My dh died this afternoon. Please hold my hand through this.

[DeadZed]

We have four distraught dc. the police are still here. I don't know what to say to people. I don't know what to ask when they offer to help.

and I'm not watching the rest of the thread, it's too hard seeing someone else go through it.

So very sorry - holding your hand

Sending loads of love to you all.
If you need anything, reach out. Anyone near you would be happy to feel they have provided some support and comfort at this time.


So sorry 💐

Thinking of you.

So, so sorry.
Thinking of you and your children

so sad for you and the children.

im so sorry xx

So so sorry OP, thinking of you and your family 

I'm so sorry

 I'm sorry for your lost.

So sorry.

I’m sorry for your loss OP

Accept help from friends and family and take one day at a time.

I'm so sorry DeadZed

Oh, sorry to hear this, I hope you are all ok

Fuck! I am so sorry OP

I’m so sorry. My husband was killed in a car crash nearly eleven months ago. What a truly horrible situation you are all in and my heart goes out to you and your family and his family.
Concentrate on getting through your next breath, accept help from any one who offers and go to your GP to get help and support for you and your children.
I am so terribly sorry.

I'm so sorry @DeadZed , I'm thinking of you and the children x

So sorry for your loss x

Been here all too recently. I have to words of wisdom though as different circumstances and the way your family reacts is unique in every situation. The night after my husbands death though I dragged all our mattresses and bedding into our living room so we could watch a movie, listen to his fave songs, but more importantly just be together.

So sorry to hear your news.
I would ask GP to visit actually. Mine certainly would in circumstances. the whole family needs support. Offers of help ask for a meal.If you have a freezer you can put some in so you don't have to think for a while. I have done this for friends and it was welcomed. Things like casserole as it can be reheated at any time. You might not feel like food but the teens might.

I would just say not to send them to school for a week or so as it is quite harrowing for them. I have supported children in school and really they don't take anything in and walk around in shock. Leave them with a trusted friend at your house if you need to go out to make arrangements.Let them be part of choosing something like music or a poem to be read. Don't be surprised if they break down in a few months time and use any services for bereaved children as they wont want to tell you in case they upset you.Children are often very protective of the remaining parent.
Later on get them to make a little book each as that does help. Photos, envelopes with special memories in. lots of good things in The Range/Hobbycraft.
Keeping you in my prayers.

Thinking of you, I am so sorry. Today must be such a dark day. If you ever need to talk either tomorrow or in the months ahead, come back to this thread, @ our usernames and we'll be here to listen. Big hugs. Xxx

I’m so sorry. What a terrible shock for you all xxx

I am so, so sorry

My deepest sympathy to you and your DCs.

@Knittinganewme That's a great suggestion for the OP, I didn't know that fund existed. Thanks for sharing the info.