I'm a single mum of 7. AMA!

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Scared 😅

You can get off your anti choice hobby horse there.

LARC like the coil has good data and is well tolerated in most women (and can last 8 years and is part of perimenopause treatment) so sterilisation and the risks around it aren’t needed if a LARC is well tolerated which it is in most women. It’s also reversible if that’s something the woman desires.

Wow you really are a nasty piece of work. You have no idea how anxious someone is because they use a fucking emoji.

What a horrible reply. I’m so sorry that happened OP, what an awful thing. And well done for getting through it and keeping your strength.

Really - a woman who has experienced rape and abuse and they wouldn’t sterilise her ? I very much doubt they would be true. My own mum was sterilised in the early 80’s at 28 having had 4 children. Personal responsibility.

I’m fascinated by the logistics of a mega family. I barely manage two, with a very involved husband 😅

How often do you cook for all 7? What are your go to meals? How much do you spend at the supermarket?!

Do the children cook and do their own laundry?

How would you feel about becoming a grandma in the next few years?

Did you have the baby because otherwise you would have had to increase your hours in work?

Hats off to you OP. It'll be lovely for you when they're older! My life as a single mom of 1 suddenly feels a lot lighter 🙃

It’s not that fascinating. Someone with two kids can be just as busy. Full time work, two lots of different activities, sports, dance, swimming and everything inbetween.

It is unlikely you would have 7 in extra curricular activities and also OP doesn’t work full time. Logistically it’s not as hard as you would think, especially if their emotional health isn’t also a priority, which i suspect it’s not.

AMA but I’ll ignore your Qs? Yet another MN time waster.

I have 8 and some of this thread is awful! The 4k UC will include rent and childcare. I have never recieved as much but our circumstances are different ( widowed and my older 4 are grown up, own our home now). Op sounds like shes doing great working and studying

The oldest are babysitting probably.

Well she's in 15 years, had 7 kids to 4 men to this older kids, been married twice.

So yea, she obviously needs men for something unresolved.

This has to be a windup tbh but if it's genuine my piss is well and truly boiled.

I'm absolutely shocked that this woman has a 15 year old that has seen their dad leave, and at least another 3 men come and go in their lives, some who are clearly dangerous and violent. At least one of which OP married.
Poor fucking kids.

Oh and now suddenly she's studying to be a lawyer 🤔

Of course it isn't.

She's been through 4 dads in 17 years....

So you get 4k in benefits

"I earn just over 14k I think (on mat leave now). CMS is around £1100 a month" working 21 hours.

Why did you keep having children? You can't afford to look after them.

Yeah her £23 she pays in tax a month really helps wider society.

Jesus bloody Christ thats appalling.

I am intrigued as to why you have kept having children when you can’t afford them without benefits. Did you plan it?

I can’t even begin to fathom making the decisions you have. You earn £14k a year with 7 children? That won’t even feed them. WHY do you think other people should pay for the children you chose to have, bearing in mind contraception is free?

Why did you have so many children?

Did it not concern you that you would not be in a position to support them?

Did you teach them all to read?

Do any of them have ADHD?

How come the state, rather than you and your ex-partners, is picking up the bill for all these kids?

What relevance does the ADHD question have? Two kids here, one probably autistic.

Going to be honest. Seven kids and doing a law degree? I am not buying it.

That's 6

Agree, came on to say that. Unless you can get a position with a top city firm (unlikely unless your degree is from an RG uni) then you are not going to be in that ballpark. Average solicitor salaries are £50/60k