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My wife is dying

620 replies

SanJunipero · 13/01/2019 01:26

My beautiful, wonderful wife is only 33 and I'm sitting next to her bed in the hospice tonight watching her die. She's had cancer for a long time and I knew this was coming, but it's so very hard to watch.

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slapmyarseandcallmemary · 15/01/2019 05:46
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Shoxfordian · 15/01/2019 05:53

Sending you love Flowers

BBInGinDrinking · 15/01/2019 06:08

You can go a long way on sweet tea in my experience, SJ, and thank goodness for that, eh? If you can manage a slice of toast, some soup or something, that will help. It's not surprising you can't eat. Don't worry about it, and don't force yourself at the moment.

I'm smiling, (though there might be something in my eye too), imagining you singing Dancing Queen badly for your DW to make her smile. Did she open her eyes at this point? Could she have actually been rolling her eyes in recognition of her DW's bad singing, while at the same time smiling inside? Even in these darkest of days, there is warmth and humour where there is love.

It will be hard to see it, impossible to imagine it now, but one day the sun will shine for you again, the food will taste good, and you'll be singing Dancing Queen badly, (but with feeling), dancing around the kitchen with your son. It seems that you share such a positive sort of love with your wife, and that sort of love, that sort of person, doesn't ever leave you, won't ever really leave you and your son.

I'm going to make a cup of sweet tea, SJ, and raise it to you all.

hendricksy · 15/01/2019 06:59

Still Thinking of you , I'm another one has had you and your wife on my mind since you posted . ThanksThanks

itssquidstella · 15/01/2019 07:05

We're all still here with you,@SanJunipero. Hope you've managed to get some sleep.

yawning801 · 15/01/2019 07:13

Still thinking of you, you haven't left my thoughts

Hmm12121 · 15/01/2019 07:17

Another here thinking of you. What an amazing wife your wife has 💕

Palestperson · 15/01/2019 07:24

Nothing I can say will help but I just wanted you to know that I’m also here and have been thinking of you, your lovely wife and your son since you first posted this thread. I hope today is peaceful for her. x

Geib8314 · 15/01/2019 08:05

Another hand here, I hope for peace for you both.

Mulberry72 · 15/01/2019 08:12

Sending love, light & stength to you all SJ.

My thoughts are with you all xxxx

sandgrown · 15/01/2019 08:26

Have just caught up with this thread . I sat with my mum when she was dying and the nights were so long and lonely. My thoughts are with you. Your wife will live on in your son and in time you will go forward and have a lovely life in her honour.

Gramgram · 15/01/2019 08:36

Sending you and your DW love and Flowers.

Take care of yourself.

HeronLanyon · 15/01/2019 08:43

Sending love and a hug for you and your boy. I am so sorry. You sound so lovely and your love for each other will stay with you forever. Flowers

charteredmummy · 15/01/2019 08:59

Sending you and your DW love and strength x

MrsTommyBanks · 15/01/2019 09:15

I've been thinking of you, your wife and son so much. Sending love and strength.

Hollywhiskey · 15/01/2019 09:21

I'm so sorry. You are stronger than you know xxx

MulticolourMophead · 15/01/2019 09:37

Another handhold here, SanJunipero, you're all still in my thoughts. She'll know you're there. And sweet tea isn't that bad.

justilou1 · 15/01/2019 12:17

I can't believe I'm going to bed on you again while you're starting another day going through this again... You and your wife are so strong!!! Sending you dreams from Australia again. I will check in as soon as I wake SJ. x

Dragonlight · 15/01/2019 12:20

I'm so very sorry. Much love and strength to you.

minmooch · 15/01/2019 12:24

She will know you are there and can hear you. Both will give her comfort xx

Itwillgeteasieripromise · 15/01/2019 13:15

Huge hand hold and strength from me x x

EvenLess · 15/01/2019 13:40

Thinking of you. Your love for your DW shines out of your posts Flowers

Knittedfairies · 15/01/2019 13:58

You and your family are in my thoughts SanJunipero. Keep singing 💐

EmmaStone · 15/01/2019 14:06

My thoughts are with you and your family, sending love and best wishes.

NowYouHaveDoneIt · 15/01/2019 14:41

Thinking of you and yr family OP. The way you describe yr relationship sounds magical.
Some people never have that in their lifetime. Sending a virtual hug. I hope you have someone to support you in rl once yr lovely wife has passed. In the meantime we are all here for you and afterwards too.Flowers