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I'm a single mum of 7. AMA!

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WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 13:29

Scared 😅

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basketsmash · 25/07/2026 14:16

@HollyhocksandPeonsI am more comfortable paying tax towards the OP & here dc vs other beneficiaries of my tax. We need to invest in the young & there really aren’t many people having 7 dc for it to be an issue.

Blushingm · 25/07/2026 14:16

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 14:15

I work 21 hours.

Why do I think this is okay? I can't send the kids back...

Why don’t you work full time?

You chose to have the kids knowing you can’t support them though

chedderland · 25/07/2026 14:16

Babablacksheep12 · 25/07/2026 13:49

How do you afford swimming lessons? football etc
how do you read with them all each night/ spend time doing their homework?

I have 2 and struggle 😂 both working full time.

is washing non stop? I wash twice a day with bedding, clothes, uniform etc

how do you take them on days out - do you have a big car?

She gets benefits of course

PotNoodleHair · 25/07/2026 14:16

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 14:07

No I agree with you ... I do pay tax too though!

The tax paid becomes rather insignificant when you’re taking £4k in UC every month.

Tinahowls · 25/07/2026 14:16

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 14:00

  1. Luckily my children love caravan holidays 🤣

Have they ever been abroad out of interest? Caravan holidays… how many caravans do you hire?

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 14:16

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 25/07/2026 14:14

Your eldest is a boy (17yo) from what I've read and you fled DV.
Is he very protective of you ?

No 😂 he never says a bad word about anyone. He's a great person

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basketsmash · 25/07/2026 14:16

@Blushingmbut there isn’t too many dc! The NHS is suffering from the ageing population

Tablesandchairs23 · 25/07/2026 14:17

Why did you have so many kids when you can't afford them.

Mariets · 25/07/2026 14:17

This has to be be a piss take. Coming on here to boast about having seven kids with different dads, then talking about having savings even though you don't earn much has to be a wind up, or you're just a scrounger who expects the government to pick up the slack. You'd better hang on to those saving because once your kids are adults you'll end up with nothing but basic UC.

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 14:17

Blushingm · 25/07/2026 14:16

Why don’t you work full time?

You chose to have the kids knowing you can’t support them though

There aren't any full time jobs in my field

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WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 14:18

Mariets · 25/07/2026 14:17

This has to be be a piss take. Coming on here to boast about having seven kids with different dads, then talking about having savings even though you don't earn much has to be a wind up, or you're just a scrounger who expects the government to pick up the slack. You'd better hang on to those saving because once your kids are adults you'll end up with nothing but basic UC.

Boast?

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HollyhocksandPeons · 25/07/2026 14:18

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Tings · 25/07/2026 14:18

Mariets · 25/07/2026 14:17

This has to be be a piss take. Coming on here to boast about having seven kids with different dads, then talking about having savings even though you don't earn much has to be a wind up, or you're just a scrounger who expects the government to pick up the slack. You'd better hang on to those saving because once your kids are adults you'll end up with nothing but basic UC.

And a cleaner, a pet and caravan holidays (which aren't cheap) paid for by the tax payer 🙄

Tinahowls · 25/07/2026 14:18

thisfilmisboring123 · 25/07/2026 14:14

I don’t know much about the training but I do work with benefits and just couldn’t resist to reply about the savings part lol.

As others have said, wondering if there are a few tall tales in this thread tbh.

Even if we do believe the Op has the absolute max of £16k saved…. It’s. It going to go far with further training

and

she has a child heading off to uni in September!

Blushingm · 25/07/2026 14:18

basketsmash · 25/07/2026 14:16

@Blushingmbut there isn’t too many dc! The NHS is suffering from the ageing population

The population is ageing and it will continue to do so. It’s on its knees. There are already too many people

Tinahowls · 25/07/2026 14:19

Do you drive?

CeciliaMars · 25/07/2026 14:19

Do you understand why people are resentful of the taxpayer giving you £4k a month to live off? When most people only gave the children they can support themselves? Genuinely curious as to whether you can see the other point of view here.

summerrevival · 25/07/2026 14:19

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 14:17

There aren't any full time jobs in my field

In the law?😂😂😂

sittingonabeach · 25/07/2026 14:19

If you are studying why have another child? Contraception?

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 14:20

summerrevival · 25/07/2026 14:19

In the law?😂😂😂

I don't work in Law currently?

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hairbearbunches · 25/07/2026 14:20

HollyhocksandPeons · 25/07/2026 14:12

This is the same conversation though - I pay tax. My Polish neighbour also goes on about 'paying tax' when he is clearly a nett beneficiary, not a nett contributor - after NHS, state schools, council housing, child benefit, tax credits. People who are a drain keep saying 'I pay taxes'.

However, if this is not a goady but a genuine post, I do think we as taxpayers should foot the bill for this lady having 7 children because we ourselves are under-reproduce, hence the dwindling native population and the need to rely on incomers. I have no problem if my taxes to go the upkeep of these children, genuinely.

I admire your generosity. The evidence shows though that kids from families like this particular one are far more likely to go on and replicate their family situation than they are to escape it. So, in reality, more kids, more benefits, more taking and not much contributing.

I think OP said her eldest was off to university, so maybe there's hope. But it is not the typical scenario.

thisfilmisboring123 · 25/07/2026 14:21

How much difference has the removal of the 2 child cap made to your UC payments?

What were you getting in UC before April?

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Tings · 25/07/2026 14:21

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 14:17

There aren't any full time jobs in my field

Unless you're a scarecrow this shouldn't matter.

You take whatever full-time job you can to feed your family.

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 14:21

Tinahowls · 25/07/2026 14:19

Do you drive?

Yes since I was 17. I don't know how people manage without being able to drive!

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