My boys go to a prestigious boarding school. Ask me anything !

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Ask me anything about my boys who board at an all boys’ school ! Any disrespectful questions will be ignored

I think this is a key question.

Why did you have kids if your lifestyle isn’t compatible with it and you weren’t prepared to change it?

Why bother having kids to send them away?

Lots of people seem to...

Why would being exposed to anything in a boarding school be a fond memory to anyone?

Why is DD not at boarding school? Will you send her to one when she is older?

Is it near enough for them to come home for the odd weekend, not just holidays, and for you to visit? Are they happy (which is the main thing)?

In this year yes, it was Covid year and the schools gave the grades the parents wanted .

That didn’t happen at state schools

But in any other year the boarding school kids are spoon fed to within an inch of their lives. So their ability is nothing compared to a grammar school kid. Not a super selective one anyway.

Sorry. Perhaps my joke was inappropriate. I do apologise 🙏

I haven’t seen one poster slag the OP off for being rich?

There are many. Have a scroll.

Do you believe a boarding school is better academically than other schools?

What is your expectation for your children once they leave boarding school? Do you expect them to go onto have high careers or would you be happy whatever they choose to do?

What's the annual bill for both and what % of your income is that? Are they any extra costs that suprised you?

All children deserve the very best education. Not just the children of the wealthy. Do you agree, OP?

Because there is much more to developing a contented, emotionally healthy and well-rounded individual than education.

Will your dd board?

It obviously works for you as a family.

I don’t get why people are so shitty about boarding. I went to 2 nurseries, had 3 different nanny’s, 3 primary, 3 secondary and 2 colleges because of my parents moving
I would much much rather have had the stability of the same school then at least I would have had consistent friends there and somewhere that felt like home

I grew up in UK' s most well known academic town..Big intellectual families were the fashion back then. There were selective grammar schools, some grant - maintained, some fully state. And there were fully independent fee paying schools too. The less academically able kids in the big families went to the fee paying schools, and the very bright ones in the family passed the 11+ and went to the selective state schools. You'd literally get a whole range of schooling within one family. When I was young I thought private school was for exceptionally thick children and grammar school was for clever ones. It took me years to work out it wasn't quite as black and white as that. When I was about 13, I literally thought private schools were for what we used to call back then ' the retarded' . I'm not making those up. 😂🤣😂

This is utter rubbish-private schools didn't give the grades parents wanted-they gave the grades they were confident the pupil could achieve, backed up by evidence.

Why is money more important to you than time with your children?

I went to BS, as did my DH.
When i had children I told all the Gparents that I didn’t have children so that I could give them away.
BS does what it says on the tin -boards & schools.
When I was 67 my ‘D’F said he was sorry he’d sent me to BS. I felt/feel nothing for my parents, apart from; they shouldn’t have had children.
DH was sent aged 6, he’s useless at family life.

I don't think you quite grasp the concept of 'ask me anything'.

But I think the point many of us are making is that children need parenting too. Education is just one part of what a child needs.

It’s fact. I know loads of private school kids who had massively inflated grades. Look at any serious newspaper from the period.

Exam grades are private schools’ key marketing tool. As anyone with any experience of private schools knows , which includes me

Do you and DH expect them to get straight As as you spend so much on their education?

Will you be annoyed (even secretly) if they end up in respectable but average paid jobs, rather than on six figures?

Does it concern you that they are only really surrounded by other children from extremely wealthy backgrounds and may well think that's normal? Asking this last one as someone who spent her whole life in private school and thought my family were incredibly poor until I went to university. Where I quickly learned we were very rich, just not multi millionaires.