Talk away, Vampy, it has to help. But it's not the Brit thing to dicuss such topics, is it, so I expect like, say, religion, the Colonel and his family are uncomfortable with discussing it.
My gran looked like that, too, I remember, just peaceful. Maybe it was something to do with the fact that her eyes were (obviously) closed?
Yes, number two was Gizzy, indeed. When I cranked up the zoom, later, I could see his pointed sideburns, a little darker against the stubble, bless his heart.
Pretty pics? Well, JP looks in need of a wee bit of TLC, here but that shouldn't be too much of a chore to provide.