, I thought you may be young and innocent.

Oh you are!

Wait a few years and you'll feel the same.