Do you have your own side of the bed?

[RomanticFatigue]

It seems people are shocked that couples change sides of the bed. Do you? I have my side of the bed in my home, but sleep on the opposite side at DPs. I'd never thought of it before reading this article!

I assumed everyone had a 'side'

You're talking about different beds (in different houses) but that man and his wife swap randomly. That's all kinds of wrong.

Surely no one actually does that? (sits and waits for MN to blow my mind on yet another.topic...)

I sleep nearer the window, dh nearer the door. Mainly because he gets up to wee in the night and I get too hot so have the window open - very practical and left/right are irrelevant!

I have my side. DH has his.

I don't think I'd be able to sleep on the wrong side

No swapping sides here.
I have my two thirds of the mattress.
He has his third.

We were watching TV the other night and my DH got very annoyed because the couple were in bed 'the wrong way round' (ie opposite to the way we sleep). We will occasionally swap sides in a hotel because sometimes I make him sleep closest to the door so he will get murdered before me but generally we're consistent. We'd never swap sides at home - all my crap is on my side of the bed!

We do, and I hate it. So I’m always on the same side even when we move house and I have a longer walk than him every single time.
Actually I’m going to tell him we need to swap.

We stick to the same sides wherever we are, regardless of doors, windows or whatever.

I’m pondering this a bit more - I do sometime sleep on dh’s side but only when he’s away and I want a cold bit of bed and I take my pillow with me

After years as a sex writer I didn’t think I could be shocked by what people get up to in bed. I was wrong.

I'd honestly never thought about it before. Now I feel a bit strange that I "swap sides" at DPs. When I've moved house before I always sleep on the side that's nearest the door. At DPs I'm on the other side. I may never sleep there again.

When I was younger (ALOT younger) I always thought men and woman have the same sides I.e all men sleep on the left and all women sleep on the right.

As I got older I realised that it wasn't part of marriage vows (not to mention that it's not only married couples who share a bed, nor is it just one man and one woman).

We sleep on whichever side sometimes left sometimes right. Don't really feel it makes much difference

Im going to go to bed now, before Dh, and get on dh’s side and freak him out. Mwah ha ha ha

I read that its a cave man thing that the man sleeps nearest the door for protection. DH sleeps nearest the door and our sides of the bed (and own pillows) arecompletely non negotiable...

C0untDuku1a report back!

We sleep on whichever side sometimes left sometimes right. Don't really feel it makes much difference

In your own home?

@Cushellekoala subconsciously we have done that. I think that you are dead right.

Oh god yes! My husband has been in hospital for 5 weeks and I've still not ventured over to his side!

I have my side, irrespective of who else gets into it. If I slept on the ‘wrong’ side, I’d probably fall out 🤣

If I travel with my friend and share a room I always have to sleep nearest the door, but that’s ok because we have separate beds so I won’t fall out. Clearly she thinks it’s best I get murdered first 🤣

I always sleep on the right, when we first starting dating the left side of my bed was pushed to the wall and I was the one needing the loo in the night so I just slept on the right for an easy exit - 10yrs later it's just kinda stuck

Defo need an update c0unt..

QueenAnne I think you sound really selfish. Don't you have a cat that needs at least of half of DH's third? :)

I have thought about testing out DH's side of the bed (right side of the bed, wherever we may be) - what if it is actually much comfier on the right? I'm going to try it one of these nights. I'm heavy. Once asleep he won't be able to move me.

I have my side, irrespective of who else gets into it. If I slept on the ‘wrong’ side, I’d probably fall out 🤣

Oh god I'd forgotten about that! When exH had an injury years ago we had to swap sides as he was having trouble moving, and I fell out of the bed! I felt about 5 years old

I'm a bit of a commitment phobe and need to sleep near the door - not sure if that's a coincidence or if I literally need a clear escape route even in my own home! Weirdly though I'm also a bit clingy (only on my own terms) and when DP gets out of bed to go to work I immediately roll into his space. He's not here tonight and I'm edging onto his side as I think it makes me feel closer to him or something.

Yes, I'm a nightmare partner but I insist it says more about him (that he puts up with my oddness) than it does about me

@Cushellekoala, I think you are on to something. At home, I sleep alone, and away from the door. At DP's house, I do likewise (so he is next to the door). I will put this caveman theory to him tomorrow.