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Is it "normal" for mother of bride to walk down aisle?

94 replies

Whisky2014 · 07/10/2018 17:59

After all the other guests but before the bridesmaid and brides? Or would she be seated at the front at the same time all the other guests are being seated? Whats normal? Is this a special thing to do?

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MattBerrysHair · 07/10/2018 18:00

I have never ever in my life seen that happen. Ever.

EllenJanesthickerknickers · 07/10/2018 18:00

It's not traditional but if you all want it, why not?

GreenTulips · 07/10/2018 18:01

Most mothers are seated and only bride and her father (but could be mother) then bridesmaids

But mothers and fathers can walk their daughter down the isle Of that's preferable - or even just a mother

Mother on her own? Bit thunder stealing?

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ThisIsTheNational · 07/10/2018 18:02

I've seen it done both ways. Usually one of the ushers will walk her down.

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Whisky2014 · 07/10/2018 18:03

Well, i hadnt even thought about this tbh! But today my mum said what about her? She needed my brother to walk her down and she didnt want to sit on her own and that this happend at all weddings :s

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HolesinTheSoles · 07/10/2018 18:03

I've seen a mothers of the brides walk their daughters down the aisle instead of or in addition to their dads but not just walk down on their own!

AnotherPidgey · 07/10/2018 18:03

Normally seated ready. Occasionally give bride away. That doesn't mean you have to follow the "rules"

BertrandRussell · 07/10/2018 18:03

My friend walked down the aisle with her mother and her father. And I've also been to a wedding where the mother of the bride walked to her seat with the groom and his best man. That was sweet. Do whatever you would like to do.

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Whisky2014 · 07/10/2018 18:04

And that its like a special thing to do. So after all guests seated she will walk wigh my brother down the aisle. Ive never heard of this!

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Proofer · 07/10/2018 18:08

I've never heard of this

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Whisky2014 · 07/10/2018 18:08

Ages ago she asked if she could walk me down the aisle with my dad. I said well id never imaguned that id always thougjt she wpuld be ay the end of the aisle and me and dad walk down. She said ok. Then today made a deal of how she should get a bit of an entrance! She looked like she was.going to cry when i was confused and had basically said no you will be sitting down at same time as everyone else. Then it all got a bit weird and my dad said "well mums want to feel a but special clearly" or something along those lines. So i then asked if my fiances parents should also walk down after the guests and i got the impression that no, they shouldn't! Tbh they wouldnt want to anyway but i found the whole thing bizarre

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sockunicorn · 07/10/2018 18:10

i was bridesmaid at a wedding a few months ago and the brides mother had kicked a fuss (behind the scenes) that her husband (FOB) got to walk down the aisle, bride got to walk down AND SHE DIDNT. bride told her it was weird and to stop it. at the ceremony, while bridesmaids were waiting for the FOB & bride to arrive, MOB came to the vestry at the back of the church and - as the brides car drew up -she told a guest to go get her an usher as she wanted a word. usher came into the back and MOB proceeded to link him and, with a cheshire cat smile, force him down the aisle with her as she waved like the bloody queen at all the commoners in the pews!!!

WheresTheEvidence · 07/10/2018 18:10

I have been to 2 weddings where the mother gave the daughter away 1. Was widowed 2. Daughter chose her mother over her father.

Otherwise dont they just sit at the front and save a seat for the father

GreyPJs · 07/10/2018 18:10

This is absolutely not a thing.

Joe66 · 07/10/2018 18:11

It's traditional for the mother of the bride to be the last one seated as they usually wait outside the church for first sight of the bride. They then help the bride and bridesmaids arrange their dresses and then enters the church and takes her seat. The music then starts for the welcoming of the bride. These days you can do what you want witthin the boundaries of good taste.

Spam88 · 07/10/2018 18:11

It would be normal for them to enter after all the other guests are seated, sometimes escorted by an usher/son, but not as part of the procession, so before the music starts if that makes sense. Partly just due to logistics as presumably she'll be arriving with the bridesmaids and will be outside with you before the ceremony starts.

BirdieInTheHand · 07/10/2018 18:11

Usher usually walks mother of bride down aisle.

Mother and father of bride are "hosting" so mother would stay outside greeting and talking with guests would be last person to be seated, wait a minute and then bride arrives.

SenecaFalls · 07/10/2018 18:12

In the US, if the mother is not walking with her daughter down the aisle, there is usually a special entrance of the mothers (and grandmothers, too.) The groom's mother goes first, escorted by an usher, with her husband/partner following. She is seated, then the bride's mother is escorted down the aisle to her seat. When she is seated, that is the signal for the bridal party to begin processing.

Babdoc · 07/10/2018 18:13

OP, it is your wedding, not your mother’s. She doesn’t get to hijack it to be all about her.
Simply tell her how you are going to have it and where and when you want her seated. She needs to get over herself.

Joe66 · 07/10/2018 18:13

Actually it's all a bit sexist and I would have loved my mum and dad to walk me down the aisle.

Bobbiepin · 07/10/2018 18:13

Both my parents walked me down the aisle. Do what you want, but because you want to, not because your mum is being a drama llama.

katienana · 07/10/2018 18:13

At my wedding my mum popped down to see me before I went down the aisle, I think my brother (an usher) walked her back up but it wasn't to music or anything. And I don't think was discussed beforehand and she didn't, you know, strut or anything like that.

SenecaFalls · 07/10/2018 18:14

There would be music during the entrance of the mothers, but it would change for the bridal procession.

mummmy2017 · 07/10/2018 18:14

Ask her if her mum did this.
Then when she says. No.
Remind her she had her wedding. This is your wedding.

PillowOfSociety · 07/10/2018 18:14

Well, why not have your Mum AND your Dad walk you down the aisle?

They both patented you, together. Why are you your Dad’s alone to give away?

My Mum made a speech at my brother’s wedding: Father of the Bride / Mother of the Groom.

Wedding etiquette needs shaking up. Far too rooted in the patriarchy for today!

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