if you caught your 9 year old son watching porn showing naked men on his iPod Touch!

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I feel sick as just caught my just 9 year old ds watching porn on his iPod touch, he had it hid under his pillow and begged that he delete something before I took it, I snatched it off him and he was hysterical and so upset, he said it just came up on the screen, I have checked his history and he's been looking at it for days, I have now set parental control and he is in bed, what the hell do I say to him tomorrow?

Poor little thing. Hope you're both ok.
I'd be seriously worried about the police. Shuldnt you be reporting this.

Make sure you don't accuse him of anything.

Why would you not want to discuss it with school? There are all sorts of reasons why sharing it might help, no need to be embarrassed.

If it's totally out of character then I'd want to know where/whom he got that info from & why did THEY know.

" naked people being for grown ups to see"

No no no!!

Really shocked and disturbed by responses on this thread actually.

I remember when I was very young (probably about 6 or 7!) my sister and I found dirty magazines in my dad's bedside drawer (1970s you can imagine!), I then showed them my best mate when she came for tea! Then, the next time we had tea at her house (we did alternate weeks), we got some paper and drew our own versions! Her mum found them and I don't to this day know if she said anything to my mum

The school would be able to do a lot including giving him someone impartial to talk to should he need it and have online safety talks and lessons, they might also have knowledge that you don't about kids he is hanging about with and their home lives and guide him along the right path.

I wouldn't tell him off, you have as much of a part to play as he did really, but you have both learned a lesson now.

I would carefully consider supervised internet access for a while if I were you. Porn can be quite addictive, and children can be very sneaky.

And you do need to take the ipod away until you can be assured that your child is not accessing adult materials.

If you found a porn DVD in his room, would you let him keep it???

You do not have to speak to the school, it is your lack of supervision that is at fault here.

stealth polar what are you shocked about?

I don't believe he got it from anyone as he doesn't take it to school and hadn't been around anyone, I think he Google naked men and came up with awful things he shouldn't see, I will speak to the school and to him, I was shocked but calm now and I certainly don't want to upset him, it's out of character

I agree with Titchy that it could be perfectly normal. Their bodies start to change around 8/9 years old - they get their first shift towards puberty. he may just have been curious what he'd end up looking like and googled naked men to see if it was normal to grow hair etc.

Or maybe he's starting to know his sexual orientation. Lots of people do at around that age. And if so, again, it is natural to be curious. (Not suggesting you let it continue but I wouldn't get panicked.) As said above, explain that those photos are for adults to look at and ask without any anger or worry what interested him about them.

Firstly you owe him a massive apology for not setting parental controls before you gave it to him. Its a shitty world we live in and its your job to keep him safe. You need to reassure him he didn't do anything wrong, empathise with how traumatised he clearly is, and make as sincere promise to keep him safe.

He has beenaccessing child porn. Children, maybe his age, maybe younger, being abused. Yet people are calmly saying this is for adults and comparing it to an 80 want mag. I feel sick.

Sorry, Posted too soon! Meant to say, I think there's a natural curiosity about naked bodies and things at that age, but the Internet allows access to much stronger stuff than we'd find as children 40 years ago. Get those internet passwords sorted now.

Do NOT tell him child porn is for adults to look at.
Sick world

To be clear, I don't blame him. But it's not normal for adults. And in additoon i'd be seriously worried about a knock from the police. Maybe I'm naive.

I'm not sure it is child porn?

There were no children he googled men and I saw no evidence of children, sorry to shock but I felt terrible and just wanted advice, he's a sweet boy and I believe it was chance that he came across it and then I think he must have been inquisitive, I just think he's so young and wish if thought about parental control before I gave him the device, he certainly won't be playing with it alone but I also don't want to punish him. I will chat to him Tomorrow, thank u everyone for the advice

Obviously no one is suggesting child pornography is ok for anyone, I don't think anyone else on the thread assumed it is involving children from the responses.

Well I can't see any other way of interpeting it. Unless she means he had friends over and they were all watching it but I suspect that would have been mentioned further.
things were tolerated on the 70s that aren't now - dream on!

It says in the sodding title

I'm very concerned, like stealth, by the "and boys"
Things like you porn and so on are adults.
sounds.like he's somehow accessed ileagal child abuse pornography
I. Would actually be speaking to the police to.allow them to act.on the porn and to actually perhaps suggest how you should discuss this with your boy

I'm. Not saying he's been.abused but he's seen.child.porn ffs.
That's seriously disturbing

Stealth - did I miss something? I had no idea that's what it was. I assumed it was just men. (I read 'boys' as meaning young men. Didn't even occur to me it meant anything more disturbing. If so, I agree with you completely. That is not natural, not suitable for adults, or anyone, and I would handle that situation very differently.

Am I on another planet? I think this may be one of those threads mn would advise me to back away from as I am sic ally reacting.
Op I hope your son is ok. I wish I could say the same for the other boys