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If you could give someone ONE pear of wisdom to someone prior to your dying what would it be?

182 replies

Thisisit777 · 24/10/2018 17:23

For me, I think I’d say

Truly, Stand up for yourself - you are worth far more than you think.

Would love to hear other pearls of wisdom - in a contemplative mood today!

OP posts:
Rockbird · 26/10/2018 07:10

Haven't read the whole thread yet but I really like this one from SugarandVinegar.

You have as much right to be here as everyone else. Take up your space.

That's something I really struggle with.

Skullduggeryfizz · 26/10/2018 08:16

If you think someone's life is perfect, you're not looking hard enough.

jane251 · 26/10/2018 08:19

Never phone your ex when you have been drinking..

Loonoon · 26/10/2018 08:21

Upthread someone posted that you choose your emotions. As a psychodynamic therapist my pearl would be pretty much the exact opposite.

Never feel guilty for feeling the ‘wrong’ thing. There is no such thing as a wrong emotion - Even when what you feel seems irrational or unreasonable or ungrateful, it's genuine, it comes from deep within you, there is an underlying reason for it. Honour it, learn to express it in a situation appropriate way, maybe try to understand where it comes from. Hide it from others if you think you need to but never deny your feelings.

Akire · 26/10/2018 08:24

Don’t worry about it till it happens. If it does happen you will worry enough.

BloodyDraculcasonthis · 26/10/2018 08:30

Life is all about balance. Balance time at work / time with family. Balance good for you food / bad for you food. Balance active / lazy. But remember not everyones balancing act is the same, find the one that works for you, don't worry about anyone elses.

PixelDust · 26/10/2018 08:48

Never trust a man that says trust me!

noego · 26/10/2018 08:53

Don't believe a thing anyone tells you. Find out for yourself.

Benji13 · 26/10/2018 08:55

This has made me cry. It's beautiful. I will start telling my gorgeous, often trying big boy men 18 and 22 this. Yr mum is always here no matter what, loving you more than anything ❤️

Longhairmightcare · 26/10/2018 09:14

@Iagreewithmrsdevere

Don't fill the front garden with pretty purple gravel if you live opposite a children's playground. It will all slowly mysteriously disappear

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Thewerera66it · 26/10/2018 09:32

I just asked my DS (12) for his one piece of advice. His was, "If you're kicking a ball, don't kick with your toes."

legocardsagain · 26/10/2018 09:42

Self Confidence is different to Self Esteem. Do things to build and maintain your self esteem and confidence will follow.

AJPTaylor · 26/10/2018 09:47

At 50, my mantra is roughly " Worrying wont change the outcome. And 95 per cent of what you have worried about didn't happen anyway"
Also, the difference you make to other adults lives is pretty marginal. So don't invest huge amounts of time and emotion in it.

haverhill · 26/10/2018 09:51

Like several other pps, mine is that worrying changes nothing, and that most things we worry about we can deal with.

Maddy70 · 26/10/2018 09:57

I'd tell them that no one on their death bed wishes they had worked a bit harder.

Afternooninthepark · 26/10/2018 10:34

Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.

lilyblue5 · 26/10/2018 12:12

Mum told me today, never plant Mint in the garden, always in a pot. Hmm

MorrisZapp · 26/10/2018 13:03

My mum said never trust a man in white socks, to be fair it was the 80s.

I don't like that deathbed one. Your deathbed will be a very short moment at the end of (hopefully) a long, interesting and varied life. It's ok to lie there saying your cheerios with nary a care for the gas bill, the leaking shower or how to pay for the kids swimming lessons, but in day to day life we need an income.

So work is a necessary evil. For the lucky ones, it's enjoyable and fulfilling. For the less lucky at least it provides respite from domestic crap and it pays for stuff.

Work all you like. It's as valid a part of life as any other.

NobodysChild · 26/10/2018 13:42

If you open the curtains and it's raining, let it!
(meaning: Don't let the weather put you off doing what you'd planned)

If it passes you by, it wasn't meant to be.

AND

Everybody's shit smells the same as yours.

(meaning: No one is better than you, everyone is equal)

morningconstitutional2017 · 26/10/2018 14:25

It's people, not things that matter.

Things that matter can't be counted.

Don't judge another man until you've walked a mile in his moccasins.

peanutbutterandbanana · 26/10/2018 14:42

Never put anything in writing that you wouldn't want printed in the Daily Mail.

marvellousnightforamooncup · 26/10/2018 14:55

Having recently lost my mother I would say remember to love and make time for those close to you. Our bodies may wither and die but the love you share with people lives on long after death.

My pear of wisdom would probably be Conference 🍐.

April2020mom · 26/10/2018 15:40

An apple a day keeps you healthy
Money does not grow on trees
Don’t hesitate

These were some of my mom’s favourite sayings.

Mugglemom · 26/10/2018 15:42

Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind.

wordsmithereens · 26/10/2018 15:45

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today's a gift - that's why they call it the present. (Although that's more a bear of wisdom, given it's from Kung Fu Panda.)

For every situation in life, there's a thousand different stories we can tell ourselves, and most have some truth in them. Consider others' as valid as yours, then find the one that gives you peace and still lets you make this world a better place.

Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind.