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Just been made homeless - Please advise me!

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ArtOfGettingBy · 22/12/2018 22:36

I will try to be as clear with the details as I can without making this too long. I'm also NOT asking for anything other than advice. I've lurked for a long time as my mum used to use MN but I have just joined.

I have a very fractured relationship with my family, emotionally abusive dad, mum who gaslights that the abuse didn't happen and siblings too young to know. Ive just been told that in the morning i need to leave when they go to work and theyre locking the door. They genuinely mean this and I dont know what to do. I did an apprenticeship after school and got a job that I lost due to a long absence for extreme bad mental health this year. So I was working a bar job recently I had to leave as it finished 3am and had to keep paying taxis to get home but it wasn't sustainable on the wage.

I'm 20 and stupidly I have no idea how this works. What do I do to stay somewhere? I have no savings, no friends who live where I Do, no family. I have tried to look online for advice but I don't understand a lot of the information. I'm so scared, Im thinking offices that deal withthis help will be shut for christmas. I don'tknow where i'm staying or what i'm going to eat.

Please help me with what to do if you have any knowledge. I know I should know how to handle this, i'm embarrassed that I don't. I'm not asking for hand outs.
Thank you in advance for the advice and guidance.

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Timeandtune · 22/12/2018 22:38

Where abouts do you live? I will do some research online for you?

springchicken123 · 22/12/2018 22:39

No advice OP but hopefully someone with knowledge will come along and help Thanks

Iactuallydothinkso · 22/12/2018 22:40

You call your local council housing department. They will have an on call homeless persons officer who will help you.
I’m sorry for you having to go through this,

drivemissdaisy · 22/12/2018 22:40

You will need to present yourself as homeless at your local council housing aid and they will try and find you temporary accommodation.

cheesywotnots · 22/12/2018 22:40

When do they say you have to leave, tomorrow?

Singlenotsingle · 22/12/2018 22:41

It's very hard that your DPS have chosen this particular time of year to do this, Art. Don't you have anyone who can let you have use of their sofa while you try to get something sorted out?

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ArtOfGettingBy · 22/12/2018 22:42

My dad is a builder so will be out early trying tofinish jobs before xmas. My mum is a support worker so will likely be gone before 9.
I'm in merseyside.

Thank you everyone

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tinatsarina · 22/12/2018 22:44

If your in NI contact a homeless shelter or salvation army, any church would have an idea of who to turn to and help with advice even if it's short term until you can contact housing to get temporary accommodation.

CurbsideProphet · 22/12/2018 22:45

Go straight to your local council to the housing team and tell them you need to present as homeless due to family breakdown. As you're under 21 they may ask you your parents to provide proof that you have to leave. They will likely ask if you have friends or other family you can stay with in the meantime.

Most councils have accommodation specifically for under 25s, but it will depend where you are in the country.

It would be worth checking if Centrepoint operate in your area; they can arrange temporary accommodation, often with people who have a spare room and are on their books as a certified provider of lodgings.

The council will ask for proof of income, so you should start a claim for Universal Credit online, even though it will take 6 weeks for any payments.

I'm sorry this is happening to you. I hope that has been some help Flowers

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ArtOfGettingBy · 22/12/2018 22:47

Thank you,
Can anyone advise on if they will provide food?

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eatojesy · 22/12/2018 22:47

So sorry you've been put in this situation. I live in Sheffield so different area but I was in a similar situation and had to declare myself homeless earlier this year. Have been living in temporary accommodation provided by the council for 3 months and will hopefully have a council house mid January as I'm at banding B on the list now as I am 7 months pregnant. If you contact your local council and say you are homeless they have to find you somewhere x

HollowTalk · 22/12/2018 22:48

Your mum is a support worker and she's throwing her child out of the house?

What reason would she give?

danadas · 22/12/2018 22:48

Hi Art, if you are in or can get to Wirral, give these a ring who will be able to help and point you in the right direction. www.tomorrowswomen.org.uk/home/how-we-can-help

CurbsideProphet · 22/12/2018 22:49

In Merseyside you're either Sefton or Liverpool. Check online where the housing team are based. As tomorrow is Sunday you will need to call the emergency helpline, as the offices won't be open.

Try to take some ID with you or passport / birth certificate, also take your belongings with you. They likely won't support you to go back to your parents property to collect anything.

Please do tell them that you have a history of mental health problems, as they need to mark you down as vulnerable Flowers

Mrskeats · 22/12/2018 22:49

I’m in Cheshire and my eldest works with a project that helps young people like you.
I will ask her. Also have a look at Shelter.

Timeandtune · 22/12/2018 22:50

“If you have had to leave your home and cannot wait until Housing Options is open, please call Careline on 0151 233 3800 (Freephone 0800 731 6844).”

CurbsideProphet · 22/12/2018 22:50

Food will depend on the type of accommodation available unfortunately. They might be able to provide emergency vouchers.

AnotherEmma · 22/12/2018 22:51

I'm sorry your parents are doing this Flowers

I suggest you contact Shelter first thing in the morning, I think their helpline opens at 8am
england.shelter.org.uk/get_help

As PPs have said you need to apply to your local council for homelessness assistance, and Shelter will be able to advise you on exactly how to do that.

Are you claiming any benefits at the moment - JSA, ESA or Universal Credit? If not that should be next on your to do list after contacting the council and getting sorted with somewhere to go.

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ArtOfGettingBy · 22/12/2018 22:53

Thank you @Timeandtune I will call Careline

No, i'm not currently claiming benefits

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PlaymobilPirate · 22/12/2018 22:53

Will they harm you if you just stay? Physically throw you out? If yes then try to get to friends before the trains stop for Xmas if you can.

EnidButton · 22/12/2018 22:53

Just want to say I'm so sorry this is happening to you. They are awful people and terrible parents. In the long term you'll be better off without them. This must be incredibly frightening and upsetting now though and I'm not surprised you don't know what to do. I hope you can use some of the advice here to make a start on getting help. Sorry I do t have any myself. I know people this has happened to when they were your age and they have wonderful stable happy lives now. Flowers Really horrible thing to do. I'm so sorry.

AnotherEmma · 22/12/2018 22:55

Sorry it's 9am at weekends

MrsTommyBanks · 22/12/2018 22:55

Your council will be able to refer you to a good bank for food Flowers

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ArtOfGettingBy · 22/12/2018 22:56

@EnidButton Thank you so much.

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