My boyfriend has started hitting me when angry

[adoggymama]

Hi everyone, I was debating on making this post as it's not so severe that I would call it abuse but I'm scared it could get worse if you see what I mean?

Recently my boyfriend, when angry or when I've annoyed him (eg 5 mins ago I gave the dog a biscuit and he got annoyed because the dog should only be given biscuits when being good and he grabbed an empty pillow case (with sharp zipper on it) and slapped me round the leg with it) he is stronger than me and it obviously hurt- now with a red leg mark and raised bump with blood from the zipper catching it.

I love him and there has always been an element of 'pain' in our sexual relationship, which I like to some degree. (Eg spanking/choking/hair pull) but this past weekend he's hit me 3 times. Twice with his hand on my bare legs that left marks.

He's never done this before but is under pressure at the moment with work so I guess he's more testy. I was just joking around those times and he got angry and then lashed out.

Anyway I just wanted to get some other peoples opinions as I can't talk to anyone in my personal life if you know what I mean.

Thanks

Please never have kids with this poor excuse for a man.

It will get worse. Please go home you're not safe.

It’s so sad when someone doesn’t get when they are in danger. I was slightly pushed as someone stood up from a sofa but I knew the anger behind it. I was also called a horrid name I’d never been subjected to in my life and I will never let it happen again. I left and never looked back. Life is too short. I was smarter because of a verbally abusive relationship in my past. I was young then at the time and married. Thought because I was married I had to except how he was. Eventually I matured and got divorced.

I know you haven't replied to the thread for ages but I wanted to add something.
First of all I hope you're okay and you did leave him and that's why you didn't come back.
Secondly, and this is only if you are still with him and his behaviour is still disgusting. I am near enough the same age as you, and whilst I haven't been abused physically I live with someone who has been violent to people in the past. This means I am so scared to sleep at night I have to wait until he is fully asleep and has stopped waking up for midnight wanders to be able to drift off otherwise I'm scared he could just come into my room and start hitting me. I've literally run away in the middle of the night before because I was too scared to stay there. My fear is based on his actions towards other people. Yours should be based on he's hurting you already and I'm guessing if you've stayed he's gotten a lot worse since you first posted.
You were scared enough to post, so please if you weren't already be scared enough to leave. Your parents should blacklist him. And they'll help you get your things and your dog.
And if you need a friend because he's isolated you at all I'm here, just send me a message x

Rough sex where it's agreed is one thing. Thinking you can take a swipe at someone when you feel like it and being allowed to is another. He is abusing you and you are letting him. You need to leave him. It will get worse. You need to leave before he belittles you and makes you so weak that you are incapable if doing so. Take the puppy ir rehome it. Soneone like that won't give a shit about an animal if he can't even treat his partner with respect.

it's only recent though and he's 100% lovely and funny the rest of the time

You are minimising violence against women.

There are lovely funny men out there who don't hit women.

I feel like it would be a HUGE over reaction to leave now as it's only 3 hits

What's the standard, acceptable number of hits then...?

This man sounds crazy. I hope you wake up and realise all and any abuse is unacceptable (then leave) before he progresses to knocking you spark out

For reference, if I ever had children with him- I would NEVER tolerate any kind of behaviour like that from him
Don't have children with him!!!!
You do realise it's illegal to leave a mark when smacking a child don't you? So it's not like smacking a child, and most decent parents don't smack nowadays anyway.

Go find yourself a decent man - he sounds detestable.