I'm a single mum of 7. AMA!

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Scared 😅

I’d give that post the award for most bonkers 😜 on this thread.

I think the main question for me is why have so many children?

You can't support them without external help. It doesn't matter really how much you get to me to be honest, I just can't fathom why you would keep churning out more and more. You're not stupid, you're doing a degree.

So why have more and more?

You said you're too old to have more, but based on (rough memory from what I think you said) you were 19 with first one who is now 17, so you're not yet 40.

Why do you think you are too old? Are you going to be using birth control? Are you going to be (can't think of a way to say this without sounding massively judgey) more choosy about partners in future?

I had 2 because I wanted to give my attention to 2 children, to give them different experiences and have time to work and build a secure future for them.
Why did you continue to have children knowing the dads weren’t involved? Why the need to have more and not just focus on providing the best life you can for your first children?

We rarely all get together but when we can have a laugh about something, it's just amazing. I laugh so loudly 😂

Why on earth wouldn’t I think that? You’ve gotta be a special sort of stupid to repeatedly make the same mistakes that harm children over and over again.

That or you just don’t care, one of the two.

Her kids say she’s a good mum? And? Plenty of young kids and teens say that because they’re wired too, and they know no different.

So yeah, it’s either stupidity or selfishness. My bets on the former.

Because it's easier without a dad involved

Anyway I don’t believe this post is real. Someone’s bored ….. it’s just rage bait.

If you must know I'm absolutely terrified of sex now. Or any kind of intimacy. The rape has had a massive effect on me

That's one of the most horrible things you've ever heard??

Ok then.

Of course it is real! Now as to the rage bait,
look closer to home!

That’s what I feel. Those older children have been through no dad, different relationships, new siblings, limited money and yet still more siblings. Why weren’t they enough?

With all due respect I haven't been bored since 2008...

You still here?

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I’ll try again with my questions- what do you think the impact has been on your older children? The lack of consistency and all the upheaval of your multiple relationships and baby after baby must have been very hard on them. How do you feel they are impacted and is it possible to support them when you have so many children with various needs that take up your time? Did you consider the older children and the impact on them every time you got into a new relationship or had a new baby?

4k in benefits takes the piss. I had to work my ass off to earn that when my kids were little.

Agree +++ You sound great, your replies are perfect

She’s already said this includes rent which is probably a big percentage of the UC and just because she had as a lot of children doesn’t mean they should go without. And she works. Which is admirable

Not long now OP. Only space for a handful of posts.

We need a system which doesn't allow the dads to stop paying on a whim.

That’s great, not many of us could x

In France and Italy they are paying women to have babies.

It IS easier with the dad(s) around if you choose the right sort of men, you know the ones who parent and pay for half of everything…..

This!!!

I am absolutely disgusted that you take home more in a month than my family, with my (highly-trained, qualified) husband’s 6-figure salary.

we have one child because that’s all we can afford, we get ZERO child benefit, free childcare hours, absolutely nothing. My husband pays tax on EVERY SINGLE PENNY HE EARNS so that you can have SEVEN children with a multitude of unsuitable men (seriously, just get the implant, it’s free!) and have your lifestyle funded by the state. just because you’re also working extremely part time (can’t go over those 16 hours for UC!) and studying (more debt) doesn’t make you anymore worthy.

we are desperate for just a second child, just one more. Because of the welfare state in this country we can’t afford it. How is this morally right?!!

Every second post on Mumsnet is about awful men.