If you could give someone ONE pear of wisdom to someone prior to your dying what would it be?

[Thisisit777]

For me, I think I’d say

Truly, Stand up for yourself - you are worth far more than you think.

Would love to hear other pearls of wisdom - in a contemplative mood today!

Keep remembering to look up.

Keep remembering to look at eachother.

Life turns on a sixpence - never go to sleep or part on an argument.

Every storm will pass.

And the old chestnut:

You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends - go to Stately Homes with people you actually like.

Clutch my pearls of wisdom and your life will not go pear-shaped.

That's a lot of pears, but we all need our 5 a day.

Get braces and wear your retainer always. No excuses.

Don't bleach your hair too much.

Don't put on weight thinking you can loose it.. you will get stretch marks and cellulite.

Let your hair down and sleep woth lots of people. It's great fun ( of safe and your happy)

There is no such thing as hitting rock bottom. Don't aim for getting worse. It can kill you. Aim to get better!

Read up on gaslighting.

Love is the only thing that really matters.

I've recently been diagnosed with incurable cancer, so this is at the forefront of my mind.

Williams are nicer than conference

BitOfFun, sorry to read that, I’m in the same position and wholeheartedly agree that love is all that matters.

Also that no one, at the end of their days, wishes they’d spent more time in the office. I’ve not worked since my diagnosis and have no plan to do so again (unless there’s suddenly a miracle cure). I’ve worked since I was 12, I’m 49 now.

I'm so, so to hear that bitoffun you are completely right. Love IS all that matters. There are places on MN you can vent to, if you ever need a hand hold or advice.

My pear is all the things money can buy is just stuff. I lost my DD to cancer and, from when she was diagnosed to this present day, when I hug my dc (even though all grown), I tell them, I like to think that, when I hug you, if we're sitting watching telly and I've got my hand on your knee, I'm trying to fill you up with love - like a car at a petrol station. I actually have started visualising this, in my head, I'm filling them up. Even 21yo DS appreciates the sentiment.

My one DC is profoundly disabled and all my hopes and fears are wrapped up in my family.

Also (taking the piss and shaking the pear tree, here). I doubt there is one person who ever thinks, in their final hours "I'm so glad I bought that sofa in 1989" or "I should have cleaned more".

The sun will always come up in the morning and the grass will always be green.

It always turns out good. Might not be how you thought it would turn out, but it always turns out good in he end.

Don't worry worry until worry bothers you.

If you feel out of place and not fitting in then keep looking, you have yet to find your people and your place.

Find the thing or things that gives you soup for the soul and use it in both good or hard times.

Don't wait for things to celebrate, find things to celebrate and do it in style.

Some people are just arseholes and that's alright. Move on, wish them well.

After a relationship break up, it might feel like the end of the world but it's not. Go stand outside and shout NEXT.

Don't run away from your problems and issues, they follow you wherever you go. Stand still, lean into them and sort them out

There's a good chance a lot of your life will be shit. Try not to stress it if you can - that's just how it is.

Just get on and do it!

Try everything at least once.

Never be beholden to a man

You cannot beat good manners.

There is only one true happiness in life, to love and to be loved.
The best things in life......aren’t things!

Love yourself more than you do.

At the end of every day write down 3 good things about that day. It really helps you count your blessings and appreciate the small things.

When the midwives tell you to do pelvic floor exercises, pay attention...

Make-up retails at prices higher than gold.

Spend the money on shares, invest in your education or put the money away in your pension pot.

Invest in a good sunscreen instead.

Never make a deathbed promise.

I've seen what happens when people are asked to make promises to the dying - it's a form of emotional blackmail against the living. If you want to do something in line with what the person would have wanted, fine your choice. But you should never be bounced into doing something you don't want to do, or which may be detrimental to you.

I am going to nick one I heard from someone's granny on the radio.

A woman is like a tea bag. You only find out how strong she is when she is in hot water.

I'll also nick one from Maya Angelou, 'Every child should be told, life is hard, but that's okay, you can take'. (she probably punctuated it better than me).

From my own life. Don't just call yourself a feminist - read about it and understand what it means. Then you won't waste years of your life with an Git, because you will realise you matter too and you don't need to sacrifice your life because you feel sorry for said narcissist, inadequate git.

The ones I go back to a lot:

The days are long but the years are short.

Life is long - eventually what you want will arrive.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

And one that kept me going through periods of darkness but i have to share it as an image as the layout is part of its beauty - a poem by Langston Hughes:

1. Never eat yellow snow
2. Never google Dragon Butter

Really; don't google it.

I really want to google dragon butter now but I’m scared.

My pears:

See the world while you can. If you want to go somewhere, you can afford it, and even if no one wants to go with you - go! You won’t regret it

We only get one life. Do what matters to you. Don’t spend life worrying what others think of you or pretending to be someone you’re not.

Don’t compare yourself and life to others, particularly by what you see on social media. It’s a filter and no one knows what goes on behind closed doors.

Listen to your own advice 😀😀😀