If you could give someone ONE pear of wisdom to someone prior to your dying what would it be?

[Thisisit777]

For me, I think I’d say

Truly, Stand up for yourself - you are worth far more than you think.

Would love to hear other pearls of wisdom - in a contemplative mood today!

Travel as much as you are able

Someone's occupation doesn't mean they're better than you or wiser than you. Don't be afraid to research things for yourself or get a second opinion if you think you're getting bad advice or a poor service and don't allow yourself to be fobbed off by any "professional" whether they're medical, legal, financial, etc.

Don't aim for happiness - aim for an interesting life.

Look after your feet - fallen arches are a pain.

Stay slim and active.

Rise above the nonsense of others

You are not his bank (if you have a partner who's always in debt)

Make those people important, those who make you important

Think: Is this good use of my time?

However bad it is, you're likely to be laughing about it in five years' time.

If you can't think of something nice or kind to say, keep your mouth shut.

Always check you haven't tucked your skirt into your knickers.

Never get fat. Nip that extra 1lb in the bud as losing 10,50,100 will always seem impossible.

Find a job you love.

Never be scared to say how you feel.

Well, two posts in close succession about not getting fat. And fallen arches.

As a chubby woman with over-pronation (was congenital, had it since childhood) I'm feeling like a bit of a failure now .

Mine would be always express love and appreciation, without embarrassment or self consciousness.
If there's a book in you, write it.
Don't let yourself be taken advantage of... it escalates and demolished your self worth.

To thine own self be true.

As I get older, I realize it's harder than it sounds.

Don't be a people pleaser. Do what's best for you and your family not some randomers.

Trust me on the sunscreen.

Mine is the key to world peace but works in smaller situations as well. On my death bed, I'll proffer: 'don't be a dick'

Well, two posts in close succession about not getting fat. And fallen arches

I regret putting on a lot of weight, working hard at losing it and putting it on again. Fallen arches are bloody painful. My pears of wisdom are relevant.

Well OneforSorrow, as those pears were coming from the voice of experience rather than the voice of judgement, I can relate (and even agree.)🙂

Some of these are pretty witless. Lots of the good things in the world, from advances in medicine to votes for women to attempts to halt climate change, came about because people worked far harder than they needed to, cared about people outside themselves and their immediate family, and worried about something that might never happen.

On the other hand, these are gold:

Never phone your ex when you have been drinking.

Always check you haven't tucked your skirt into your knickers

As a middle aged person who is 2.5 stone overweight, you bet your ass I wish I'd concentrated on staying 9 stone when I was 9 stone! My weight has been a MAJOR issue in my life. Being a bit chubby/actually quite fat has held me back in numerous ways. I am quietly trying to impress this on my children now without giving them a complex.

You are the best Ratonastick on earth. No one is better at being Ratonastick than you.

As per my Dad. He’s a wonderful man who adores his children and grandchildren and is always telling us to be ourselves. And that other people’s opinions shouldn’t trouble us and we should value our unique selves. It’s hard sometimes but he’s right.

I’m a terrible example, please let me be a warning.

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I’m learning from your pears 🍐

GlassOuijan - definitely experience not judgement

Elephants everywhere - your comment made me cry - how can you relive a childhood.
It’s a lovely thread.

Never buy cheap saucepans.

Always proof read :o

What other people think of you is none of your business.

(and the similar)

Your opinion of me is your problem.

This too shall pass.

Love many, trust a few, and always paddle your own canoe.

What you despise in others is often something you actually hate or fight to suppress in yourself.

@lilyblue5 she's right, unless you want a lot of mint it will overrun the place. It loves to spread

Mary1935 sorry, it's probably not the best wording, apparently it's a famous quote (according to google!) but it's just something my family always says, meaning you shouldn't dampen your sense of joy and wonder about the world just because people say it's 'childish' or silly - if you want to build the snowman / paddle in the sea / eat the candyfloss / feed the ducks / have an advent calendar at age 30 or 50 or 70 or whatever then do it and enjoy it, you're never 'too old' :)

Having reflected on this, my other pear is that the unexpected can and will happen, but if you're open to it you can find new paths you never even imagined!