Neighbours rang the police on me and OH?

[dyingforaholiday]

Me and OH we're arguing this morning nothing out of the usual probs 10 minutes OH looked out the window and goes the bloody police are here. I thought something had happened to my brother as he is a drug user so I was crying. Then they said that they've had a noise complaint.

I'm so angry I feel like going round there! They have only done this as I spoke to there landlord (my friend) about all the dog poo in the garden.

Do I go round there or seek some kind of revenge I'm so angry 😡

I absolutely don't think the op should go round kicking off but I also don't think many people would take kindly to this if it were them having a row with their dp....which we all do

I don't think we all do argue with our partners loud enough for other people to hear. If you do, you risk that they will make a noise complaint and the police will attend.

You can be annoyed that the police and SS are now involved and plan revenge on your neighbour, or you can accept that you were being too loud and find a way to resolve marital issues without hollering at each other, which will be scary for most children.

I think a lot of people on this thread have never lived in a flat with thin walls. A ten minute argument with a child in the house is perfectly normal and nothing to write home about.

Unfortunately OP there isn't anything you can do apart from kill em with kindness.

I have shouty neighbours. I've called the police before as while you can hear shouting, you're not sure whether it's a 'You're the carcass' row, or 'I'm going to fucking kill you, you whore' row.

Ok so you regularly argue, so they regularly have to have whatever their doing interrupted by your shouting? Long enough to think it might stop.. think it might not stop.. worry about what might happen next.. confirms with each other about ringing the police.. ring the police.. wait for police to get there..

You argued far too long. How annoying that you think people should have to listen to your business from a different house.

I think a lot of people on this thread have never lived in a flat with thin walls

Probably not. Or a semi or terraced house. It's usual on threads about noisy neighbours for there to be at least one comment along the lines of 'this is why I bought a detached house' and suggesting that the OP does the same.

Our neighbours argue a lot and our walls are thin. On several occasions it has seemed to be getting out of hand and I've seriously considered calling the police. If I thought either of them was in danger, I would although if one of them was dead and one of them was in prison it would be a lot quieter.

Not much of a life for either you and Oh or, more importantly, for your child.

Grow up. Nothing is solved by shouting and swearing in an abusive manner. Try learning to talk and to discuss before you are another divorce statistic.

Who calls the police on neighbours arguing if I want to argue in my own house I will.

So glad you're not my neighbour. You sound like a bloody nightmare.

I think a lot of people on this thread have never lived in a flat with thin walls. A ten minute argument with a child in the house is perfectly normal*

Not normal in my world. My dc have seen dh and I disagree but never yell at each other. Never heard my current neighbours row either. I did in my old house - same family and fairly regularly. They were both alcoholics and police came a couple of times for DV on both sides.

Who calls the police on neighbours arguing if I want to argue in my own house I will.

I've considered doing in many times when the woman next door is screaming at her (teenaged) kids like a maniac for hours on end.

You can make as much noise as you like as long as it stays in your house. If your arguing is so loud and so prolonged that it's disturbing other people in their own houses they have every right to complain. Why don't you try talking like a normal human being instead?

If you're arguing loud enough for your neighbours to hear THEN YOU ARE TOO LOUD.

I'm in a semidetached house - lovely neighbours - I can hear him sneeze in the rooms that are adjacent to our house - so it's no real surprise when they went through a patch where they argued a lot we often heard it and the door slamming.

Last semidetached house we’d hear the TV and snoring of the guest who stopped over – that used to do our heads in.

IL and parents live in terraced house -you can hear lights being switched doors being opened– sockets being used raised voices – I know at IL I’ve more than once given up on an afternoon nap when kids were young as young lad next door who bedroom was adjacent to guest back room was entertaining his girlfriend.

It's not normal to ring the police so either this sounded really bad and the OP is minimising, or the neighbours are being petty and getting back at them.

I've no idea which and really can't see how anyone one here but the OP will actually know which is more likely.

@bigKiteFlying Your final paragraph is my entire point. Nobody other than the op can know the circumstances but ringing the police over a standard row is excessive and intrusive imo

I’ve previously lived in a flat and was extra mindful of making any noise or being a nuisance to neighbours. That’s how civilised people behave.

I think a lot of people on this thread have never lived in a flat with thin walls. A ten-minute argument with a child in the house is perfectly normal and nothing to write home about.

I grew up in terraced housing and have lived in flats for most of my adult life so far. Ten minutes of shouting is too much, ten minutes in a place where other people can hear you is definitely too much. You learn to do things at a more acceptable level because other people can hear you - no loud music, no hoovering at 11pm, no putting the washing machine on overnight if the guy downstairs can hear it. Arguing is no different.

The angrier I am, the more likely I am to be quiet, I don't want my neighbours knowing my business. Mind you, DP and I manage to disagree and both get our opinions across in less than 10 minutes usually.

One morning my neighbiur sent me a text message telling me she HAD washed her face and brushed her teeth. So i get travelling noise.

For the police to get there during the argument it must have been longer than ten minutes. They dont exactly rush out to noise complaints.

Your attitude is pretty poor about it all.

Finally, my children’s school has recently sent out a letter informing us of new safeguarding practice. If the police are called out to a DV incident, school will be informed immediately.

I think if they heard you then yes YABU. I think it went on longer than 10 minutes and was louder than you say OP. You should apologise if anything to the neighbours but you won't.

My DBro and one of his first SO's used to argue so badly they both hit each other, they smoked weed at the time too. They told me they had neighbours upstairs from them who also were violent towards each other. No one ever called police AFAIK they may have done, not sure if they'd tell me. Now DBro is married a second time apparently they rarely have rows and I'm sure they don't.

I do recall one time someone they knew it was discovered he'd been keeping his GF (loathe to call her SO) chained up or tied up in her kitchen - apparently they didn't have rows as such but he tied her up....

In a sense the above scenario is worse than arguing.

Having watched 'Murdered by my Boyfriend' and having read of other violent crimes against men and women I know only too well how matters can escalate.

”One morning my neighbiur sent me a text message telling me she HAD washed her face and brushed her teeth.”

@C0untDucu1a!

Another that doesn't think it's normal to shout at each other, especially when a child is there.
You can have a disagreement without resorting to shouting so loud that your neighbours hear you.
The fact that you've said it's nothing out of the ordinary suggests this is a regular occurrence. Your neighbours are probably sick of it.

A ten-minute argument with a child in the house is perfectly normal
10 minutes of yelling and shouting in front of your kids, and as the OP says, it's usual? Nobody would call the police if you were just discussing and exchanging opinions.

Do I go round there or seek some kind of revenge I'm so angry 😡

Do both, and put it on Facebook. That usually cools situations like these down.

Urgh. Poor child growing up in that. Police also now notify the HT in these cases.

Perhaps you could try to argue without yelling? Maybe you don't realise how loud you are.

Grow the fuck up OP, your causing distress to your neighbours so much so The Police had to intervene, and now your angry wanting revenge?

I am not sure I agree that you have the right o fight with DP in your own house whenever you want.
That is a very selfish view
You have a child in the house who does not need to hear these fights.
You have a neighbour who is entitled to live in their house without overhearing your arguments.
You could be triggering bad memories for one of your neighbours. People walking by likely could have heard he argument, and they might have had children, elderly persons or disabled persons with them
Police had to come out and deal with a situation of your making. It must have been really bad for them to arrive in 10 minutes. This might have been because the call handler could hear your argument while on the phone call with your neighbour.
Are you sure it was your neighbour who called the police?

Just an aside- why does someone need to stop working if they are blind in one eye? You said that's why you were arguing.,