do You play fight with your dh?

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We haven’t for ages but did tonight. Is it weird or just something couples do? We used to massively before kids btw so nothing out of the usual.

If we stopped everything perceived as childish life would be very dull. No tickling, stupid jokes, no chasing each other etc.

However, OP i read your post as if you are not comfortable with the power dynamic, that isn't healthy. DP could easily over power me, but it isn't about "fighting" as such, more being a pest refusing to hand over the remote for example, then one of us will try to get it, racing to somewhere and trying to slow the other person down, silly stuff like that.

My husband is twice the size of me and I wouldn’t want to play fight with him in case he hurt me accidentally and besides neither of us would want to anyway.

Uh, nope.

I think he’s just insecure like that. He knows he can beat me and that makes him feel better. He’d never give me a free pass because I’m a woman or very little which I kind of respect. I didn’t like our older kid seeing us though tbh.

@TooTrueToBeGood
Amazingly yes we are fully functional adults 😂 we just like to play and have fun have done so our whole relationship.
Were not one of those couples who swap the Sunday papers while discussing the mortgage. I think alot of couples could do with a bit of fun in their relationships.
I did professional jui jitsu and my partner used to box, we have never hurt eachother it's all in jest and play

Op it does sound like it is maybe a bit much if you are actually upset by it and dosnt sound very playful if you were upset your child was there

We both laughed and reminisced about how we’d beat the shot out of each other pre dc and go to work with bruised arms etc (both of us).

He's not normal and neither is your attitude tbh.

You 'respect' him for physically beating you.
Please listen to yourself OP.

I don't think you are safe with him, do you?

Well, its becoming more obvious from your posts there are other, potentially serious issues in the relationship. All this talk of pride isn't normal for two people in a loving relationship, who have a bit of a wrestle or a poke in the side. I wouldn't continue it OP.

No but wish we did as I would love it

God no. Both of us have backgrounds in martial arts/boxing/fighting. Would never lay a finger on each other other than caringly. My partner couldn't bring himself to do it even jokingly. And neither could I.

We do all the time. Love it

No, we don’t. I’d hate it. Would hate the anticipation of being wrestled or punched.

Very occasionally we have a quick scrap on the trampoline

Nah.

Ex used to, though and it got really annoying because I just wanted to get up and get on with my day but he was massive, compared with me. He "grew out of" it but found other ways to make me miserable.

Yeah, we’re always at it because we’re both massively childish. Not abusive at all, we just enjoy rolling around with each other. It’s fairly even though; he’s slightly stronger but I’m quicker and dirtier 🤨

No, absolutely not. I would hate it, but DH wouldn't dream of it anyway

Beating the shit out of your partner isn’t normal.

Yep. More tickling and finger jabbing, than dead arms or punches. He’s 6’3 and 88 kilos which is a fair bit bigger than me. But lm better at wriggling and he’s very ticklish. We are both trained in control and restraint.
We also like to try and sneak up on each other in public. During one incident l made him jump so much both of his feet left the floor

I'm wondering if the people who don't play fight would consider their OH their best friend, or when they met might also come into play?
My DH was my best friend beforehand and we met age 14 so that behavior would be totally normal to me and just a bit of fun. Maybe it wouldn't be normal if I didn't consider him my best friend though or hadn't known him from such a young age?

There’s a difference between swishing at each other with a t towel and what the OP is talking about. Read carefully. Dead arms and bruising? Nothing fun and light hearted about that.

I think maybe it comes from childhood.
My mum wouldn't have allowed playfighting, so we didn't.
Even when we fought for real we would scream silently.

No. And I know what I’d think about a female colleague who came into work with bruises because her husband had hit her. Because it “ made him feel better”.