How do you not be irritated by everyone??

[Whatevermission]

Is this the curse of being middle aged? Or am I just a miserable old hag? I think I do a pretty good job of containing my seething rage and incomprehension of everyone's idiocy. I smile alot and friendly and chatty. But, wow, it's an effort. I used to love 'people', finding out about them and enjoyed how different we all are. Now I want to live in a cave and never have to have an interaction with anyone I don't already know and like, ever again

Lotus - do we work in the same office?! I also sit near a compulsive throat clearer and in the same area as a constant sniffer. This is the office I am based at after my commute with a bunch of wankers.

So. What else pisses me off in the office?
Let's see...

Clunking cereal spoon in bowls when slurping/crunching cornflakes - greedy wankers

Taking conference calls on loud speaker - show off wankers

My colleagues not thanking the wonderful ladies whose job it is to clean kitchens, collect mugs and replenish said cereals. But, just ignore them - uncaring wankers

Interns stocking up on milk/cokes/toilet roll and fruit we get provided with then taking it fecking home?! - cheeky wankers

Colleagues who complain about only having free bacon sandwiches on Fridays - ungrateful wankers

Colleagues who stay in a meeting room after their allotted time which results in my meetings starting - rude wankers

I am mid menopause and it's bloody exhausting being me at the moment

My people 😊

Late 40’s. There are just so many fucking stupid & annoying people out there!

‘Other drivers’ are probably my biggest big bear at the moment. Too many infringements to list - just arghhhhhhh

But just people in general who are inconsiderate, rude, noisy...& STUPID.

I can’t be bothered being sociable, I detest small talk & inane wittering.

I’m trying to ‘rise above it’ for the kids sake mainly, it’s not very nice being driven around by someone grumping at other drivers all the time...or negatively commenting on stuff all the time, but it’s an effort.

...my head feels ready to explode most of the time. Just today I was thinking that maybe my blood pressure was seriously high again and maybe I needed to go into the surgery to self check it. But you’re all reassuring me I’m not alone.

It got worse after my Dad died (only 65, heart attack) and worse again with peri menopause. A few health issues haven’t helped. I don’t sleep well. I’m permanently exhausted, but mood wise I’m ok until some idiot does something annoying and I’m 0 to 100 instantly.

In line with people's experience around bereavement, over the last several years we've had deaths, severe adult mental illness, marriage breakdown, severe illness in DCs. I'm certain all of that has left me with zero tolerance for inane crap, third lane drivers, people on phones thinking public space is theirs etc.... Can't see it changing anytime soon either! Do fantasise sometimes about running away to the Highlands of Scotland!

Mumsnetters you would be proud of me!! I gave a tight smile and simply walked away from a boasty bore of a colleague who was in full flow. The revolution has started. I’m taking no more shit😁

I'm 41. And sitting on the couch listening to my teenage step daughter and my husband have a really boring (never ending) conversation about rugby and still managing to bicker with each other, and all I want to do is watch coronation st and have some peace and quiet after a long annoying day at work full of annoying people. I'd go to bed but I have a really nice glass of wine and don't want to rush it!

It’s the stupidity that gets me. All this access to information, and people are still so fucking stupid. Facts and truth are not hidden fucking secrets available to only the chosen few. Why why WHY is everyone just so fucking stupid now?!?!?!

What I have come to understand is that ignorance is curable, but stupidity is terminal.

"Do fantasise sometimes about running away to the Highlands of Scotland!"

me too. Don't get me started on overpopulation. I saw a headline saying that Everest has crowding issues with visitors.

the natural result of overpopulation is that we will all resent each other.

Aren't you supposed to mellow as you get older; ie don't sweat the small stuff?

Yep, only 34 but moving to the arse end of nowhere to get away from the fuckers.

I started a thread a while back about how inane and dull most people are and got my arse handed to me, so I’m glad I’ve finally found my people (you stay more than 50 feet away from me though).

I’m so fed up of listening to people spout bollocks. Why are people such twats?

Jenga that sounds great! how much hermitry will you get? I can't wait to retire and do that.

I'm the same. I think it's the real reason men find us less attractive now - our bullshit detectors are up and running by 35.

I am the same. I can't be bothered making the effort to make small talk with people I don't know and don't care about. I used to love chatting to people but it doesn't usually lead anywhere so I can't be bothered.

some posters might enjoy "A Book of Silence" by Sara Maitland, and "Cave in the Snow" by Vicki Mackenzie.

Spent a couple of hours in local High Street. We are irritated by people because they are fucking annoying. The amount of people shopping whilst shouting in phones is now at epidemic levels. Just the general noise of it all is so stressful.

I went into M & S and there was a family with two small children. The little boy said that he liked it in there, it was peaceful. He was right, it was. No muzak, no shouty customers. Poor boy, he is going to suffer with noise when he grows up because it will get worse.

I am conceding defeat. I am going to do my level best to avoid places with people wherever possible. I used to love a browse around the shops, or a trip to the theatre, but I can't do it anymore.

@colouringinpro agreed! I even google 'houses on the isle of Jura' occasionally

Ruffle totally agree about men and our bullshit detectors!

Jura is very nice.

But if you live in a place with only 200 people you will still have o talk to them sometimes. You can’t get your food delivered from Tesco.

Mid 50's grumpy AF here too... Gaaawd i wish i could turn back the clock and walk away from all the negative/pompous/nasty/boring/inane tossers who made my ears bleed over the years

AesopsMables - they all wankers by any chance

Mellow with age?! I'm growing spikes

Exactly the same. So fed up of people.
I start getting pissed off around 9am, when I turn on the tv and hear about whatever new cause de jour I’m supposed to be giving a shit about this month.
I swear to God there’s thinktanks out there coming up with bollocks that people can claim victimhood over.
My work not always, but sometimes involves solving issues that wouldn’t even exist if people weren’t so lazy and entitled.
Years, decades ago my favourite thing would be been going to a club surrounded by people, now it would be in a cottage surrounded by snipers incase some cheeky fucker wanted to talk/demand something off me.

Ye gods it’s all such a pile of shite...

So many people making SO MUCH FUSS.

Blokes. No I don’t want to have anything explained to me, unless I’ve specifically asked you to. I certainly do not need you to direct me into a parking space.

Teenage girls. You all seem to be coated in orange plaster. I don’t get it.

Callers at the door saying ‘I’m not trying to sell you anything.’ Really? Well you’ve catastrophically missed the point of your job then.

I’m weary ...

I'm 38 and thought it was just me.

Have no time for crap.

And instagram influencers and mummy bloggers boil my piss.

"I swear to God there’s thinktanks out there coming up with bollocks that people can claim victimhood over. "

there are!