Things your mum did that made you feel happy and loved

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Mine worked outside of the home but always made sure that she took me to school in the morning. She rarely judged my character in a negative way (would tell me off for all sorts of things but never pick on my character as such) and despite my being average in school always told me that she believed I was smart and would be good at anything I worked hard for. Despite working, she would be interested in what was going on for me at any time. She even patiently listened to some of the crap compilations I got from various unsuitable boyfriends.

What things did your mum do that made you feel happy and loved?

Made my bed very warm and cosy
Made everything into an adventure
Always had my back and believed me
Was my biggest supporter (and, conversely, my sternest critic but that made me trust what she said)
When older, she threw parties for me and cooked amazing dinners for me and my mates.

Awesome, awesome mother - if I am half the mother she is then my kids are fortunate indeed.

Everything. I’m so lucky to have had her as a mother. She died too young.

She used to sit and stroke my face while I laid with my head in her lap, I did this right up until she died at 68, I was 42.

Fuck, I miss her so, so much. I adored her, I really, really did.

Told me often that I was beautiful (I'm v.average!) and always assumed I'd go to uni so ... I did!

Doing little things that she new I loved, like making my bed and leaving little gifts for me to come home to after school, and bringing me a little tray of treats and snacks if I was struggling with coursework or homework. And always making sure we had a magical Christmas even though she was a single mum, with no money, and it was just me, my sister and her.

As a child I always got 'tucked' in at night ( no duvet - talking 1970s !)
Taken and picked up from school.
I have always been an avid reader, and my mum never complained walking me around to the library at least once a week.
Even as a grown teenager having nights down the pub / out clubbing, would come home in the early hours to find she'd still put my electric blanket on so my bed was warm and toasty !

She didn’t do much bar make an effort on my birthday- tradition was she took me to Harrods to choose some chocolates. However I now suspect that sort of thing was done more for her own feeling of having done a good thing than selflessly for me. Because whenever I needed her to take care of me she failed miserably.

Encouraged a love of reading.
Bakes the best biscuits and cakes.
Made up stories to tell me at bedtime and drew lovely pictures to accompany the stories and let me put the pictures under my pillow as I went to sleep.

She also did a lot of not so great things, but she did her very best as we all try to do.

Wrote signs and stuck them round the house to help my elder sibling learn to read. I.e. mirror, cooker, etc. She died when I was v small but her signs stayed up for a while longer so she still helped me learn to read.

My mom is just amazing, she is such a kind person and loves to help people and do things for people!

• she always looked after me and my friends, my friends all love her and think she is a lovely person
• she made me feel special all the time, just little things like cutting my sandwiches into love hearts and writing me notes ❤️
• she is my biggest supporter and always tells me how proud she is of me and my kids
• she adores my kids and they adore her
• the biggest thing that sticks in my mind when I worked in a pub at 16 and she used to walk halfway to meet me every night I worked to make sure I got home safe

She is such a kind lovely person and she is a special needs teacher and her kids love her just as much as I do! She keeps in touch with several of them and goes to events such as when one of them was in a table tennis tournament and another one won a carer award, she is there championing them on!

Organised birthday parties (I now understand how much work that was!!)
Made me halloween costumes
Picked me up from school when I stayed a little late (but not a lot) so I didn't have to hang around for 2 hours waiting for the "late bus"
Listened to me complain

And what I didn't realise at the time, but I now do: cooked dinners. Now, released from the need to provide 'healthy' meals for a child, she and my Dad eat almost exclusively ready meals and take aways. She put i a big effort to make real food, even though I didn't appreciate it at the time (as it was often 'not great', but it was healthy).

She fed me.

This thread is nice. It's nice to read there were proper mother's out there.

In love this thread. Mine didn't much but just making sure I'm on track with my own dc

She would’ve done anything for us. She had a very poor relationship with her parents but made sure they put their differences aside by the time we were born so that we had grandparents. They weren’t great parents but they were the best grandparents we could’ve asked for.

Sewed dressing-up clothes and knitted cardigans and jumpers for me and my brother.

Made me special packed lunches on my birthday.

When I was older, she came to visit me at university in another country.

She still looks after me when I’m ill!

So much ... and she still does at 85 and I am 60 I am so lucky to have a mother (& father for that matter) who is such a loving, caring parent .... and to my shame, a better parent than I am. She’s always believed that I could do anything, always encouraged & supported me, thinks of lovely treats & gifts, a fabulous cook. Always up for a new adventure & doing something different.
murm that’s an interesting comment, we always had ‘proper’ meals growing up but now my mum loves M &S ready meals .

Brushed my hair. I loved sitting on the floor while she brushed my hair. I was 38 when she died

Baked the best birthday cakes.
She knitted me a jumper with penguins that all had bobble hats and little scarves you could tie up when I was about 8. I never shut up about it so she knitted me a grown up size one too

So... mothers love - it's safety and praise and food really. No one has said 'bought me £££ stuff'. This is such a good thread.

My mum used to write us little notes in our lunchboxes - I remember we always got them if we had jabs that day.

She always made Christmas magical too. We didn't have much growing up but our Christmas's were always amazing.

Not much...

It makes me very conscious of how I treat my own children.

So much! My mum is always ready and waiting to help and will always help, even if she doesn't have the means to. Just recently she came and cleaned our entire house (we have a damp problem and I'm 6 months pregnant).

We're not super close and we're not very touchy or emotional, but I know she's always there. Same goes for my Nan, who has put in more than her shift over the years!

Walked me to school every day till I was quite old..not sure how old now
Always made sure I had warm clean appropriate clothes.
Was always there when I came in from school
Went to my parents evening.
Kept the house clean and tidy
Dad was inclined to be a bit strict so she was always a buffer.
She always had my back and we could laugh till we nearly wet ourselves
She made excellent toffee and spotted dick.
Was marvellous when older and I had my own children. I had three quite quickly and she was here every day
We liked to go shopping together.
I felt very loved as a child.

My birth mum died when I was 8,but I remember her cuddles very well.
My stepmum was and still is there for me - she took me to hospital appts when I was diagnosed with epilepsy as a child (grown out of it now) She picked me up from hospital last year after a knee op and stayed with me till my son came home.
She made me realise I can do anything I put my mind to.
She was always there if I had problems.
Like my birth mum,she does great hugs.
She's like a big sister and I love her dearly.

Forgot that..mum was a good dressmaker and I had beautiful clothes as a child.
When I went to grammar school, she made my school tunic...from barothea. ...( I have a feeling that was a really good material...as In best barothea 😂 )

She could knit as well ...but wasn’t as keen on that. She taught me how to use a sewing machine..and from the age of 14 she would help me to make my own dresses.
When older it was curtains for my house.

I never heard any muttering of there never being enough money. My dad wasn’t on a huge salary but we certainly weren’t poor.
I grew up with no sense of lack.
We had two holidays every year.

She never worked till I was 18 and was going off to college.
I got her a job in a betting shop. I’d gone for training as a holiday worker till college started in September
I came home taught her the bets..she went down the next day...got a job and ended up as a manageress! She loved that job.
Miss her..she would’ve have been 90 tomorrow. She’s been gone 2 years
Dementia...robbed me of precious time with my lovely mum.