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Just been made homeless - Please advise me!

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ArtOfGettingBy · 22/12/2018 22:36

I will try to be as clear with the details as I can without making this too long. I'm also NOT asking for anything other than advice. I've lurked for a long time as my mum used to use MN but I have just joined.

I have a very fractured relationship with my family, emotionally abusive dad, mum who gaslights that the abuse didn't happen and siblings too young to know. Ive just been told that in the morning i need to leave when they go to work and theyre locking the door. They genuinely mean this and I dont know what to do. I did an apprenticeship after school and got a job that I lost due to a long absence for extreme bad mental health this year. So I was working a bar job recently I had to leave as it finished 3am and had to keep paying taxis to get home but it wasn't sustainable on the wage.

I'm 20 and stupidly I have no idea how this works. What do I do to stay somewhere? I have no savings, no friends who live where I Do, no family. I have tried to look online for advice but I don't understand a lot of the information. I'm so scared, Im thinking offices that deal withthis help will be shut for christmas. I don'tknow where i'm staying or what i'm going to eat.

Please help me with what to do if you have any knowledge. I know I should know how to handle this, i'm embarrassed that I don't. I'm not asking for hand outs.
Thank you in advance for the advice and guidance.

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hmmwhatatodo · 23/12/2018 14:48

Well, I imagine the op (assuming all is true and I see no reason not to believe) is trying to frantically sort things out. Good luck to you op.

Pinkyyy · 23/12/2018 14:57

I have to agree with @AnotherEmma, the thread very quickly changed to focus on the lack of money instead of the homelessness.

cheesywotnots · 23/12/2018 15:04

I hope we have helped if this is a genuine call for help. I don't know if its sadder if it's a real situation or one that someone has made up. Homelessness and abuse is a terrible thing for anyone, lying about it seems even worse.

thefinn · 23/12/2018 15:31

Any update op?

DavetheCat2001 · 23/12/2018 15:34

BigApple11 · 23/12/2018 15:46

Howmanysleepstilchristmas · 23/12/2018 16:02

If you’re in Liverpool, google new start. They’re quick at finding rooms and offer support with benefits, employment etc.

Whitechapel for a roof over your head tonight.

Gp first thing for food bank referral.

Please update and let us know what’s happening.

AnotherEmma · 23/12/2018 16:06

I don't think GPs issue food vouchers, I work for Citizens Advice and we issue them - GPs signpost people to us.

justme28 · 23/12/2018 16:15

If you don't feel the thread is genuine, why not leave it?

If you leave it, no harm done, but if you post to say that the OP is basically trying to scam, and it's a genuine ask for help at a very upsetting and trying time, you are doing nothing than causing more hurt.

OP I really hope you're ok

Pinkyyy · 23/12/2018 16:35

justme28 Because if nobody points out that there are concerns then people could (and regularly do) offer money/goods to the OP. This then results in more fake posts, because people think there's money to be made by posting something like this.

justme28 · 23/12/2018 16:45

I understand that, and I completely get that people are trying to protect each other from losing money. But surely people are wise enough to not send money to someone they know nothing about.

Saying that, I understand some people are very kind and would want to help, but surely it would only need one person to state it might be not what it seems, rather than every other comment throwing suspicion.

I'm just concerned that a young person, who confirmed their self, has suffered with mental health issues, has turned to people for advice in one of their lowest moments, and been accused of being dishonest. If that was me in my time of need I'd feel broken.

But maybe I'm too new to the game and have just not got the experience others have.

Pinkyyy · 23/12/2018 16:59

That really is a very positive outlook but sadly people who have been here a while have seen it happen too many times. People offer all sorts to posters out of their own kindness and it means that occasionally posts are made with the sole purpose of exploiting that kindness. It's sad but true unfortunately.

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ArtOfGettingBy · 23/12/2018 22:08

Hi everyone, sorry for not replying but as you can imagine I have not had internet access. (I don't own a phone as not working).

I took the advice from people and contacted one of the organisations, i don't want to say which if that's okay and I now have somewhere temporary to stay.

I do want to thank the people who listened to what I said and gave advice. I mentioned food because that was the other thing I was concerned about but nobody had advised on. As for train fare I only stated I had none as someone suggested getting a train. There's plenty I could defend myself about but skeptics wont believe it anyway.
Mumsnet looked into my thread and saw I was not trying to get money out of people even though thats what some people think nor did I take any money from anyone.

Thank you again

OP posts:

Espanio · 23/12/2018 22:13

@ArtOfGettingBy
If you need any advice please feel free to ask. I’m 19 and was homeless for 2 years (sofa surfing, in and out of hostels) before getting a flat

AnotherEmma · 23/12/2018 22:25

I'm sorry I was skeptical. It's just that we do get a lot of similar threads that aren't genuine. But PPs are right and we should give the benefit of the doubt.

Glad you have somewhere to stay for now.

If you haven't applied for benefits yet please do try and sort that first thing tomorrow, you could visit your nearest job centre and take your ID.

hmmwhatatodo · 23/12/2018 22:39

I guess your head must be all over the place right now op. Keep telling yourself this is the start of something new and good even though it doesn’t feel like it right now. Hope the place you are staying in is ok. What time did you have to leave home?

LadyRochfordsFrostedGusset · 24/12/2018 00:05

So glad to hear you've got somewhere OP. Wish you the very best.

sheldonesque · 24/12/2018 00:41

I had nothing helpful to say yesterday and as so many others were giving you great advice, I just lurked. Be assured you have been in my thoughts.

I am glad you have somewhere temporary and now you are on the radar of those who can help you, I sincerely hope they manage to steer you to the life you should have.

Best wishes to you for the future

Heartofglass21 · 24/12/2018 00:53

I'm so glad you are safe.

PajamasnoDramas · 25/12/2018 21:47

Hi OP, been reading your thread a few days ago and thought about you today. Am really glad that you’ve managed to find somewhere to stay and hope today has been good for you. Stay safe.

OddestSock · 25/12/2018 22:30

I'm glad you've got somewhere to stay. Keep safe xx

Starlight456 · 25/12/2018 23:02

Glad you found somewhere safe to stay .

Hope the food and other worries are sorted

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