Things your mum did that made you feel happy and loved

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Mine worked outside of the home but always made sure that she took me to school in the morning. She rarely judged my character in a negative way (would tell me off for all sorts of things but never pick on my character as such) and despite my being average in school always told me that she believed I was smart and would be good at anything I worked hard for. Despite working, she would be interested in what was going on for me at any time. She even patiently listened to some of the crap compilations I got from various unsuitable boyfriends.

What things did your mum do that made you feel happy and loved?

Everything she possibly could, clean clothes, clean house, lovely food, lots and lots of love. The one thing that sticks out is sleeping in her bed, every Saturday night I was allowed in with her and my dad would go in my bed, I've never felt so safe as when I was in that bed with her. We are still best friends to this day, I see her every day and she's a wonderful nana to my children. I don't know how I'll ever live without her

to everyone who doesn’t have a nice memory to post here.

Nothing. She ignored me and dismissed me when I was in tears about being bullied at school, and never once even bothered to ask if it had stopped/improved. She favoured my sister over me, and even refused to stop smoking in the car when I told her it gave me a headache and made me car sick.

My heart breaks reading all those with no memory of being shown love by their mothers. I hope your lives are now full of love.

Mine is, @ohlittlepea - I have a lovely dh and dses, and wonderful friends. Sadly, the one person who doesn’t love me, is me - my childhood has left me with low self esteem and depression and an inability to like myself (though I am getting better at that, and learning to like myself).

I had a walking on eggshells childhood sdt but the presence of a lovely Gran and a really good school mitigated things. I adhere to Edna Mode's advice:

'I never look back, darling. It destracts from the now'

Distracts not destracts!

Nothing.

Nothing. Everything she did was to make herself feel happy and loved...usually by bullying me.

My mum and dad ran a business from home and would often be working hard into the night in the kitchen downstairs - my mum would record herself singing nursery rhymes on a tape player to put into our room at night time so we felt like she was close to us

Never really comented on my appearance

Nothing comes to mind mostly I hated her I wonder if I developed that hatred and it stopped me from seeing any nice things that she did?

she was just one of the horrid strict mum's, some of my friends had nice kind of mums mine was horrid
I find it hard to imagine that my children (who are now adults) even like me, my default position is that they probably don't like me

@FestiveForestiereNoel - that is very good advice, and I will do my very best to remember it - thank you!

She was always there and always had time to listen.

I miss her, especially at this time of year.

Always had my best interests at heart.
Helped me with my homework.
Used to light a fire in the "front room" when I was revising for exams in winter.
Made clothes for me, including an amazing bridesmaid dress.
Always said "Do you best today" or "Progress for Dad!" when I got out the car on school mornings.

Mine did all the things she was supposed to do, however it was because it was the thing to do. I was never kissed or cuddled because I was a girl. She wanted boys and was unable to have any more children. It was a very controlled childhood but I never knew it could be any different until I grew up.

Always watched me play football whatever the weather. She hated football but as my dad left when I was young she was always there. She would then always buy me 3 sausage rolls from Kwik Save for lunch. I still love sausage rolls!

this has really made me pause. I was one of 5, and have no memories of my doing anything with/for me especially! None. The only thing I remember 1-1 is her checking my head for lice :(

My dad, on the other hand, I have so many specific memories of doing amazing things with him - he took us out all day, every weekend, movies mid week, etc. He also brought us sweets for our play piece every day (worked night-shift) and hid them in his suit pockets for us all to find our own. On payday, it was always chocolate. The other days hard candy. Such a lovely memory.

It was probably just that my mum needed the break, but I'm sad that all the happy, fun times did not include her. Or maybe I've just forgotten them. Which is also very sad.

I had a brilliant childhood and am really close to my mum. But I actually can’t think of any examples of this.

When I was sick she used to make me beans on toast. After my first breakup at university during my first year there she called me to ask if I was okay. Every Christmas she would always sit with us at the table making Christmas arts and crafts. She also told a lot of jokes and helped me look for a job.

So many things but the one that stands out is that when I got home from school she would stop whatever she was doing and we would sit at the kitchen table for a drink, a biscuit and a chat. Every day. Without fail.

She got excited about my achievements and encouraged me when I didn't do so well. My dad did that too.
My mum taught me never to be jealous of anybody, which I think is a useful life lesson.

I only have a few scattered memories of my mum. Nice to read other people's, something to aspire to.

She never made fun of me, never laughed at me.