DP has spent an hour trying to collect 5 yr old from a play date

[Eastie77]

I'm at a loss. DD is 5 years old and went to a play date at a friends house today. DP went to pick her up at 6:30pm. Her friend only lives 5 minutes away so I've been wondering where he got too. He just turned up, his voice shaking saying he "cannot remove her" from her friends house, she is running around their sofa laughing, refusing to put her shoes on and will not come home. He left the house without her as he "couldn't take it anymore" after spending nearly an hour chasing around after her

I am in bed ill with DS who is also ill and he expected me to get dressed and go and get her! I have sent him back to fetch her and he has angrily left the house. I reminded him that he is a GROWN man surely capable of picking up a 5 year old child, putting her over his shoulder and walking out of the house?!! I feel like I'm in some kind of parallel universe here.

I'm friends with the play dates mother but god knows what she must be thinking..

I could imagine my DH being similarly hopeless, however, if i was the host, the child would have been encouraged to listen to their father/dealt with by me if necessary!

Oh dear!

Sorry not funny for you but i can just picture the scene! With any luck she will understand and help!
Could you speak firmly on the phone to your DC and say conply with daddy?

That is hilarious - sorry

crikey that's one self assured spirited five year old!

Is this the 1st time he's had to be an adult, all by himself, since your daughter was born 5 years ago? Time for a sit down discussion when you're feeling better.

Is the playdate family one of those infuriating 'child-led' 'we don't do rules' dippy hippy batshit ones?

Is he a teenage father? How old is he?

yikes! Surely you just pick them up and take them out, no?!

What a wet lettuce

When this happens here after five minutes of messing I usher the kid out myself. Not sure why the other kids mum has let this go on so long!

He's been outwitted by a 5 year old?!

He needs to grow a pair.

Wow.

Whenever I’ve been the host parent and my DC and their friends tried this (and they all did) I’d go and fish out the other child with my bright “Mummy / Daddy’s waiting” voice and steer them towards the front door.

DP might be struggling if the other parents aren’t being helpful.

Play date parents should have helped

Omg so funny

What did he say to the play date host? "sorry she'll have to live with you now"?!?!

Wow.

This is both funny and tragic at the same time.

And the host parents allowed this to happen?

Ridiculous that the host parents didn't help. How embarrassing!!

Play date parent has their own child to parent. Your DH should parent his own child instead of being a useless arse who's 5 year old can literally run rings round him.

I sometimes have this with my Yorkshire Terrier, who wont get back in the car after a walk.

But Yorkers are WILEY!

The host parent might have been reluctant to intervene if it would make dd cry, or maybe they think he's not serious about taking her home as if he would be surely he'd have just picked her up?!

I'd be pretty irritated

DP is DD's bio dad. He is a bit of a soft touch at the best of times but this is bloody ridiculous. I can hear DD now shouting excitedly outside so they are coming back. Nearly 2 hours after he set off

We've known her friend's parents for many years and our kids and theirs are in an out of each others houses for play dates every week (they have 2 DC). DD sometimes plays up when its time to leave and in the past I've had to carry her out and their dad has helped me if I had DS with me. However that is quite a rare occurrence, she is usually compliant. Today it is just the mum there. DP seemed to think she found the whole thing amusing and is annoyed she didn't do anything to help. She allegedly told him to leave DD there for a sleepover

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