I am submissive to my husband AMA

[Peachesx2606]

Please AMA but please be kind.

I'm interested in other thoughts/opinions and will try to give mine.

This is just something that seems to work for us x

But men telling women what to do didn’t start in the 6th century, did it?

Weird to skip over the Bible and other books and jump straight to the 6th century.

Are you ok? It does read like you’re trying to hijack this thread and twist everything people and the ops writes. It’s very odd. Why are you trying so so hard to derail.

You really are spoiling this thread by going on about a point that is crystal clear to everyone else.

Try to stick to the essence of the thread.

I think you’ve lost the flow of the thread. I pointed out why some posters may have read one part of OP’s post and not seen it as a big deal.

That doesn’t mean I see it that way.

I think you should stick to your own posts and not police the thread.

I’m dandy, are YOU ok? You seem easily hijacked.

I can assure you that I have not lost the flow of the thread but if I have it's only for pointing out that you're posting stuff that is off-topic and you won't admit you either misread or you can't understand what you read.

This is a discussion forum.
I am replying to your posts.
That is allowed.

I think if you read my posts to OP then you’ll see I haven’t misread anything.

It’s bizarre that because OP has left the thread, you’ve decided to instigate a pile on me.

Find another thread if you’re bored.

So everyone can reply except me?

Hilarious.

The piling on is not from other posters.
It's from you.

OP I was so genuinely interested to read this but I'm sorry I think you just sound really dull! I honestly can't help but think that this 'gloss' you've both put on your relationship is a way to rationalise the fact that you just have nothing in common and nothing to discuss and .... You're just living a really dull life? Gym, study, see your friend, just drifting around? You're pleasant enough and no doubt kind and you're both just existing and he's kidding on "ooh Carole is so edgy she's my sub" and you're convincing yourself "cor my Kev is just the best he makes me feel like a woman". Is it just a way to spice a very bau existence up?

Who did I pile on?

But she didn’t just say that. You’re ignoring the later, concerning part of the same post:

At the end of the post, she said in response to someone asking her directly what the consequences would be if she disobeyed him: “maybe a telling off, not getting something I want, being sent to bed.”

She specifically said that she would be sent to bed as a ‘consequence’ for ‘disobeying’ him.

I’m pointing out that some people have used that bit of the post to share their own experience of sending their husbands to bed when they’re tired.

That doesn’t mean I think it’s normal or fine.

You need to understand nuance.

See post above. I’m pointing out why some posters may have read it that way.

You can tell them that, but they watch you live it every day, what do you think will have the most impact? You say you would feel awful if your daughters followed in your footsteps - surely that's a sign? Honestly, this feels like a trauma response to your first marraige. Then you had to do it all, your husband was 'weak' and in response you have a done a complete 180. I understand feeling safe, but then again handing responsibility for my (and my childrens) lives over to someone else, would make me feel anything but safe.

Of course not but there is a specific line in the Qu'ran which tells husband that if their wife is disobedient they should first admonish them, then banish them to their beds and then beat them. OP has two out of three of those, and being banished to the bed being quite distinctive and relevant.

Feel free to add to this thread any verse from the OT, NT, bhagavad Gita, Guru Granth Sahib, Pali Canon, Hebrew Bible or any other Holy Book which instruct H's to send disobedient wives to their beds. The Qu'ranic verse is quite famous which is why I know it, but knock yourself adding others from other Holy Books if you would like.

Up to you. Not my bag

Christ @Peachesx2606 you only get one shot at this life, don't waste being timid and afraid and feeling safer with a man who sends you to bed with a telling off!

If you say you're not submissive sexually, then is it just not wanting to have to make decisions for yourself? And therefore not face the consequences of them being wrong? Almost like being a child?

If you spilt up do you think you'd seek a similar arrangement or feel like you'd want full autonomy? You mentioned wanting someone very different from your ex. So if this one was your ex do you think you'd feel the same?

I'm really angry on your behalf. I hope your therapist is excellent. And, just being really blunt, find a backbone before your fuck your kids up

I’ve just looked it up.

It can’t be that famous if you got it wrong.

The punishment isn’t to send her to bed, it’s to refuse to share a bed with her I.e. not have sex with her.

I still think it was a weird derail.

I have been wondering whether its the wording OP uses making it sound so bad and its more of what you describe. But we wont know unless OP tells us.

Eh?