do You play fight with your dh?

[CocoDeMoll]

We haven’t for ages but did tonight. Is it weird or just something couples do? We used to massively before kids btw so nothing out of the usual.

No

My hubby works in close protection so he's taught me self defence.

I'm 5'6 slightly curvy and he's almost 6 foot and full muscle.

I can get him to the ground quicker than he can get me to the ground.

The thing is in play fighting ( which is fine I think) the stronger one has a responsibility to pull their punches(so to speak). The can't go all out and while they are allowed to occasionally get the upper hand, they should be letting the weaker person 'win' reasonably often otherwise it is not fun.

Op, if it doesn't feel like fun then don't do it. Your DH is likely much stronger than you and so will always win but play fighting should be more about creating a fun physical closeness than about winning a fight, otherwise it is not play fighting, it is just plain fighting.

Surely "playfighting" means pretending to fight?
Light jab on the arm etc? I have never hurt or been hurt during playfighting because we don't actually hit eachother, we just pretend to!

I've never really seen the appeal, myself.

No.

We hide round corners or in open doorways throughout the house and leap out with a yell and scare each other. The 3 kids do it too.

Better yet, the cat does it. In fact, she might have been the one to come up with it. She leaps out in a big starfish jump, slaps our leg and runs away.

Beats play fighting.

Do you mean fully functional adults? Surely not.

I'm relatively certain that we function quite well as adults, but yes we do play fight, with the emphasis on the play.

I find it amusing that you would be quite so disbelieving tbh.
It takes all sorts, you know?

I cant imagine not play fighting & capering about.

Life would be rather boring if we didnt do stuff on account of it being "childish".

It's usually late at night when one of us ends up hyper. Rolling around on the bed trying to pin each other down etc. Has ended in a few injuries before...

Mostly it’s a laugh. But it’s always obvious he’ll beat me. I try really hard and I’m im not a bad fighter.
Pre kids it was stNdard weekend behaviour.

@Aimily

Not sure if I misread but are you saying your DP 'playfully chucks you on the bed more softly' because you you pregnant?????

The fact you have started a thread suggests you aren’t happy with this.

I don’t think it is appropriate. Why play fight? What is the point?

CocoDeMoll

Why can't he just let you 'win' or overpower him sometimes?
DH has four stones on me but always 'lets' me beat him.

Yeah me and dp do although sometimes it goes on to other things

@crunchymum, no, unless you count pushing me onto the bed in a "we're not here to sleep way" By softly softly I meant there's no play fighting at all, he's backed off more and more in that sense as I've gotten progressively bigger.

No it's childish grow up !

Yes now & again - am 56 now but I have an orange belt in Kick Boxing & quick hands 😅 It's only a bit of fun - I quite like getting a mock dig or kick in if I can tbh 😁

No, DH is over a foot taller than me and 8 stone heavier.

I do just want to beat him sometimes but his ego won’t allow it especially I. Front of D.C. . I’m pathetically weak though. It’s not malicious at all but he’s super competitive.

The only couples I've ever known to playfight (beyond teenage years) have been wildly dysfunctional but it seems to work for some on here so possibly just coincidence.

Sweetheart do you always end up hurt?

Well yes but he does too. He let me give him a dead arm back!

Christ no, it doesn't sound like fun at all. Pushing and prodding someone or being on the receiving end would make me tense.

But you always get hurt? Whether or not you can hurt him back once you've sustained an injury, its unequal in that you get hurt first.

How do you feel about saying please no more play fighting?

Super competitive.
Hmm. I don’t compete with DH. We are a team. Grown adults giving each other dead arms is weird and borderline abusive.

Whoah, you should not be hurting each other in front of your DC.
This isn't 'play' fighting at all.

Its just fighting.

Why does he want to fight/hurt/physically overpower you?
You talk about his ego, well most men don't feed their ego by 'beating' their partners in a fight.

Not normal. Not ok.