I'm a single mum of 7. AMA!

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Scared 😅

How do you help your children deal with repeatedly living with a new man then watching the relationship break up? If there are 4 dads your eldest has dealt with huge upheaval at least 4 times? That's a hell of a lot to put a kid through. Have they had therapy?

Do any of them still have a relationship with any of your previous partners?

Are you okay??? I’m a single mum if 1 and I thought that was hard! 🤣x

Same here. I work full time take home almost £1900
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Yes, everyone’s net pay has to cover rent/mortgage and childcare, the difference being that the vast majority of people don’t have £6k a month before those bills.

We would have to have jobs paying £65k a year to get £4k a month. She’s actually getting £6k due to CMS and her £14k a year job. Which is a gross annual salary of £110k, by which point we would have lost any allowance for tax free childcare discounts so wouldn’t even get that 20% reduction.

Add in other benefits and discounts like free school dinners, reduced entry fees for attractions, NHS dental and optician support etc on top of that too.

I know a few women who have had their requests to be sterilised refused by the NHS.

One had 4 DC, was told she was too young and might want more children in the future.

One was desperate for the op, suffered severe PMDD, suicidal and so on. Doctor said no because her husband might want DC one day. She pointed out she was in a same sex marriage. He said "well you might get divorced and marry a man who wants DC".

Women are being denied this surgery all the time.

That sounds like total bullshit. I’ve never heard of a school that asks how many siblings you have.

So wrong and frankly irresponsible.

I bet this didn’t go the way op expected. Unless it’s a wind up.

Her children don’t appear to have , what I would consider a good quality of like. 6k a month yet the op doesn’t go on foreign holidays with her kids, nor do they do any activities. I suppose with activities a single mum of 7 would be limited in how she would be ferrying kids around to clubs.

I find this absolutely ridiculous and exactly the kind of fodder to feed into anti-benefit narratives; honestly can we blame them with this kind of situation? I am a primary headteacher and the OP “brings home” just over what I do. My husband and I live in the south east and have to budget to help to fund this kind of woman. And comments such as “well done for studying to better yourself”, it’s funded from student finance with no clear path to actually get into practicing law and the OP works 21 hours a week, not earning enough to ever pay back the student debt. I owe more on student finance now than when I took it out for my course fees due to the interest that gets added to basically help to fund people who will never pay their’s back… so I’m basically taxed twice to fund this kind of lifestyle. Make it make sense?

Well obviously not - but you can choose not to have more

At her age she can quite easily get pregnant again, should she want to.

This thread has floored me a bit if I’m being honest. My take home pay is just under that, I have two, always dreamed of three but I know I can’t afford another one. I’m living in some sort of parallel universe.

Of course she doesnt work full time she has 7 kids to look after. If she didnt work at all she would get more UC
She cant win with judgy people like you

I’m not ashamed to say I absolutely judge people like OP. Shameless.

Works, has seven kids alone, has a spaniel and is training to be a lawyer.

Unbelievable!

Does your 17 year old son have his own room given that the rest other than this new baby are all girls?
Have you made sure the older children understand what contraceptives are, how to get them etc and that having sex does not have to mean having a baby?
Are the older ones shouldering the domestic load whilst you have a newborn?
Kindly- have you thought about seeking therapy for why you keep reproducing with horrible deadbeat men and have got yourself into a situation where you are dependent on the state for everything? Life doesn’t have to be like that.

Why do you think it’s ok to keep popping out kids and expecting the tax payer to give you money? £4k in UC is huge and frankly, it’s disgusting that you can’t support your family yourself.

It’s far easier to look after 7 dc when someone else is footing the bill though isn’t it? What would OP do if she had to pay for them all herself?

So should she send her children back to save the tax payer? Don’t be daft. On another thread there is a 17 year old who receives that stupid pip and spends it on shit!

Sorry, I’ll happily see my tax go where it’s needed. Maybe the government could crack down on absent dads?

Who NEEDS to have 7 children that they can’t afford to look after? Literally no one.

Yikes... miaou.🙀

😂😂😂

Honestly the comments on here are mostly appalling.

Well I really hope it is a wind-up because I went away to do a family movie and came back to vitriol just dripping off the screen - post after post of it.