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Straw poll: if you married in the last 5 years, did you change your name or not?

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HerculesTheBerkules · 28/08/2018 13:19

Just talking about this at work, I thought more people changed their names than didn't, but colleague thought otherwise. What did you do? (Just curiosity, you don't have to explain your decision btw!)

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APermanentlyExhaustedPigeon · 28/08/2018 13:20

I kept mine

Smidge001 · 28/08/2018 13:23

I changed mine

Yoghurty · 28/08/2018 13:25

Married 5 years ago, never officially changed my name.

zebrarobot · 28/08/2018 13:25

We married 4.5 years ago and I changed mine

TheCraicDealer · 28/08/2018 13:26

Married one year ago, neither of us changed our names.

ProseccoPoppy · 28/08/2018 13:26

I changed mine (wanted us to have the same name, we were both open to a name change so discussed and picked the name we preferred which happened to be his). Other couples we know who also married in the last 5 years:

  • 2 x her changing to his
  • 2 x double barrelled (in both cases her name first)
  • 1 x him changing to hers
  • 2 both kept own
Anotherdayanotherdollar · 28/08/2018 13:27

I changed mine. Although I don't use my married name at work (professional registration).

chuckiecheese · 28/08/2018 13:29

No strictly answering the question but your 'maiden' name is still your fathers name so from a feminist pov you are still carrying a male name whether it is your husband or fathers name Grin

lornathewizzard · 28/08/2018 13:32

Married 4 years ago, changed name

GreenPimpernel · 28/08/2018 13:33

No, and I don't know anyone who did. Among the people I know, that would be a deeply strange decision.

No strictly answering the question but your 'maiden' name is still your fathers name so from a feminist pov you are still carrying a male name whether it is your husband or fathers name

This again. It's your birth name. You've had it all your life. How is it not your own name? Is a man's name any less his own name because it is also his father's name? Hmm

MrsMoggy · 28/08/2018 13:37

Married 7 years ago, changed my name. All my friends who have got married since have also changed theirs. We are all in our late twenties

Thurlow · 28/08/2018 13:38

I got married this morning Grin No, I'm not changing my name. But I'd say about 70 of my friends who married have.

CoffeebyIV · 28/08/2018 13:41

I got married a few months ago. I changed. I like that we have the same name but also that his name was easier to spell than my previous.

CoxwellHuge · 28/08/2018 13:41

Married 4.5 years ago and I changed my name. I had been married previously and still had my ex-husbands name so was happy to change and get rid of that. However even if I hadn't been married previously, I would still have changed my name.

TwistedStitch · 28/08/2018 13:43

Chuckiecheese I've had my name for nearly 40 years, at what point am I allowed to call it mine? And why is a husband's name his own but a wife's name is her father's?

DeltaG · 28/08/2018 13:43

Both DH and I took each other's names. So we now have two surnames each. It's a bit weird as we're different nationalities and the names very obviously reflect this. Don't care though.

ContadoraExplorer · 28/08/2018 13:45

Changed it for personal things but kept maiden name for work. I haven't changed passports or driving license yet as there was a good few years left on the passport and wanted both to be the same (in the event of driving a hire car abroad) but I will do when the time comes.

SpectacularAardvark · 28/08/2018 13:48

I changed my name, to me the whole point of marriage is to be a family unit.
I can't think of any friends who didn't change their name apart from a doctor who uses her maiden name professionally.
Each to their own though, whatever works for you both as a couple.

DieAntword · 28/08/2018 13:53

Changed it. Was tempted to go double barrelled but the paper work for husband was too much like a faff. I kind of miss my maiden name because I love my daddy (stfu haters I will always call him daddy :P) but my new name is nice and anonymous because its super common.

NotAnotherNoughtiesTune · 28/08/2018 13:56

Changed it so we all had same surname.

steppingout · 28/08/2018 13:58

I kept mine. We discussed double barrelling but he shares his name with DSD and we didn't want her to feel left out.

Cheeseplantandpickle · 28/08/2018 13:59

Changed

AndSheSteppedOnTheBall · 28/08/2018 14:01

Kept my name.

MaMisled · 28/08/2018 14:02

Didn't change mine.

DollyWilde · 28/08/2018 14:02

Married last month, changed mine because we wanted to have the same name and mine would have sounded ridiculous with his first name.

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