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How to deal with friend making me feel awkward

155 replies

NotSinisterAtAll · 11/06/2018 09:36

Yesterday I took my friend some flowers and some wine for her birthday. I was quite happy to stand on the doorstep but she asked me in. I did say no as I was feeling a little awkward but she insisted so I went in to the hallway and shut the door. We chatted and she beckoned me in to the house more. I kept saying no, meaning I’m ok to just chat here. She opened her lounge door and her kids were sat at the table having their tea. They said hi, seemed pleased to see me. She asked me in to the lounge but I said no as I didn’t want to feel more awkward. She eventually took me by the wrist and took me in to the lounge. We chatted, all was ok but I just felt a bit awkward. Eventually we went back outside chatted more and I left. Bit later I got a text saying thank you for the flowers and apologising for making me feel awkward. She realised she’d made me feel this way, however, I’m wondering if I should pull her up on it in person? She’d probably feel awkward herself and probably humiliated but I feel I need to say something for it not to happen again. WWYD? Should I accept the text apology and leave it or pull her up on it and risk humiliating her (which may seem extreme but she’s very sensitive). I’m stuck.

OP posts:
Frosty66612 · 11/06/2018 09:37

Why did you feel awkward going into her house if she’s your friend?

gamerchick · 11/06/2018 09:38

You're kidding right? Grin

gamerchick · 11/06/2018 09:40

I don't know what your problem is sorry. Maybe she feels comfortable bringing people into the house, especially when they want to keep one eye on their kids having their tea.

Although I think this is a joke thread in response to mumsnet never answering the door ever.

TokenBritPoshOfCourse · 11/06/2018 09:41

If this is for real then you are rude and obnoxious. There’s nothing to ‘pull her up on’ ffs.

StealthPolarBear · 11/06/2018 09:42

Why?

stopbeingadramallama · 11/06/2018 09:42

She invited you in? And everyone seemed happy to see you?
If you really didn't want to go in surely you could have said you had to be somewhere?

Grumpyoldblonde · 11/06/2018 09:43

It's not her that needs to apologise.

DearMrDilkington · 11/06/2018 09:43
Confused What?
QuickWash · 11/06/2018 09:44

This is all very odd!

If you like her enough to take her flowers why on earth would you wish to remain solely on her doorstep to chat?

Sje invited you in so dje could properly thank you and chat in a comfortable environment. Or so she could still be within earshot of her children, or so you could say hi to them too.

It's far odder to be picking apart this interaction and you don't sound like her friend at all. Why did you take her gifts in the first place?!

Nottheduchessofcambridge · 11/06/2018 09:46

You are bonkers OP, you took your friend flowers and wine but felt awkward in her house, now you want her to apologise? That’s the craziest thing I’ve heard in a while. You are the one who made it awkward, not her.

Mountainsoutofmolehills · 11/06/2018 09:46

it's cool man, don't worry. Really you are over thinking this..... She was wanting you to come in, she likes you, she cares about you, she wants you to feel safe in her place. SHE LIKES YOU.

Ohyesiam · 11/06/2018 09:47

You’ve not said why you felt awkward, and there are no clues on your post.
Had you previously had an enormous row and this was the first time you’d seen her since or something?
Come back and explain with the full story op, this doesn’t make sense.

Friendsupport · 11/06/2018 09:47

Weirdest thread ever

kaldefotter · 11/06/2018 09:47

There’s nothing for you to ‘pull her up on’. Why on earth would you think there is.

Your response should be along the lines of ‘not to worry; it was lovely to see you’.

PositivelyPERF · 11/06/2018 09:47

The cunt! How dare she be nice to you! Cheeky fucker trying to welcome you into her home! 😡 I’d go no contact, then you’ll never have the risk of her being nice to you again!

PositivelyPERF · 11/06/2018 09:48

Now waiting for OP to drip feed that the whole family are naturists and we’re bollock naked. 😁

PositivelyPERF · 11/06/2018 09:49

Oops were

notacooldad · 11/06/2018 09:49

There have been some odd threads lately.
This is the latest!

letsdolunch321 · 11/06/2018 09:50

So she sent you a thankyou text and asked you in. What is the problem here!?!?!?!

Maybe you should give yourself a talking to about the way you acted in the presence of your friend

Pippylou · 11/06/2018 09:52

She needed to attend to the kids but was happy to chat...

gamerchick · 11/06/2018 09:54

Now waiting for OP to drip feed that the whole family are naturists and we’re bollock naked

Grin

Come back OP, I'm waiting on painkillers to kick in.

GinandGingerBeer · 11/06/2018 09:55

Crikey don't pull her up on it. The issue is yours. She was perfectly polite and you were the one who made it awkward from what you've written in your OP.
I can't quite fathom why she needs pulling up on it unless you've described it inaccurately somehow.

Dvg · 11/06/2018 09:56

I'm guessing it's a troll of some kind... OK sounds too... crazy

ZeroFuchsGiven · 11/06/2018 10:00

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How to deal with friend making me feel awkward
Outlookmainlyfair · 11/06/2018 10:02

Don’t worry! 15-20% of the population it has been estimated are highly sensitive (often mistaken as shyness) your response would be rational and expected by other highly sensitive people but the rest of the population will not understand at all. The best the you can do is understand that your friend means well and appreciate and value your own feelings and emotions while understanding that people are different!

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