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Neighbours rang the police on me and OH?

159 replies

dyingforaholiday · 12/04/2019 13:29

Me and OH we're arguing this morning nothing out of the usual probs 10 minutes OH looked out the window and goes the bloody police are here. I thought something had happened to my brother as he is a drug user so I was crying. Then they said that they've had a noise complaint.

I'm so angry I feel like going round there! They have only done this as I spoke to there landlord (my friend) about all the dog poo in the garden.

Do I go round there or seek some kind of revenge I'm so angry 😡

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JPK1510 · 12/04/2019 15:12

I’m pleased they called the police on you if your daughter was in the house.

alittlesnow · 12/04/2019 15:17

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

It all sounds a bit 'Jeremy Kyle' to be honest....... Wink

I was thinking exactly the same thing.

Nousernameforme · 12/04/2019 15:17

10 minutes of shouting at each other is quite a long time really.

On the times either myself or dh have shouted its one shouts the other shouts then we go off and have a bit of a sulk until we calm down and then someone apologises.

Our neighbours do go at it sometimes but only for a minute or so until the door slams and one of them leaves. 10 minutes of raised voices would probably have me phoning the police.

CustardySergeant · 12/04/2019 15:18

Regarding your husband giving up work because he is blind in one eye, why would that be necessary? There are very few jobs in which it would make any difference as long as he has decent vision in the other eye. I'm blind in one eye and it has never stopped me being able to do anything at all - well, apart from those 'magic eye' illusions that were all the rage several decades ago, which rely on you being able to see out of both eyes.

Springwalk · 12/04/2019 15:19

Please be glad you have neighbours that care enough to call the police if they are worried about you, plenty do not.

conflicted1234 · 12/04/2019 15:20

Lots of judgement here. Pretty sure the post calling the op wasn't necessary 🤔

For what it's worth I would be annoyed to and think other posters should consider how they'd feel in this situation. I know there are a lot of perfect people on MN but surely we all have the occasional shouty row with our partners? Imagine having the police called on you for that.

Having said that I'm sure their intentions were good and if it were me I wouldn't go round shouting the odds but I would calmly reassure them that there's nothing to worry about and while you appreciate their concern they didn't need to call the police. Maybe try and make light of it and apologise for disturbing them. Hope you get it sorted op

conflicted1234 · 12/04/2019 15:21

Calling the op a dick* 🤦🏻‍♀️

Acis · 12/04/2019 15:24

So within the course of 10 minutes you started arguing, the neighbours had time to get concerned about it and call the police, and the police turned up.

Given that the police wouldn't have regarded this as a priority unless there was very good reason to believe that one of you was assauting the other, I'm guessing it was a lot more than 10 minutes.

IHateUncleJamie · 12/04/2019 15:24

The Police are stretched to the max. No way would they have sent a unit round unless the shouting went on for longer and was much louder than you think. They don’t have the manpower to visit everyone who has a “normal” argument.

I live in a semi and oddly enough have never had the Police turn up at my door, even when DH and I have had a disagreement.

As for this: Do I go round there or seek some kind of revenge I'm so angry

Of course not. I’d apologise to them for all the shouting and assure them that everyone is fine.

KrispyKremes · 12/04/2019 15:25

Who else lives in the house? Your brother too. Who else?

And you're worried he's getting arrested on drug offences?

This isn't a "normal" household. People don't usually argue loud enough for neighbours to call the police. That's not normal behaviour. Please get your kids out of that situation. Drugs and arguing and who knows what else.

RomanyQueen1 · 12/04/2019 15:26

You said you hear everything they do, well obviously they hear you too.
Why is arguing nothing out of the ordinary when you have a child.
I'm glad the Police have passed it on to ss, it might make the pair of you grow up a bit.
Poor child doesn't need to hear her parents arguing often.

fecketyfeck21 · 12/04/2019 15:27

conflicted i don't think many people would think it's all okay and one of them will be round to apologise after the incident. when dc are involved it's a knee jerk reaction to thing the worst, you don't want to get involved by going round to check so you call the police.
years ago i called the police as two young children were in the house and the neighbour hit a police officer and screamed he was going to 'fucking kill her and the kids' at the top of his lungs as he was taken away - a regular psycho. i've thankfully since moved.

Flaxmeadow · 12/04/2019 15:31

Neighbours who have dog shit all over their garden, smoke weed that gets into a childs room and can call the police just like snapping their fingers?
They sound like the opposite of good neighbours to me

bourbonbiccy · 12/04/2019 15:31

nothing out of the usual suggests this happens quite often. It is not ok to be shouting loud enough for your Neighbours to hear when you have a child in the house.
I'm glad they called the police and then you came on here, it may make you realise that arguing and shouting at each other should not be the usual.

alittlesnow · 12/04/2019 15:33

As I - and many others have said @conflicted1234, people don't generally call the police on a couple having an argument because they've got nothing better to do.

As I said, it must have been quite severe, and people must have been concerned for the child in the house (as well as the woman - the OP!)

Either that, or (as I said earlier,) the OP and her DH are noisy, anti-social, shouty yobs, and the neighbours are pissed off with them. Either scenario is very likely, given the way she has been acting on this thread.

You conflicted1234 AND the OP seem to be minimising this. Very poor form.

conflicted1234 · 12/04/2019 15:37

I'm absolutely not minimising domestic abuse in any way shape or form. The problem is that there are far too many assumptions on this site. You are assuming that the row was so bad that the neighbours deemed it necessary to call the police. What if they are just over zealous busy bodies? That could be a possibility too.

My point is that everyone has rows occasionally and if it was innocent then i would be really put out at the police being called especially with the ss implications too. I absolutely don't think the op should go round kicking off but I also don't think many people would take kindly to this if it were them having a row with their dp....which we all do 🤷🏻‍♀️

alittlesnow · 12/04/2019 15:37

@Flaxmeadow

Neighbours who have dog shit all over their garden, smoke weed that gets into a childs room and can call the police just like snapping their fingers? They sound like the opposite of good neighbours to me.

Funny how the OP didn't mention all this til people started to give answers she didn't like. Wink

BusterGonad · 12/04/2019 15:37

Letsgohooray and people say that MN is middle class.....😂*
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I've got to be honest you and your neighbours sound totally classless.

alittlesnow · 12/04/2019 15:39

@conflicted1234

The way the OP has been speaking on this thread (saying she wants to go get revenge on her neighbour,) and her whole attitude on here, makes it patently clear that the argument was much worse than she is making out, and that the neighbours were right to call the police.

downcasteyes · 12/04/2019 15:40

If you're arguing loud enough for your neighbours to hear THEN YOU ARE TOO LOUD.

Put a sock in it and learn to communicate like adults.

alittlesnow · 12/04/2019 15:41

Well said @downcatseyes

alittlesnow · 12/04/2019 15:41

I mean @downcasteyes

Shortandsweet96 · 12/04/2019 15:44

Fuck me. Argue quieter then you absolute plum.

Yabbers · 12/04/2019 15:46

surely we all have the occasional shouty row with our partners?

OP says it wasn’t anything unusual.

I’m fairly sure it wasn’t because of one shouty row. It is more likely because it was yet another shouty row.

NameChangeSameRage · 12/04/2019 15:46

Who calls the police on neighbours arguing if I want to argue in my own house I will.

I suspect that the argument was louder and went on longer than you said.

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