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Would you leave a nearly 15 yr old overnight?

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surlycurly · 15/02/2019 07:09

DD is a very mature 14 (15 in April). She is supposed to go to her dad's this weekend and he's told her not to come as she doesn't get on with her new step mum. It's a difficult one as DD can be a pita but I don't think she's at fault in this one. However, I have plans that may involve staying out overnight. She's adamant she could stay here alone and not tell anyone (I believe her) but obviously I'd have rather that she had been older. I just don't see how I can force her to go to her dad's but selfishly I don't want to have to cancel my plans yet again because of my ex. WWYD?

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Seaseasea · 15/02/2019 07:10

If she’s a mature 14 year old and happy to stay alone then I would let her.

SoupDragon · 15/02/2019 07:14

I wouldn't. I would not be able to relax at all and would be worrying.

Yogagirl123 · 15/02/2019 07:15

No way.

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Auntiepatricia · 15/02/2019 07:16

No

ThinkOfAWittyNameLater · 15/02/2019 07:16

I could have done this at 14. My older brother could not.

You know your child. If you think she will be okay with it, and if you think YOU will be okay with it, then go ahead.

FriedaTheBreeder · 15/02/2019 07:16

Can she have a friend for a sleepover? A sensible friend? I’d be fine with that as long as she is happy, she’s mature for her age and you live in an area with close by neighbours.

SoupDragon · 15/02/2019 07:17

I had to leave my nearly 18 & 13 year olds at home overnight not long ago and even that was a worry.

Justanotheruser01 · 15/02/2019 07:17

Possibly on the basis of her being a mature 14 - do you have a reliable friend or family member she could contact if she got worried and would pick her up or go stopwith her?

Dowser · 15/02/2019 07:18

No. I wouldn’t.

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 15/02/2019 07:20

Absolutely I would, no hesitation

certainlymerry · 15/02/2019 07:21

No way. Can she not stay with a friend or ask someone you trust to stay with her? It’s asking for trouble.

thefirst48 · 15/02/2019 07:22

Not at 14, doesn't matter how mature she is anything could happen. I would wait until she is 16 before leaving alone overnight.

rookiemere · 15/02/2019 07:23

Sorry but no 14 is too young. Does she have a friend she can stay with ?

pilates · 15/02/2019 07:25

No, I wouldn’t be able to relax/enjoy myself. Can she not go to a friend for a sleepover?

AuntieStella · 15/02/2019 07:25

I think they are old enough to cope on a practical level, and if it was emergency/unforeseen I wouldn't worry about them. But I still think it's rather young for a planned absence.

I'd be trying to arrange a sleepover for her.

MrsBertBibby · 15/02/2019 07:26

Not a chance. If something went wrong, how would you feel?

Bluelonerose · 15/02/2019 07:27

My 15 year old stayed by himself for 2 nights when I went away.
I did tell next door so if there was an issue he could go knock but he was fine and even stole my bed

AlexaShutUp · 15/02/2019 07:28

No. My dd is a year younger than yours but also very mature for her age. I absolutely can't imagine leaving her overnight only a year from now. I think it's too young, sorry.

Could she stay over with a friend?

happinessischocolate · 15/02/2019 07:34

I let my DD at that age, she had a friend sleepover who I knew was responsible too, I was slagged off by some friends for doing it as they didn't approve because they mollycoddle their kids but she and her friend were fine.

I could have got home if necessary, and we knew the neighbours well.

Youmadorwhat · 15/02/2019 07:40

No

BitOutOfPractice · 15/02/2019 07:44

No I wouldn't sorry. I don't leave my very mature 15 (nearly 16) alone overnight unless her older sister is here. I know half of mn will throw their hands up in horror at that.

TheInvestigator · 15/02/2019 07:45

My parents went to Austra for a week when I was 15. She will be fine.

Hotpinkangel19 · 15/02/2019 07:45

I wouldn't, 14 is too young to stay alone overnight imo

TheInvestigator · 15/02/2019 07:45

*Austria

PostNotInHaste · 15/02/2019 07:48

No I wouldn’t, don’t leave very mature 15 year old unless his older sister has come home .

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