How many staggeringly good looking people do you know in real life?

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Just following on from my 'oh my god I've just discovered Richard Armitage' thread (and do watch North and South if you have not already done so!). Musing on how gorgeous he is got me thinking.

How many really good looking people do you know in real life? I'm not talking 'eye of the beholder' type beauty, but real, classical, can't argue with it beauty (male or female)? There's a girl works in our office who I think is just beautiful - she always looks so glamorous without being showy or too made up, long blond hair with a slight curl. Very elegant. She makes everyone else look like saggy puddings. And she's probably very nice too (doesn't work in my section, it's a big place).

It made me think how very few people I know or even see like this on a daily basis - most people are just very average looking (myself included!). I can't remember the last time I saw a really handsome man. I do remember a chap I saw across a bar when I was about 22, with the most amazing cheekbones. He was just beautiful. Not in a fancying kind of way, just in a 'I could look at you for hours' kind of way. But I genuinely can't think of any since. Plenty of men I have found sexy but that's different, the two don't always overlap.

I'm probably not explaining myself very well. Maybe I just move in the wrong circles! Maybe they are all celebrities these days.

I once offended a friend by saying that I don't know any really good looking people in real life, then another by recounting the story 😂

All the pictures or links so far seem to be quite normally attractive people. Not staggeringly so. By that benchmark i definitely know a lot of very beautiful people. Maybe some areas are just awash with beauty

truly beautiful is so different to attractive isn't it? I know a beautiful man who is also the lead singer in a band, and when I first met him I found it hard not to act all silly in his presence-he is of similar looks to James Dean! He has such stage presence too.
Also a friend of mine has a 10 year old daughter who is really beautiful-amazing eyes and cheekbones but a normal little girl otherwise although she has done a bit of modelling.

Being photogenic is a strange thing isn't it? You hear the phrase - the camera loves her. Why?

Two men, one an old uni friend and the other an ex work colleague. People often commented how gorgeous/good looking they were.

One woman who was the mum of a girl in DDs old primary school (no longer see her). Of my immediate (small) circle of friends none!

Staggeringly beautiful is really subjective.

I think you'd be surprised how much. For every person that thinks a particular man/woman is stunning, there will be another who is all "meh".

I think Gal Gadot (Wonder Woman actress) is stunningly beautiful. A straight male friend of mine looked at me like I was mad when I said that and was "well if you say so but I disagree." If you think someone is staggeringly beautiful you just can't see it if others disagree - but no one is everyone's cup of tea.

I find George Clooney physically repellant - it's the creepy little milk teeth and the female looking nose. I know thousands would disagree but I don't get it.

I think Gal Gadot is amazingly beautiful too - one of the few contemporary actresses (not that she's much of an actress) about whom I'd say that. Also Rachjel Weisz and Monica Bellucci. Maybe your friend meant that he didn't fancy her? Being 'hot' and being beautiful aren't the same thing.

Also agree re Clooney. I've always found him smug and smarmy. As I said above, his replacement Goran Visjnic was much hotter.

My very ordinary (and lovely) work colleague once casually showed me a picture of one of her adult sons, as you do. Fuck me, I nearly fell off me chair, he looks like a film star. I nodded and said, oh yes, he, erm...blimey he's a looker!

I've known quite a few over the years - I worked with a guy who was impossibly handsome, tall and slender and chiselled. Women used to stop and stare at him, it was very embarrassing walking down the street with him as they looked from me to him to me like, what the hell is he doing with her? He wasn't a terribly nice person though - treated his girlfriend horribly. Once told me I smelled divine, but "not enough to make me wanna shag you", and as I'm hilarious and often made him helpless with laughter, he'd be clutching himself and saying "You've got such a great personality...still wouldn't shag you though." Pfffft.

I once met a customer through work who everyone in the office talked about - 6'4", gorgeous, sweet, full of chat and charm. Men loathed him and women couldn't speak around him. I met him by chance on one of our sites and...he asked me out!

I said yes, went out with him a few times, and he turned out to be a colossal bellend. I don't mean he was nasty, he was just an idiot trying to play games and I lost patience with him! Always flashing his cash as well, yawn. He wrote me a long pleading love letter which I put in the bin. I was hard in my 20s.

ohh i didnt know about Gal Gadot. She is a beauty

Rusky a friend saw Elle McPherson in her prime at the cinema and said the same as you did about Naomi Campbell. Other worldly head and shoulders beautiful you noticed her before you realised she was famous. Another friend said same about Julia Roberts (we lived in London so where they were).

I knew one once - god she had such a fresh faced beauty at 20. Sadly, she was a very sweet and gentle person, open to exploitation, and her life has since been taken over by drugs. She looks much older than her years now, sunken eyes, teeth missing etc - so sad.
On a similar vein, I recently went out with a couple of old friends who I think are more attractive than average - I don't see them very often, and it was noticeable to me how much more male attention our group got, than when I go out with my "normal" friends. I would rate myself as the least attractive of the attractive friends, but somewhere nearer the top of the group for the less attractive ones who are slightly older, less well preserved and less groomed. I found it quite an interesting comparison, that night.

I know many attractive people but none that are 100% perfect.
and Richad Armitage? He looks like jeremy kyle. Very beaky nose, thin lips, pinches forehead. He isn't ugly but......

I think a big part of this is beauty in the eye of the beholder plus some people just emit chemistry when you are around them, and not everyone necessarily will feel that chemistry with them or see them as you do.

Kate Moss, the Hadids, Kim Kardashian, Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise... different beauties but I don't see them as omg they are the epitome of beauty....

And a lot is to be said about the context, lighting, angle of when you see them.

And then that issue of classic beauty being 99.9% to refer about blonde white people.

I think that it's more about your own standards and internalised ideas of beauty from art and media, which are both very biased and very Caucasian white in nature.

I know one man who is absolutely bloody gorgeous and gets eyed up by women all the time - I still just stare at him sometimes and I’ve known him for 10 years. He’s beautiful though - not a rugged ‘manly’ guy, not ‘fit’ either so he’s not everyone’s type. I know a couple of very pretty women but the most stunning woman I have seen in real life is Zawe Ashton - from Fresh Meat! I saw her in a play and couldn’t take my eyes off her!

Oh and we had a supply teacher at school who was like a tattoo free Zayn Malik - I was genuinely flustered in his presence and all the girls at school were in a state of swoon whenever he was around (as was I and half the female staff).

I saw a man on a building site about 15 yeas ago.
It was in a developing country,he was a manual labourer. He was stunningly beautiful, I still remember his features so clearly. A classically handsome man.
And someone I went to college with-stunning to me. Not sure everyone else would agree though!

When you meet celebs/actors/actresses etc I am struck that so many have a charisma that means you’re drawn to them, like a magnetic pull. I met an lesser known actress on a holiday recently & it was like she had a superpower that pulled people towards her, extraordinary. Can you acquire that or is it innate?

Often poise, voice, grace, charisma etc all add to the attractiveness ‘package’.

I think Mads Mikkelsen is really beautiful, he's so strange and mesmerising to look at - he's very sexy too. Cillian Murphy is hauntingly beautiful but for me, not sexy.

Scarlet Johansen for me sets my teeth on edge she looks like a grown up blank faced baby with TnA.

Kate Moss I think is really gorgeous but I would think most of it is cameras and make up and lighting.

It's amazing what a professional photographer can do as opposed to amateur snaps. I look much better in my wedding photos than IRl and it was quite enlightening to see how much the photographer got me to point my foot this way, turn my chin that way.

Richad Armitage? He looks like jeremy kyle Take that back!!

I have said that I don't see him as classically 'beautiful' but definitely sexy as particular characters.

Interesting answers. I agree that for every 10 people thinking someone is stunning, someone else will be wondering what all the fuss is about. That's why beauty is so hard to define as it changes for everyone.

Some have said life is much easier if you're beautiful and I'm still not convinced. I suppose maybe you get offered more opportunities for jobs, relationships etc but I certainly wouldn't want to be stared at all the time or harassed in bars etc. It must make you feel very self conscious and want to prove to people that you are more than your face. I am quite average looking but I don't think it's held me back - I have a lovely husband, a beautiful (to me!) son and a reasonable job. I like to be anonymous and blend in. I suppose some people would enjoy standing out but I think I am too much of an introvert for that! I guess I just don't lead the kind of life where being physically beautiful matters.

And yes sexy and beautiful are like two separate circles on a Venn diagram - sometimes they overlap but not always! And there are sadly plenty of people who are outside of the circles (who are probably beautiful in some way on the inside).

I’ll be honest and say none. I know some quite attractive people who I’d describe as pretty and I can see why they would turn heads but they’re not my ‘type’ so to speak. I don’t really find conventional beauty all that amazing. I don’t know any truly striking lookers except me obvs.

Agree with PPs who have mentioned how high fashion models often look a bit odd in real life - not unattractive, but really quite removed from 'normal' people.

Some time ago, I was involved in an event which was attended by a number of v glam fashion types and I was slightly perturbed to see what they looked like up close (I think the phrase I used to describe them to my OH was 'alien giraffes').

A friend of mine is a photographer and they say that the best models are not necessarily conventionally 'beautiful' (certainly not merely pretty): they will have certain defining features (such as razor-sharp cheekbones or a very defined jawline or similar), but most importantly, a quality that comes across in photographs and the ability to 'inhabit' whatever they're modelling. Apparently, it's something that all the very best actors have, too.

and Richad Armitage? He looks like jeremy kyle. Very beaky nose, thin lips, pinches forehead. He isn't ugly but.....

I never really got the RA love either. Same with Aiden Turner. I mean AT is a good looking bloke, but not what I'd consider drop dead gorgeous.

In the part of Spain I live in, I see a stunning beautiful person almost every week. People that I can't stop staring at, and of all ages, even some of the grannies look like old movie stars.

Generally people here are lovely to look at though, subtly tanned olive skin, glossy beachy hair or dark curls, the girls wear hardly any makeup and people are outdoorsy and fit and glowing. After I've been to the UK and I come back and realise how attractive my family and friends here are!

I also know quite a few girls in the UK that are half Indian, half white and are STUNNING to look at.

I honestly don’t think there’s such thing as true beauty that no one can argue with. Eg I think Bella Hadid is fairly plain (knockout figure). Someone above mentioned rachel weisz, again don’t think she is even particularly pretty let alone staggeringly beautiful. And certainly not Scarlett johansen.

I just think beauty actually is in the eye of the beholder I am afraid! I know quite a few very attractive women, rather less so with men but then it’s harder for them I think!

God my post sounds really mean saying I don’t think certain women are attractive - apologies bella Scarlett and Rachel if you’re reading

I know 6, but 5 of them are models and one is a famous musician