How do you not be irritated by everyone??

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Is this the curse of being middle aged? Or am I just a miserable old hag? I think I do a pretty good job of containing my seething rage and incomprehension of everyone's idiocy. I smile alot and friendly and chatty. But, wow, it's an effort. I used to love 'people', finding out about them and enjoyed how different we all are. Now I want to live in a cave and never have to have an interaction with anyone I don't already know and like, ever again

I learnt a new word recently and can't believe I got to this age without knowing it;

ultracrepidarian

one who is presumptuous and offers advice or opinions beyond one's sphere of knowledge.

I think bringing that word up whenever starts talking shit, would be effective. I haven't tried it yet.

But OP you're only 46! You're so young still! Enjoy your life and don't take it all so seriously... one day we will all be gone so just enjoy the ride...

Haha, good one

What about being young still? 46 is young, especially nowadays. Gone are the days where 40 was considered ancient!

knitted "I went to Costa drive through last week and the young chap who was serving asked me if I was "living the dream" and was unfeasibly happy for 08:00 in the morning. "

wait, wut? I'd have said "screw the coffee, I'll have whatever you're still high from from last night"

some of you are very restrained. Today I had someone virtually block me while I was trying to exit the Tube carriage and I just said "mate!! Amazing fucking manners, WELL DONE".

OP I can so see you saying to wanky colleague "oh, ultracrepidarian", while nodding sagely - and he will assume you think he's fab so he will nod along

there was a great post from someone suggesting that if someone is really bugging you, you just politely say "sorry, can I just stop you there" and that's it.

I don't consider myself to be old pineapple

If a Barista asked me if I was 'living the dream' before 08:30 I'd vomit directly into the pocket of their coconut hemp apron tbh.

there was a great post from someone suggesting that if someone is really bugging you, you just politely say "sorry, can I just stop you there" and that's it

That's ace, I'm gonna do that

Oh God yes. I am 41 so probably have another 41 years of being increasingly irritated before being welcomed by the sweet embrace of death

Hooray I have found my people! I'm 40 not but it's been creeping up over the last few years - mainly since I was 38. I love DH and my kids and my parents most of the time but I'm getting more and more fucked off with everyone else as time goes by. I just want a peaceful life and everyone talks so bloody much and most of it is complete shite. Such a waste of energy. I know it makes people awkward but I talk if I have something to say but if not I don't say anything. Small talk is my pet hate. Enjoy the silence people!

I have a group of friends who I have always loved but the older we get the less close we are and the more I get irritated by them. Sounds awful doesn't it? I guess I'm just more aware of who is actually my friend and who is just an acquaintance.

I could quite happily live my life with just my family and be pretty happy. As long as I get a decent amount of alone time everyday of course - otherwise I go a bit mad!

Are we all introverts I wonder?

Totally with you, and I think social media and reality tv have a big part to play in why we are this way. In the past we only came into contact with overbearing, fake people or situations on a now and then basis, these days we are under constant attack, our tolerance levels have well and truly took a battering. I used to feel sorry for people who were reclusive, now I'm bloody envious!

Irene that made me laugh out loud.
I’m the same titsy, even my friends get on my nerves. There is no hope for me!
Also I have been aloof all my life, it even says I was an aloof child on my primary school report

There’s a meme on Facebook.
I hate memes and the sharers of them but it says something along the lines of
People say to me I’m really difficult to get to talk to and I think, yet here you are.

That’s me.
People say I’m intimidating.
Good. Now stay the fuck away from me you smart arse cunt with your fucking red Nissan Juke and Taylor wimpey new build.

Yes I identify with this. I'm 42.shall we start a club? I cut down my circle massively when I turned 40 as I realised half my friends were fake.

Cock "In the past we only came into contact with overbearing, fake people or situations on a now and then basis, these days we are under constant attack,"

hmm...I think those people have always been in the workplace, but a combination of population density and people treating everywhere like their front room has made things harder to tolerate. So the cinema is on the no-go list...for me anywhere full of kids is a no-go, public transport now has people playing their music out loud etc.

in that way, commuting is worse than 20 years ago. It was never going to be fun, but it was a rarity for some wanker to actually start eating a full breakfast!

actually that's another thing - can't people go anywhere for 2 minutes without food? I was on the bus in rush hour and a woman tried to eat sushi off her lap and got really annoyed that the bus was going over speed bumps!

part of the trend for rushing everywhere so they can only eat on the go....argh. I've been reclusive for a long time, but when retirement comes I am going to live in a cave!!

Oh yes!!! My list....

People who drive high pitched motorbikes/mopeds
People who walk along with their music coming out of their phone. Put some sodding headphones in!! I don’t want to hear your shit!
Ditto the above with cars with windows open and utterly shite music booming out
Bad drivers
Bad parkers
Rude taxi drivers who never move or indicate or give way on the road
Rude pavement people who just barge on past you making you always be the one to step out of their way
People who don’t respect your space paying for stuff with your PIN number
People who put their stuff on the supermarket conveyor belt before you’ve finished putting your stuff on
Pretty much 90% of what is broadcast on any of the ITV channels. Is the level of intelligence it is aimed at truly representive of the majority of the UK? If so we are doomed.
Ditto the sensationalist nature of any of the ITV news programs.
Filthy bastards who let their dogs poo all down my road and walk to school and don’t pick it up.
My neighbours noisy yap yap fucking dogs
My neighbours themselves for their ignorance over how this drives me crazy
People who walk along eating and drinking
People who flick fag butts around
People who spit on pavements
Men who wear their trousers hanging off their arse as a fashion statement
Men who sit on public transport with their legs so far apart you’d think they have watermelon sized testicles

God I could go on all night but I don’t think it’s doing my blood pressure any good....

Yes! This exactly! When Did everyone get so fucking stupid and I include so-called professionals in that, who seem to think I'm stupid. Stupid drivers hogging third lanes of motorways, people moaning about totally trivial nonsense when we've 12 years to stop the planet frying.

Very grumpy old woman here!

I've met my tribe, 45 this week and cannot be arsed with other people's nonsense. Moved 18 months ago and am surrounded by mountains!! Bliss.
Only like my own kids, tolerate DH if he isn't making noise!

I had to bite my tongue not to say "well, under all that make up, you could be 16 or 60, how the fuck would I know?" - made me burst out laughing! Brilliant, those would be my sentiments exactly.

Grown men in skinny jeans with the ankles rolled up

^^

Even worse, fat men in skinny jeans. Fuck me blind and what a shit show.

Nowadays I find most stuff sexist. I said something to FIL and he basically repeated the same thing back to me, changing one word, passing the idea off as his own! Who does he think the is? Monty fucking Don or something?

Wanker (FIL, not Monty)

actually that's another thing - can't people go anywhere for 2 minutes without food? I was on the bus in rush hour and a woman tried to eat sushi off her lap and got really annoyed that the bus was going over speed bumps!

^^

I once sat next to a woman who ate a KEBAB whilst having a pedicure.

Sorry for the daily mail style capitals but I need to get my point across.

I'm 52 and now find I haven't the patience to listen to shite. I hear myself cutting across people with phrases like, 'don't be so utterly ridiculous' in a brisk tone of voice before changing the subject.

^

I need you in my life

Everyone’s so bloody self-obsessed, I seem to notice this trait in almost everybody except my family and a couple of close friends and that, coupled with an intolerance for fake, phoney and fussy people, pretty much rules most people out for me

I have found this too, and I am bloody delighted to read it isn’t just me. I was in a meeting last week with some wankers, whittering on. I couldn’t be arsed hearing all their crap, so I let loose a little with the “cut the crap” speech... apparently I came across as intimidating and annoyed good! Another meeting that should’ve been an email.
I have always been a bit like this, but it is getting worse as I’m now early 40s. I have developed a great resting bitch face too.

I can’t wait to use “can I just stop you there” and leave it at that.