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Boyfriend claiming and I'm pregnant

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nicoleginge · 01/12/2018 15:09

So I've moved in with my boyfriend and he's claiming Job Seekers Allowance and I've happily fallen pregnant.
He is looking for a job and he's really trying.
We are currently living with his parents and we both individually pay rent to them.
I do not support him money wise and we are now saving up for a baby.
I'm only on a 16 hour contract and Male about £130 a week.

How will this affect his JSA?
Because we have been told by some people that his would stop all together and we will have to live of £130 a week and save for a baby which is impossible.
It's really stressing me out.

About 2 years ago they took me to court for apparently frauding them. Which I didn't but because I didn't have enough evidence. Apparently a phone record and written evidence from the job center wasn't enough they still got me don't for it.

What do we do. We just want to have a happy life and get through this pregnancy without so much stress.

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NotANotMan · 01/12/2018 15:12

If you live together you have to claim together or not at all. Since you don't have a baby yet you won't get any benefits as a couple and you would have to support him from your earnings. I'm afraid you are defrauding the system. He needs to get a job. What's his barrier?

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nicoleginge · 01/12/2018 15:14

What do you mean what his barrier?

And I can't support him and afford to save for a baby it impossible.

We will end up homeless at this rate

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Thesearmsofmine · 01/12/2018 15:17

Are the job centre aware that you are living together? How will his parents feel about you having a baby under their roof?

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Thesearmsofmine · 01/12/2018 15:18

And yes he needs to find a job right away,m.

Mymycherrypie · 01/12/2018 15:19

He needs to get a job. Any job.

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nicoleginge · 01/12/2018 15:21

@Thesearmsofmine they fine with it but we can't be living with them forever and not right now and I've only just found out and he's got an appointment with them next week so he's going to tell them then

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duhast · 01/12/2018 15:21

It's not a case of supporting him or saving for a baby. You live together and you have to be classed as a couple.

Are you expecting the tax payer to fund your baby savings? Foolish to get pregnant when barely any income !

Caprisunorange · 01/12/2018 15:22

You’re living in his parents house? And paying them rent individually? You need to find out if this is the same as co habiting I think. I would guess you’re like a lodger in the parents house?

Anyway why would you need to support him? He lives with his parents!?

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nicoleginge · 01/12/2018 15:22

@duhast actually I'm suffering with Endometriosis and was told by the doctor after an operation I will not be able to get pregnant anymore but here we are with a littler miracle. So don't call me foolish.

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gamerchick · 01/12/2018 15:22

You both need to claim together and deal with the deductions due to your pay.

I'm sorry OP but it sounds as if you both have a bit of growing up to do. He needs to get a job.

Hayles88 · 01/12/2018 15:23

Are you expecting the tax payer to fund your baby savings? Foolish to get pregnant when barely any income !

This. He needs to take any job. You two made this baby, you two support it. You can't expect the state to fund you baby savings. How entitled.

NotANotMan · 01/12/2018 15:24

What's his barrier to getting a job? Why doesn't he have one?

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nicoleginge · 01/12/2018 15:25

@Hayles88 I'm not expecting no one to fund it for me all I'm saying is until he's found a job which he is working really bloody hard to do as it's really hard in the area we live in what will he do for money.

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duhast · 01/12/2018 15:25

I'll call you foolish if I want to because you are being a fool. You're a couple. Stop trying to blag it. You're pregnant not disabled, why don't you work more hours while he's looking for work? And I don't believe for one minute he's looking properly, work is always available if you're willing to roll your sleeves up.

SpadesOfGlory · 01/12/2018 15:25

Is there any reason you don't work full time?

If two people live together and then one of them loses their job, the other has to support them. Your situation is the same unfortunately. If you live together then you need to claim jointly or support him yourself, otherwise it's fraud

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nicoleginge · 01/12/2018 15:26

@duhast he really is looking for a job we live in a very quiet area we're jobs are hard to come by and I can't get more hours because there aren't any going. I've already asked.

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 01/12/2018 15:27

You can't claim separately if you live at the same address. They let me do this once when my boyfriend moved into a house that I had already been renting (coincidentally) from a family member for years - they paid for two years and then claimed it all back because we should have been treated as a couple. I appealed but there is case law in their favour.

If you get caught defrauding then again; you'll get a much harsher punishment as they'll see you as a serial offender.

VictoryOrValhalla · 01/12/2018 15:27

Why on earth would you choose to have a baby in these circumstances??

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nicoleginge · 01/12/2018 15:27

@SpadesOfGlory there isn't enough hours to by everyone we're I work so unfortunately no matter how much I ask I'm not getting more hours which I really want.

People are having a go at me like I'm a child but I'm an adult. All I asked was how this would affect his benefit.

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BishopBrennansArse · 01/12/2018 15:27

OP I was in your boat too, told my endometriosis was so bad I'd Mexer conceive naturally. I now have 3 kids all conceived naturally.

I was working when I became pregnant though but got made redundant very early on. Once I was showing (I showed very early) I couldn't get another job so we had to live off what DH was earning at the time. It was bloody difficult.

He's just going to have to get anything he can to be honest.

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue · 01/12/2018 15:27

If you live together you have to claim as a couple, otherwise you are defrauding them and will be done for it again.

You shouldn’t have gotten pregnant when you have no sustainable life. You were foolish to do so, whether deliberately or accidentally.

He needs to get whatever job he can now; he can’t be picky.

Hayles88 · 01/12/2018 15:28

@nicoleginge

Oh don't give me that. I got made redundant 2 weeks ago with no notice, I start my new job tomorrow. It perfectly doable if you put the effort in! He clearly is not.

Abeautifulpeagreenboat · 01/12/2018 15:28

I'm confused. Is this right:

You're pregnant
You've been convicted of benefit fraud
Your partner isn't working but is looking
You live with his parents but you support him

If it is, then he needs to get a job pronto, there will be lots of temporary work out there at this time of year.

Caprisunorange · 01/12/2018 15:29

Where do you live Op? There are obviously a few areas of the country where there simply are no jobs, so I can understand that.

Surely you’d be better off moving out and getting your own place with HB and other benefits and not living with him?

TwitterQueen1 · 01/12/2018 15:31

Everyone wants a happy life and a stress-free pregnancy OP, but if you're both unemployed with no home of your own and potentially, possibly defrauding the system (I don't know if you are), it ain't gonna happen. You have to earn money, not rely on everyone else to provide it for you.

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