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How do you not be irritated by everyone??

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Whatevermission · 20/05/2019 09:09

Is this the curse of being middle aged? Or am I just a miserable old hag? I think I do a pretty good job of containing my seething rage and incomprehension of everyone's idiocy. I smile alot and friendly and chatty. But, wow, it's an effort. I used to love 'people', finding out about them and enjoyed how different we all are. Now I want to live in a cave and never have to have an interaction with anyone I don't already know and like, ever again

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MadameGazelleIsMyHomegirl · 20/05/2019 15:14

I have one word for all of you: perimenopause.

M3lon · 20/05/2019 15:18

This thread is making me feel so happy.

I just don't care about anything any more.

Not even brexit....

My DH is still all over excited about the horrors of it and I just don't care anymore.

I think this is all about the circles...the things you can effect, the things you can just about effect by influencing others and all the massive amount of other stuff that you can't do anything about.

I think as you get older you realise just how much of the stuff you used to get all excited about is actually in the outer circle and hence not worth giving a stuff about.

CathyorClaire · 20/05/2019 15:21

I wonder if it's decreasing oestrogen levels that makes is less bothered about making sure other people are happy even if we're bored shitless?

I have seen this theory before. I think there's definitely something in it. Once all those nurturing hormones vacate the premises we're free to unleash our inner curmudgeon

Annasgirl · 20/05/2019 15:22

Oh yes you are my people. And I am one of those people who had last DC in my 40's - oh God, the school run mums - I want to cry. I sometimes find myself standing there imagining really bad stuff and then I pause and wonder am I in the wrong? I even called a friend last week to ask her (same age as me) was I a weirdo and she said no, its age.

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Whatevermission · 20/05/2019 15:27

Anna's I find DADS harder to stomach. I remember at a yoga class, a new dad burning on about how him and his wife weren't satisfied with their 'birth experience' and he was complaining to the NHS. I never went back to yoga. And dads talking about how important breast feeding is. Fuck off. I heard one dad reply that his wife was 11 months pregnant, when asked by his gormless friend

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Tana433 · 20/05/2019 15:27

OP, you are totally speaking my language. I am 46 and seem to attract the most inane randoms on the planet who feel that they want to chat to me on the bus, in tescos etc. Hubby says its coz ive got an approachable face and give off a friendly aura. Wtf is wrong with me, that is not the look im going for at all!!

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Whatevermission · 20/05/2019 15:28

Just men in general, more irritating than women I think

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Whatevermission · 20/05/2019 15:29

tana halitosis is your friend!

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CarolsBiggestFan · 20/05/2019 15:30

I’m in. Mid 40’s, tolerance level rapidly declining day by day.

Just back from shopping where I asked two shop assistants “let me just interrupt your conversation to pay for this stuff”. Customer service these days is shite, no wonder the high street is dying.

I was at a barbecue at the weekend and spent a good 25 minutes listening to a woman droning on about herself. I realised at no point had she asked me a single thing about myself so I literally walked off as she was mid-sentence.

DH keeps trying to show me video clips from twitter, of motocross. We’ve had conversations about this over the years, he knows I fucking hate motocross, I don’t care if they’re doing a double no hands backflip at 1000ft leaping over a row of million dollar sports cars - this shit will NEVER impress me and is NEVER worthy of interrupting whatever I’m doing, to try and get me to watch it - YET HE STILL DOES!

The only person that hasn’t got right on my tits today is the dog and even he’s on a sticky wicket.

AwkwardSquad · 20/05/2019 15:34

This thread is really cheering me up

bellakjo · 20/05/2019 15:54

Memes - bloody memes everywhere on Facebook telling me I'm perfect, look at the sun and smile or some such shit.....

4thtimesthecharm · 20/05/2019 15:57

This thread is doing it for me, and making me feel more sane by the second, I really thought it was me.
I know that I can't be doing with any nonsense anymore and thought I was maybe being harsh.
100% validated and will carry on as is 🤣
(Early 40's if anyone's keeping a tally)

Socksontheradiator · 20/05/2019 16:04

Hello my people! Early fifties here and increasingly irritated by most people. My trick is to just walk away. Even if they are mid sentence. Fortunately my Dh and adult children don't annoy me.

Socksontheradiator · 20/05/2019 16:05

I deleted facebook. I cannot be doing with the inane nonsense i read on there.

GoldenPineapples · 20/05/2019 16:06

What's wrong with people in their 30s?

LoafofSellotape · 20/05/2019 16:07

I have 5 people on my FB, a very select few.

CarolsBiggestFan · 20/05/2019 16:20

My Facebook friends get fewer every day.

Lorraine who I haven’t seen since high school posted another passive aggressive meme this morning clearly aimed at her ex about how “over him” she is... I actually typed in the comments “if you really were over him you wouldn’t be constantly posting this shit” but I couldn’t even be arsed posting it, so I unfriended her instead.

missmouse101 · 20/05/2019 16:23

Yes,yes,yes! Me too! I have recently had to start listening to radio 4 as the inanity of the wittering on radio 2 drives me MAD. Ooh, it's nearly the weekend....Ooh only 5 sleeps til Christmas, ooh phone us if you've eaten breakfast today......as for the general public...I no longer make eye contact with anyone so I don't have to talk to them.

Oblomov19 · 20/05/2019 16:27

I get more and more intolerant as I get older. And I wasn't that tolerant to start off with!

JaneJeffer · 20/05/2019 16:29

It's an epidemic

JaneJeffer · 20/05/2019 16:30

It's an epidemic

DesperadoDan · 20/05/2019 16:36

I have found that this has happened to me roughly over the last 6 months, I used to be a people pleaser and a very smiley person, not so much now, I’m 43. I like the new me.
I bizarrely have an irrational dislike of people (male or female) in their 30’s, I find most of them egocentric and smug. Late teens and 20’s no issues.

Buddywoo · 20/05/2019 16:37

When I was in my late forties/fifties and working in a job which involved the public I used to find my pleasantness quotient ran out every day about 4pm.

Now in my 70's it has run out altogether.

crispytata · 20/05/2019 16:39

Yes to annoying men in yoga. Be they middle aged with attention seeking breathing or woke bros with top knots in a vest, bugger right off!

And retired men in Lidl/Aldi who begrudge my presence of doing a weekly shop with a trolley, lest I interrupt their jizzing over the middle aisle of shite and German beer at 10.30am.

Buddywoo · 20/05/2019 16:40

Do you think it the decrease in oestrogen (the nurturing hormone) and the increase in testosterone?

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