Being a single mum is proper graft isn't it - come on in single mums

[Janeyscleavage]

And no you can't join if you 'feel like a single mum because your husband works long hours'

I've got the lice check to deal with. I hate it as much as the dds, you would think I'm committing the worst kind of torture, the amount of screaming.

it's made so much worse when I take them to a hair dressers and I have to deal with some snarky hair stylist telling me they won't do their hair because of eggs. Even though I spent the last two weekends waging chemical warfare on their scalps, and there is nothing living in their hair.
For the single dad of dds hair stylists are evil personified

I was an LP to my first 2 dcs for 3 or 4 years. I'm technically not a single parent anymore as have a new partner and 9 mth old. I was much happier being a single parent than being together with someone and being miserable. My ex never helped with the childcare or appreciated me so it was actually easier because I didn't have to answer to him and do all his cooking, cleaning and washing. It taught me to be independent, strong and give things a go like DIY where I wouldn't have before. Now I have a partner who is lovely and does do things around the house and garden but I don't make a massive deal about him helping with childcare and housework like some people do, I just get on with it because I got so used to doing everything by myself! He says I should ask him to do more! It is tiring being an LP but it does have benefits.

Just to support your thread. When I was a lone parent it was tough at times, but I coped. Got in with it and tried not to think too much about what I wasn't doing. I am not a lone parent now, and the biggest joy I get from that is that my DH just takes care of all the shit I hated before. Not the romance, not the company... It us someone else doing what I found soul destroying before... MOT, bins, shopping about utility providers, taking care of DC whilst I have a smear or see the dentist.

Yes I get it. It is a bloody graft.

I find the nit combing quite therapeutic and popping the eggs/bugs.

Cheap tea tree conditioner (Alberto thingy one the best), kitchen roll, a nutty-gritty and Saturday night telly.

Good god. Saturday nights used to be spent drinking tequila in Soho. 😭

it's sfter 12:39an and my chronic alcoholic ex has just started texting and ringing dd1 who is 13. Dd1 has blocked her, but the court order says no drinking for 24hrs prior ti or during contact. I'm fuming right now

Sorry to hear that @disneyspendingmoney 😬 😡

Hello. LP to 2 fab boys. Proud that I can support them both, but goodness me it's tough and I feel resentful (this isn't what I wanted!). Don't get me wrong, it's a million times better than with twat ex but it's the pressure....and the lists...

@O4FS @wendz86 @rightreckoner @disneyspendingmoney
Thanks for your feedback on my plight 🙂 you are all right of course.

Runbikeswim thanks for that I hope your situation resolves itself to your satisfaction as well.

The lack of a single lie in. I'm not talking lounging in bed till 10am, no, just not getting up at 6am and being on duty.

DS is nearly 10. He is not allowed device time until 8am. I've told him NOT to wake me with lights on and door noise. He struggles. We have a small house and he's not deliberately waking me but I just hear him pottering. He's at the age where he doesn't really play imaginative toys so much, but is too yo

...too young to do some of the things he'd like unsupervised (baking, something from his science book).

I don't sleep well and just want one day now and again where I can sleep a bit longer.

@disneyspendingmoney sorry to hear you're having such a hard time.

@TheOneAnd I know what you mean and I find when they don't wake up I'm wide awake waiting for them too. This morning I've been up since 5 and they are all out of it.

TheOneAnd - I hear you.

Sitting in Starbucks with the paper and a coffee.
My 8 year old reading
My 5 year old drawing

Feeling like I’m so blessed to be the single mum of these two. We are a little team.

Was so grateful to have my parents staying this weekend, partly as I'm getting the jitters about putting my son into nursery tomorrow, but he has a bit of a cold and isn't sleeping so great, was lovely to get an hours lie in yesterday after he was awake eleventy million times in the night!

Today my exes mum came out to the shops with us. I was dreading it but it wasn't too bad. Plus I got to have a coffee alone while they had a walk around.

Single Mum of a 5 year old DS who has only JUST bloody well gone to sleep. Will settle in and RTFT but hope everyone’s had a decent Sunday. I was super productive today with the housework but every single task I faced I wanted to just shout ‘fuck this!’ And go open a bottle of wine. And then realised that I either tackled the bastard job now or it would be sat waiting for me tomorrow. THAT feeling can be utterly shite x xHugs to all!

My youngest has a really bad cough so am currently resisting the urge to sort the washing and going to try and get an early night as I will no doubt be up for lots of it with the youngest ( need a sobbing quietly emoticon). I knew I should have gone to bed early last night for a decent nights sleep rather than faffing

How everyone has a peaceful Sunday and good start to the week ( here it comes again ...)

Today’s been a bit of a fucker here as my car broke down just before we were due to meet a friend for lunch. Friend offered to send for us in a taxi, but I needed to get car fixed today so I could get to work tomorrow (she doesn’t work) so I’ve pissed her off, Ds was gutted he didn’t see his friends, I’ve spent a fortune on the car so am now broke..... and I’ve caught my nephews bug and feel like death warmed up.

I’m actually looking forward to tomorrow as that’s one step closer to next weekend when I can hopefully catch my breath a little. I’m just so bloody tired!

Sorry for the mega whinge. I hope you have all had better weekends

@Catscratchclub hope you feel better soon and next week is better.

As for me at 8pm mg dd decided to announced that she had left half her uniform in her bag and that it was my fault it wasn't washed. She neglected to notice the fact she had somehow found three bags of washing and dumped them next to the machine on Saturday so I hadn't noticed.

Do all of you get weekends to yourself now and again? Only asking as that sounds like a dream. I know I would miss them like mad but haven't had a full weekend or even a night to myself for over a year and haven't had a day off for about 4 months. I would say work was my break but I work with children so no break there either.

I don't get weekends to myself.
I do sometimes ask someone to take him for a couple of hours so I can go for a run. I only ask those who know just how important that time is for me.

Last weekend I paid my usual sitter to have him at his house for the afternoon so I could study. Sitters family are very good friends of mine and are happy to be able to help.

@Catscratchclub that stinks, and shame on your friend for not understanding.

We don't have that flexibility though, do we.

I've had an old friend try and call me for a proper chat for weeks! After I never picked up when he called at 6.30pm, we finally found a weekend time where I thought I'd be able to speak for 30 mins w/o interruption. Didn't get that in the end cos a mate knocked for DS2 and I needed to see to that. I had told him that unless DS is in bed I cannot guarantee a free 30 mins. He gets it now!

Single mum to 3 boys here. I feel like I'm drowning half the time and have taken on too much, with full time work and a masters as well. I know it will all pay off in the long run as I'll be able to give them more financial stability, but I am struggling to find the time to do anything well. I feel like I'm just about managing to be competent as a parent, student and employee.

I can completely relate to the feeling of wishing my children's lives away. I feel so guilty for counting down the hours until they go to bed so that i can get on with the housework etc.

I hope everyone has a good day.

How is it Monday already? 😱

I had a lovely day yesterday - I finished cleaning the house properly (first time in aaaaages), had an afternoon nap (!) and binge-watched the new series of Frankie & Grace. So a lovely day! none of that would've been possible with a moany dick of a man around

Just waiting for my ex to drop the kids off and then we're going for a formal visit to what will hopefully be their new school.