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I'm a single mum of 7. AMA!

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WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 13:29

Scared 😅

OP posts:
Calliopespa · 25/07/2026 18:15

basketsmash · 25/07/2026 18:11

@Calliopespawhere did I say add more dc to the west?

The west has birth rates below replacement rate in most countries. I was just making the point that the west isn’t overpopulated because of lots of people having lots of dc.

Edited

The poster who congratulated the OP on producing the next generation was congratulating her for adding children to the West. The op's children are not in Somalia.

I understand the point about an uneven spread population-wise, and \I am also aware that very recently birth rates have begun to fall. But the far broader issue we face as a planet is we are over-burdening it. Just like a plane that has got to heavy to fly safely. It doesn't matter where you shove the extra passengers.

basketsmash · 25/07/2026 18:16

@Askingforafriendtodayits like banging your head against a wall.

For the people at the back

We have more over 65 yr olds than under 15s in the UK!!!!

In the 60s it was 5 workers to 1 pensioner, we are now at 3:1 & not far off 2:1 hence why all governments have pushed immigration the last few decades.

aquaporfav · 25/07/2026 18:17

circleheart · 25/07/2026 14:35

OP, there are lots of very judgy posts on her and lots of assumptions, but honestly you do you. Sounds like you're working towards getting your children a good life. If you lived in a 5 bedroom mansion paid for with family wealth then there would be very different set of replies on here.

You do you

Sure with money form taxes paid by others who work hard and have to make tough lifestyle and financial decisions.

Thisthreadhasbeendeleted · 25/07/2026 18:20

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 14:39

That's not really laughter?

Silly OP. MN has decided you're a benefits scrounger. You're not allowed to have a sense of humour and must allow yourself to be clouded in shame.

basketsmash · 25/07/2026 18:20

@Calliopespabut that wasn’t me

I was replying to your overpopulation comment because the countries with high birth rates are countries like Somalia. As you say the OP isn’t in Somalia & we have low birth rates here so why mention overpopulation in the first place?!

Birth rates in the UK started to fall below replacement rate 50 years ago ish. It isn’t recent…

I don’t disagree we are overburdened the planet, I just don’t think it’s the fault of those in Somalia, Chad etc.

PearlButtons · 25/07/2026 18:22

Calliopespa · 25/07/2026 18:10

No I don't but you are talking about adding more children in the West, not in Somalia.

I think we all know that the OP and her 7 kids are not in Somalia because Somalians would not be stupid enough to be paying her thousands of pounds!

Tings · 25/07/2026 18:24

basketsmash · 25/07/2026 18:02

@Tings what are the statistics based on? Because during the 70s 42% of people lived in council housing, so all those dc who grew up in council housing never went to work?

Why on earth have you brought council housing into this?

Are you one of those people who thinks all housing tenants are on benefits??

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GrandmasCat · 25/07/2026 18:28

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 13:39

At work, or driving to work 🤣

This resonates so much with me and I only have the one.

My relaxing days were the days I was at work, my “me” time, the drives after school drop off and before pick up.

menopausequeen · 25/07/2026 18:28

summerrevival · 25/07/2026 13:43

Why did you continue having children when you can’t support them? Why should I as a taxpayer support your children?

This!
You get more in universal credit than I earn. I would have lived more kids but decided I couldn’t afford them.
I think you’re a CF expecting everyone else to pay

WonderingWanda · 25/07/2026 18:28

How have 7 pregnancies and 7 newborns impacted you e.g. your body/ mental health. I have 2 children and couldn't imagine doing it again....well too late now but I did now bounce back.

Calliopespa · 25/07/2026 18:30

basketsmash · 25/07/2026 18:20

@Calliopespabut that wasn’t me

I was replying to your overpopulation comment because the countries with high birth rates are countries like Somalia. As you say the OP isn’t in Somalia & we have low birth rates here so why mention overpopulation in the first place?!

Birth rates in the UK started to fall below replacement rate 50 years ago ish. It isn’t recent…

I don’t disagree we are overburdened the planet, I just don’t think it’s the fault of those in Somalia, Chad etc.

I don't think its their fault either.

But until we manage to moderate patterns of resource consumption, we have to stop pouring liquid into an overfull glass.

basketsmash · 25/07/2026 18:31

@tingsbecause council housing was a large proportion of family housing in the past which doesn’t exist today in anything like the same numbers, for many families it was a benefit. A large portion of the OPs benefit payment will be going towards her rent will it not?

Im asking why you are claiming that the OPs dc are going to end up on benefits & where the data for that comes from?

PearlButtons · 25/07/2026 18:33

basketsmash · 25/07/2026 18:31

@tingsbecause council housing was a large proportion of family housing in the past which doesn’t exist today in anything like the same numbers, for many families it was a benefit. A large portion of the OPs benefit payment will be going towards her rent will it not?

Im asking why you are claiming that the OPs dc are going to end up on benefits & where the data for that comes from?

No, a large payment of her taxpay payer gifted money is not going on her rent.

She gets £4000 as a gift and the woman said her rent was £1300.

Holdonforsummer · 25/07/2026 18:33

I feel like a complete mug too, thanks OP. As a senior healthcare professional, I take home about half what you do and it would take about ten of me paying tax to support your brood. Congratulations on absolutely rinsing the taxpayer.

Tings · 25/07/2026 18:34

basketsmash · 25/07/2026 18:31

@tingsbecause council housing was a large proportion of family housing in the past which doesn’t exist today in anything like the same numbers, for many families it was a benefit. A large portion of the OPs benefit payment will be going towards her rent will it not?

Im asking why you are claiming that the OPs dc are going to end up on benefits & where the data for that comes from?

Google the data, it's there for you, just as it is for me.

Council housing is NOT a benefit and has NEVER been a benefit.

Not all council tenants are on benefits.

aquaporfav · 25/07/2026 18:34

Holdonforsummer · 25/07/2026 18:33

I feel like a complete mug too, thanks OP. As a senior healthcare professional, I take home about half what you do and it would take about ten of me paying tax to support your brood. Congratulations on absolutely rinsing the taxpayer.

👏

thestudio · 25/07/2026 18:34

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 13:43

Around 4k a month (includes rent)

bloody hell. I'm harder than left in most things but even I twitched

Tings · 25/07/2026 18:35

PearlButtons · 25/07/2026 18:33

No, a large payment of her taxpay payer gifted money is not going on her rent.

She gets £4000 as a gift and the woman said her rent was £1300.

And she hasn't mentioned she lives in a council house as far as I'm aware.

Not that it would automatically have anything to do with being on benefits anyway.

Hereagain2 · 25/07/2026 18:35

Jesus. This is so clearly rage bait

basketsmash · 25/07/2026 18:35

@PearlButtonsI think 32% is fairly significant, most people would advise a lower proportion spent on a mortgage.

PancakeCloud · 25/07/2026 18:36

What do you have in savings and debt?

PearlButtons · 25/07/2026 18:37

Tings · 25/07/2026 18:35

And she hasn't mentioned she lives in a council house as far as I'm aware.

Not that it would automatically have anything to do with being on benefits anyway.

That's right. If you had read her posts, she rents privately.

Whatever she rents, we're paying for it, just as we're paying for most things in her life.

Newstart3 · 25/07/2026 18:37

Thanks for doing the ama!
I have loads of questions

  1. Did you intend on having long term relationships with any of the dads
  2. Is this what you had in mind for your life?
  3. With so much in benefits do you feel poor or rich? I Assume you have no childcare costs as they are at school ?
  4. Are you happy ?
  5. You say you don't want to rely on men but you are happy for rely on the state ?
  6. Why did you continue having more babies
7 how has your body copied with 7 pregnancies ?

Thanks (sorry if they are intrusive!)

JSMill · 25/07/2026 18:37

WorldCupSadness · 25/07/2026 13:43

Around 4k a month (includes rent)

You get 4k a month in benefits? Do you think it’s fair that other people work incredibly hard to make that kind of money.

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