Boyfriend claiming and I'm pregnant

[nicoleginge]

So I've moved in with my boyfriend and he's claiming Job Seekers Allowance and I've happily fallen pregnant.
He is looking for a job and he's really trying.
We are currently living with his parents and we both individually pay rent to them.
I do not support him money wise and we are now saving up for a baby.
I'm only on a 16 hour contract and Male about £130 a week.

How will this affect his JSA?
Because we have been told by some people that his would stop all together and we will have to live of £130 a week and save for a baby which is impossible.
It's really stressing me out.

About 2 years ago they took me to court for apparently frauding them. Which I didn't but because I didn't have enough evidence. Apparently a phone record and written evidence from the job center wasn't enough they still got me don't for it.

What do we do. We just want to have a happy life and get through this pregnancy without so much stress.

@backaftera2yearbreak @GivingBloodFeelingGreat
Can you define ' cow bags "
and ' scummy mummys' ( mummies??)

It is a colloquialism for hard working,
job holding,tax paying , non benefit defrauding, responsible citizens with a good command of the English language?

Still don’t understand why you think these posters who have taken the time to raise their children in a warm, safe and secure home with adequate food, clothes and necessities would make their children grow up hating them?

Surely the child who grows up hungry and cold because of their parents hate their parents and move out to somewhere they can be comfortable at the nearest opportunity?

It’s kind of shit to call diligent people scummy because they did the right thing.

She’s not defrauding anyone so maybe you might want to toddle off and learn to grasp the English language 🙄

He is defrauding! She's been told this several times in response to her question of would his JSA be affected. Yes, he should have reported he was part of a couple as soon as she moved in and if she can't support him on £130/week then she either moves out or one of them needs to work more, don't really see what's 'unsupportive' about that. If they're in a full-service UC area it will trigger a new UC claim so yes, the JSA will be affected.

He's a fraud.

backaftera2yearbreak Great avoidance of the questions there.

And yes, she may be done for benefit fraud (again) if she is found to be colluding with her partner who is committing benefit fraud.

@backaftera2yearbreak she is complicit. Also, she was herself found guilty of benefit fraud previously. Not exactly my idea of an outstanding citizen.

@backaftera2yearbreak in your own time.

@WhatToDoAboutWailmer

We aren't saying you should lie to OP. Offer advice to her by all means but don't be so bloody harsh and nasty while doing so.

From what I can see, she is trying her best. I bet you didn't even read her comment saying that she has tried to get a second job but nobody will employ her. AND that her boyfriend is applying for every job he is able to do.

As for your question @Mymycherrypie, they are "Scummy Mummies" because they are being incredibly nasty and unkind to the OP who is trying her hardest. Surely even you must see that some comments were bang out of order?

This is my last comment here. I hope everything works out for you, OP. If you need any advice or guidance then I would avoid this place like the plague for various reasons

From what I can see, she is trying her best. I bet you didn't even read her comment saying that she has tried to get a second job but nobody will employ her. AND that her boyfriend is applying for every job he is able to do.

GivingBloodFeelingGreat No, she isn’t trying her best. Deliberately getting pregnant when you’re only part time, your boyfriend is unemployed and you’re living with family who are already supporting you is not trying your best.

She is also unwilling to leave her part time job to get a full time one. It is much harder to find two part time jobs to get the hours to work together than it is to find one full time job. This is not trying her best.

Her boyfriend has been unemployed for a while, so he’s either not trying or being far too picky. He doesn’t have that luxury; he needs to take whatever full time job he can get. Just like OP should.

So no, OP is not even close to trying her best.

they are "Scummy Mummies" because they are being incredibly nasty and unkind to the OP who is trying her hardest.

Know the OP personally do you?

The irony of saying posters are nasty whilst using nasty language youself, seems lost on you.

What WhatToDo said. 'Trying her best', my arse!

It is quite hard to get convicted if you aren’t actually guilty. They need to prove beyond reasonable doubt that you defrauded. The prosecution needs to prove that not you. If there was any real doubt you would not have been convicted...

You are clearly living as a couple so I would think very carefully about what you claim going forward.

I guess it's how you're brought up. For many, getting an education, getting full time employed, saving for your own place, getting in a stable relationship, becoming financially responsible, having a kid, is trying their best,

For others it's working sixteen hours a week, in a job with no further hours available that you declare you'll never leave, in a relationship with an unemployed boyfriend, being done for benefit fraud, living in his parents house, falling pregnant and then wondering if your boyfriends benefits will be cut if he claims honestly and being worried that he won't get enough benefits to support him and the kid and as such should he also continue to commit benefit fraud.

It's subjective. For givingblood the latter is trying your best. For others it's the former.

No matter what anyone says, I absolutely refuse to believe that anyone can't find a job. There is work out there for people who are willing to do it. Yes they are probably crappy jobs, but when expecting a baby you just have to have to suck it up

There is very rarely jobs where you live that's why most people's commute is an hour. My quick commute is an hour my previous job was 2 hours. There's work. Travel for it.

Spot on, Bluntness.

You need to figure out how you're going to afford the child and if you can do
I use contraception, I have a FT job and if my contraception failed I would have to terminate because I can't afford a child
It sucks yes, because I'm 34 and would like a family but it is what it is

I think termination is a personal thing and shouldn't be on this thread, but instead rhe op should not be focusing on if her boyfriends benefits will be cut, but how they are both going to be adults, and assume financial responsibility for their child.

Shit like he's tried to find a job, I love my job and will never leave, doesn't put food on the table. And neither does benefit fraud for any length of time. Relying on parents to bail you out isn't the way either.

They both need to sit down and say ok, we are choosing to have a baby. Which means when it's born I will need to look for a full time role. And the father will need to do any job that's available. And be willing to commute. Because if they continue like this much longer it will be disasterous. He will be caught and have to pay back his fraudulently claimed benefits, they will literally be living below the poverty line.

So the claims to be an adult. Nows rhe time her and her boyfriend will need to act like it.

OP I strongly suggest you read what @bluntness100 had just posted and read it carefully, don't assume it to be hateful or negative but actually take into account that this should be a turning point in your lives. It's all well and good getting by on benefits and living with parents when you're a couple and you're really not hurting anyone but yourselves, but once a baby is involved you need to seriously consider how you're going to provide for this child long-term.