Neighbours rang the police on me and OH?

[dyingforaholiday]

Me and OH we're arguing this morning nothing out of the usual probs 10 minutes OH looked out the window and goes the bloody police are here. I thought something had happened to my brother as he is a drug user so I was crying. Then they said that they've had a noise complaint.

I'm so angry I feel like going round there! They have only done this as I spoke to there landlord (my friend) about all the dog poo in the garden.

Do I go round there or seek some kind of revenge I'm so angry 😡

I disagree with most on this thread.
Btw Dh and I rarely argue.

But I do not think arguing for 10 minutes is that bad.
And I disagree that arguing infront of a DD is a problem. I think occasional arguing is perfectly normal and children should see this, and see that things return to normal quickly enough.

MN has this strange view of arguing. That no child should see it. That it's abusive to let a child see it. And I totally disagree.

We had neighbours who used to have loud arguments all the time, and on one particularly bad occasion the police turned up.

I later discovered via local gossip that no less than four different people had phoned the police. So don't blame one neighbour - it might not have been them anyway.

How do you even know who called the police? They won't have said "no.36 have reported a fight" they'll have said they'd had a report of a fight. You have just jumped to conclusions

Don't get revenge, learn to work on communication with your husband instead

Do u fight alot? Maybe this is why they called the police.
My neighbours have had fights for alot longer than 10mins u can hear the difference between a vocal fight & a violent one.
I think your neighbours were a bit worried .id just forget it and move on.

OP as a child protection social worker it is usual that the police will make a referral, it is not their job to establish the risk to your child. This is my 'bread and butter' work and yes every one argues. However most arguments do not end in a call to the police. Usually if everything else is okay and it is a case of two adults not communicating as adults then within the assessment it will be working with you and your partner to understand the impact on the children. Believe me children of parents who communicate through shouting are scared and emotionally this will have a huge impact on their childhood and future life. We would also work with you both to look at your triggers and create a safety plan. Finally you teach your children how to communicate. Children of adults who get angry and shout tend to also get angry and shout.

A 10 minute argument is nothing to get worked up about.
Everybody argues and it's not like you plan to argue when the dc are around it just happens.

I wouldn't worry about it op. Ss have got far more things to be worried about than a dc hearing a argument

“They were probably worried about domestic abuse, be grateful they cared enough to call and keep your arguments to a normal level”.

This: and “revenge”? Seriously?

people say that MN is middle class.....😂* haha I have never heard that before, that's hilarious.

I can not believe the amount of people who think arguing with your partner is normal.

I'd rather have neighbours who call the police if they hear us arguing than not. DV is a real problem, and if more neighbours called police when hearing nasty arguments then fewer women would get hurt. Worth the inconvenience of a pair of cops calling to see if you're OK if it prevents one woman being badly hurt (and yes, I do know that sometimes the man is the victim).