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Uncomfortable realisations about yourself

591 replies

Casperandme · 18/10/2018 08:57

I've had a couple of these recently, things I've realised about myself that are uncomfortable but at the same time things I wish I'd realised many years earlier.

In particular:

  • there are all of these altruistic things I think I want to do one day but it's all bullshit, I don't actually want to, I just fancy myself the sort of person that would want to if that makes sense.
  • I'm a gossip and I need to stop.

What are yours?

OP posts:
Frosty66611 · 19/10/2018 17:21

I’m lazy and will always choose the easiest option with everything in my life.

I’m jealous of women who are better looking than me.

I don’t take criticism of any sort well

PumpkinKitty82 · 19/10/2018 17:26

I’m the horrific combination of being lazy and a jealous person .
I’m jealous of people who have better things than me even though if I actually tried I could make enough to get all these nice things too but I won’t because I just can’t be arsed .
I want to change but yet I’m too comfortable here in my pathetic bubble

TheLastNigel · 19/10/2018 17:27

I've really been a bit more depressed than I thought for the last few years and I am terrible for holding grudges. I need to get Better and stop doing that (or in reverse order which might be the key).
I can be quite impatient with those closest to me.

DeniseRoyal · 19/10/2018 17:27

Where to start, I'm lazy, selfish at times, a blatant gossip, and very judgemental. I also nag my OH so much I sometimes don't know why he puts up with me. I am too quick to anger too, and I hate it.

BloobCurdling · 19/10/2018 17:29

I'm perfectly happy to make small-talk with a complete stranger in a lift or a shop - that type of brief human contact lifts my mood as it comes without any obligation. Chatting/small-talk with acquaintances is horrifyingly dull and I actively avoid it.

Yes exactly the same for me - why is this? I can be a lovely friendly person, and I'm not faking it, to strangers but the thought of having a "did you have a nice half term?" conversation with a parent acquaintance in the playground has me doing anything to avoid it.

PopGoesTheProsecco · 19/10/2018 17:30

My daughter is being assessed for ASD. From reading up on it and looking at the assessment forms - I realise I probably am too.

WTFIsAGleepglorp · 19/10/2018 17:31

In spite of my best intentions, I keep taking easy options, give up too easily and just rattle along doing the same old, same old.

Sally2791 · 19/10/2018 17:36

I am a hypocrite.
I am smug about things I have got right
Don't always finish what I've started
However I am honest about my faults (mostly) and so those close to me love me despite all.

Seniorschoolmum · 19/10/2018 17:38

I am very untrusting and that affects my relationships.

Am making a conscious effort to give people the benefit of the doubt.

Hungryagain · 19/10/2018 17:38

I feel guilt over everything
I try to please people so they like me (they don’t)
I’m lazy at times
I’m scared of failure so don’t follow through with things (college courses, learning to drive etc...)
I can’t do eye contact & mainly walk with my head to the ground.

Louise841417 · 19/10/2018 17:43

I’m incredibly self absorbed. Lazy, anxious, needy I could go on! Hmm When I drink I can be the nastiest piece of work you’ve ever met! Sad

morningconstitutional2017 · 19/10/2018 17:43

I'm not assertive enough and often let things slide, hoping that things will work themselves out in the end which in many cases they do. I'm often afraid to put myself forward in case I fail.

mybabydays · 19/10/2018 17:44

I always try to be the voice of reason and give others the balancing argument rather than an agreeing with them and just listening 🙄
I understand how annoying this is for others but can help myself

Rockhopper10 · 19/10/2018 17:44

I'm amazed at how honest everyone has been on this thread. So here's me:
I don't let other people finish what they're saying, and burst in with my own not-very-funny-but-seemingly-hard-to-repress anecdotes.

I'm waste far too much time playing Candy Crush (but I love to peace of it).

I take on too much, magically thinking that I will somehow fit it in (and in this way, let people down when I like to think I'll be helping them)

I hide behind work and other routine stuff, because I think I'm a bit too lazy or unimaginative to think about what else I could be doing (on the other hand, I really do think I like my job and the other things in my life...so maybe this isn't such a bad things).

user1499173618 · 19/10/2018 17:46

I hate being surrounded by a lot of people. I function best on my own or one-on-one.

I’m too patient with other people because I don’t like conflict.

LosingMoreThanNicotine · 19/10/2018 17:47

I’m a horrible drunk.

I’m occasionally nasty about everyone. Including the people I do genuinely really like. I realised not all that long ago that I’m terrified of what other people say about me (and terrified they don’t like me) and so I think I try to get in there first. Blush

I am extremely insecure.

TwittleBee · 19/10/2018 17:47

Literally the same as you theyusedtocalltheblues Flowers

AdoraBell · 19/10/2018 17:48

I’m a terrible procrastinator.

I’m an emotional eater, although that I know that I have some control over it.

KatKit16 · 19/10/2018 17:49

I love this thread!

IrishNinja · 19/10/2018 17:52

I'm lazy, sarcastic, awful with money, sometimes dishonest. Selfish. But somehow manage to convince everyone I'm none of this thing. Which harks back to the dishonesty. People think I'm funny but actually I just use sarcasm to mask I'm not actually joking when I say something mean. Everyone thinks I'm nice. I'm actually a complete bitch.

snugglebean · 19/10/2018 17:57

I have OCD intrusive thoughts that if they had any sort of platform in the real world would make me sound like a cross between Oswald Mosley and Sarah Palin even though in real life I embrace our pluralistic society, vote Labour, etc. If I could swap brains with anyone I would do it in a heartbeat. I am also lazy, I overspend, am anxious, depressed, narcissistic, insecure, drink too much, am clumsy and selfish.

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 19/10/2018 17:57

I'm much more damaged by my childhood than I'd ever realised before I had my own kids.

SushiMonster · 19/10/2018 18:02

I am addicted to my smart phone

I waste way too much time on MN. This is awful. I could dedicate this time to self-improvement (language?) or to something useful like matched betting. But I don't. Why not?

I bite my nails.

I procrastinate. I could achieve so much more at work if I worked all day rather than fucked about. I am always surprised how good people at work seem to think my work and I am... I;n like, I told you it took all week but I knocked it up today.

I love being sociable and seeing friends but find it hard to keep people in my 'view' if they move out of our shared situation. Like if you move away I'm probably not going to come to Bristol and visit you.

I am very judgmental. I hate perceived weaknesses of character or mind.

MaidofEyes · 19/10/2018 18:05

*gothefctosleep -

  • I either waffle like a mad woman or get straight to the point. Makes conversations so awkward.*

Yes, completely this ^

I lack confidence and ambition

I can be arrogant

I'm indecisive

I'm impatient (yeah, the irony given the above point).

I'm grumpy

I really like my own space maybe too much

singmysongtoo · 19/10/2018 18:06

I love this thread.
I'm incredibly entitled and feel I should have the best of everything because I deserve it. Except I don't.
People often describe me as lovely and caring but I have horrible thoughts in reality.