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Neighbours rang the police on me and OH?

159 replies

dyingforaholiday · 12/04/2019 13:29

Me and OH we're arguing this morning nothing out of the usual probs 10 minutes OH looked out the window and goes the bloody police are here. I thought something had happened to my brother as he is a drug user so I was crying. Then they said that they've had a noise complaint.

I'm so angry I feel like going round there! They have only done this as I spoke to there landlord (my friend) about all the dog poo in the garden.

Do I go round there or seek some kind of revenge I'm so angry 😡

OP posts:
Littlefish · 12/04/2019 14:18

It must have been a pretty loud argument if the neighbours were concerned enough to call the police.

Having a disagreement with someone absolutely shouldn't need to involve shouting at them lovely enough for neighbours to hear. If they could hear, just imagine how it felt for your dc.

Guyliner · 12/04/2019 14:19

If the argument was just as you've described it I would speak to the landlord let them know what happened. They won't want people like that in their house. But DO NOT go over there. DO not engage. Do not try to get "revenge".

rachelfrost · 12/04/2019 14:20

It’s not normal to hear prolonged aggressive shouting. Your neighbours did you and you daughter a kindness.

Longdistance · 12/04/2019 14:21

If anything op you should be ashamed of yourselves.
Arguing for 10 minutes with your dd there, enough for your neighbours to call the police.
Don’t escalate anything with your neighbours, they did your dd a favour, poor child Sad

Palominoo · 12/04/2019 14:21

Personally I don’t want to hear the fish wife next door berating her husband so I would also call the police on you if you were bickering loud enough for me to hear.

lifebegins50 · 12/04/2019 14:22

Op, you were arguing and then when you saw the police you started crying? Is that right?

I think your daughter has a right to not listen to her parents arguing so loudly the neighbours called the police. SS won't take action unless there is cause.

Teaandtoastie · 12/04/2019 14:23

nothing out of the usual - it is NOT usual to shout at your partner for 10 minutes, loud enough for your neighbours to hear. How old is your DD? It must have been terrifying for her.

Pengrin · 12/04/2019 14:24

There’s no way it was only 10 mins. How could the neighbour call the police and them get there in that time? Unless neighbour did it in the first second of you arguing Hmm

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 12/04/2019 14:24

Nothing out of the usual. The neighbours have probably finally had enough of you.

Sadiesnakes · 12/04/2019 14:26

Oh for the love of god🙄 Some of the mentality on here is ridiculous.
Everyone is entitled to argue with their oh, it happens, often. It doesn't mean dv, abuse etc, it's just called marriage. Op has stated she's recently complained about the amount of dog shit in her neighbors garden, so they are clearly being petty and trying to get back at her.
Get overs yourselves, ffs.

EBearhug · 12/04/2019 14:26

The OP has stated plainly it wasn't an violent argument I don't know why posters are brining DV into it.

They might not be able to hear the actual words, they might have assumed it was about to escalate into physical violence. Unless the neighbour in question comes on to post their side of things, we just can't know what their thinking was, but there are probably enough people around who have witnessed domestic violence at first or second hand that quite a few people will err on the side of caution - and on balance, I think that's a better way than more people turning a blind eye, even if it does mean sometimes the police are called unnecessarily.

(Ah, how I'd love to have the neighbours post on some threads! )

Rachie1973 · 12/04/2019 14:26

You’re a charmer OP. Just by the tone of your responses you come across as ‘loud’.

IvanaPee · 12/04/2019 14:27

Yeah, that is out of the usual. Hmm

Dh and I have never argued loudly enough for the police to be called.

Ten minutes of what I assume is shouting is really long and really bad.

And your child was there ffs!

ScottChegg · 12/04/2019 14:27

Has this ever happened before? I wonder if you are my ex neighbour!!

We called the police when they were having an "argument" because;

  1. She was shouting, and screaming like she was being murdered,
  2. We could bear lots of crashes, and things being smashed,
  3. We knew there was a little kid in the house.

Proving the old adage that no good deed goes unpunished, she knew for sure that it was us because she saw the police come straight to our door after leaving hers and she came round afterwards and had a go. She said that it was coming to something if you couldn't have a row in private. Hmm Private?! I expect they could hear her at the end of the street!

sparklytwinklyfairylights · 12/04/2019 14:28

*If I want to argue in my own house I will
*
Well that's your choice but don't complain when you have the police and social services knocking on your door.

TheQueef · 12/04/2019 14:28

How clever of the neighbours to know that you would eventually give them a row so they can exact revenge for the dog shit complaint.
Way to keep your powder dry eh?

Mrskeats · 12/04/2019 14:29

What did you think would happen when you reported them to your friend?
You sound ridiculous.

Redglitter · 12/04/2019 14:30

Everyone is entitled to argue with their oh, it happens, often. It doesn't mean dv, abuse etc, it's just called marriage

Absolutely BUT not everyone argues so loudly and for so long neighbours can hear them. And in this case it didn't involve DV but in many cases it does.

CostanzaG · 12/04/2019 14:30

Get overs yourselves, ffs.

Try having some empathy sadie
Lots of have us have experience of DV either directly or indirectly. Calling the police can save lives.

Plus it is not acceptable to have a prolonged argument in front of a child.

Sadiesnakes · 12/04/2019 14:32

@CostanzaG are you making the assumption I have had no experience with dv? And why?

KaliforniaDreamz · 12/04/2019 14:33

Agree with Guyliner - bit of leap to assume )P is in domestic crisis every night of the week.
Have none of you ever argued??!!

And as for the dog poo - it is grim lving next door to that, everytime the wind blows the stench etc i have experienced this. disgusting.

Sadiesnakes · 12/04/2019 14:33

She's stated 10 mins and not a serious argument. Here's a thought? Let's believe her?

You shouldn't of bothered op. Hand wringers out in force today...

SparklySneakers · 12/04/2019 14:34

The police here won't do anything about noise disturbance. That's a matter for the council apparently. However, if they e received a call that sounds like someone is experiencing domestic abuse then they'll be there with bells on.
I'd be grateful they cared enough to check on you. Must have sounded awful for them to decide it warranted coming out and also to pass on to SS.
Are you ok in your relationship? Is this a regular thing?

Contraceptionismyfriend · 12/04/2019 14:35

So you're first response to this was to go and kickoff to the neighbour...right.

No you can't argue in your house long enough that your neighbours can hear, become concerned, call the police and the police turn up.

Personally SS sounds like a great idea. They can offer you both support in how to better communicate

Nofunkingworriesmate · 12/04/2019 14:37

Seek revenge??? I hope that was a joke???

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