Police officer's wife AMA

[lifeonthelane]

I've noticed that there seem to be a certain perception of police on here... particularly as a partner/spouse. I'm married to a police officer and there is definitwly a certain lifestyle that goes with this so AMA!

What’s your job?

Were you disgusted by the racism, misogyny and violence by the police officers in the recent Panorama documentary?

And more to the point, was your husband?

What police work does he do?

What does he really think of arresting the old people holding up the Palestinian action signs?

how would you describe the lifestyle that goes with being married to a police officer?

lol it’s hardly being a footballers wife. What is there to tell?

Do you worry for his safety?

Do you feel anxious when he’s at work?

Do you socialise mainly with other Police families?

What happens when you've booked a family holiday and his leave is cancelled at the last minute? Is it covered by insurance? Do you got without him?

my question is similar to a pp. How often is leave cancelled, short notice shift changes, made to stay over etc?
i work a 365 day roster nhs and that is bad enough but to regularly have to change plans at very short notice would be tough. Is it occasional or regular?
And (sorry very minor question) all that uniform! Does he have a lot of washing and ironing to do?

Whet are the main pros and cons from your point of view?

This is a good AMA

Question- whats the point in starting an ama then not answering any questions

Is he abusive?

I couldn’t be with a police officer, they always want you to cum quietly.

Errrrm you do realise the whole point in starting an AMA thread is that you actually hang about and answer the questions OP? 🙄

I'm a teacher

Yes, we were both horrified. He says he hasn't seen that in his force.

He's on response. He says about 80% of his callouts are made up of domestic violence and mental health.

Are you worried about how rife cheating is amongst police officers?

Honestly, I don't know - he hasn't said anythung about it to me.

Therr are pros and cons. It gives him the opportunity to be a very present Dad as the shift work means he does more school runs than I am able to do, but on the flip side family time can be really limited. His leave also gets declined or cancelled regularly. He missed a weekend away for a big faniky event recently and my daughter was in tears because "Daddy never gets to come on holiday with us." He's also always exhausted - the shift pattern reallt messes with his body clock.

There's a lot of fixed ideas about police officers, just thought it would be an opportunity for people to ask abput the realities. If you aren't interested, that's fine, you can just scroll on past!

Does he want to do it longterm? I know two who have left as feel like it’s not worth it anymore.