My boys go to a prestigious boarding school. Ask me anything !

[tummyduck]

Ask me anything about my boys who board at an all boys’ school ! Any disrespectful questions will be ignored

@tummyduck I think you might have missed my question (or maybe found if disrespectful though I hope I wasn't!) but I'm really curious so posting it again if you feel like you can answer? I'd lovee t know if our parents feel our offering is lessening but obviously can't ask them and put the idea into their heads!

@tummyduck you say you often come back to the UK.

Assuming you are flying, your carbon footprint must be horrific.

Have you ever calculated it?

Do you feel any responsibility for the legacy you are leaving them?

About that - if contact doesnt include facetime /calls. But they see their grandparents couple of times a week usually as they can walk to their house

What type of education are they given in regard to seeing the world from women’s point of view?
My DD recently encountered a boy from an elite, private, all boys school who thought rape jokes were funny. He was a nice boy too, which is why I was astounded that he hadn’t thought through what was clearly an acceptable joke in his world. All boys world.

I am not overtly concerned about my commerical airline use. I am not Taylor swift, I do not have a private jet. I am seeing my kids .

Why couldn't your husband change his career and you both raise your children? Its seems daft to me to have children just to ship them off to boarding school , so the parents can put themselves first.

What type of education are they given in regard to seeing the world from women’s point of view?

My DD recently encountered a boy from an elite, private, all boys school who thought rape jokes were funny. He was a nice boy too, which is why I was astounded that he hadn’t thought through what was clearly an acceptable joke in his world. All boys world.

I still think I’d have sent my husband abroad on his own and stayed at home with the kids.

There is this concept in the military called duty and service. That is why he hasn’t taken another job.

This is very interesting. Thanks for the reply.

I personally couldn’t be with someone who puts the military before their kids. I’d be staying put with the DC and husband would likely get to choose if he still wanted to be part of that family. It’s presumably forced you to give up a life where you can be more present with your children..

And the other q’s?

Is this the paternal grandparents?

How is it an "ask me anything" if you're going to ignore any questions you don't like?

That may well be true, but what you have chosen to do is really not the same as actually raising your children. And being with them everyday. Putting them to bed, having banter, building a relationship. It's hard to explain it to someone who doesn't know what it's like...

i think this is a very important question.
They have a lot of links with girls schools and work together on some stuff, and a lot of workshops on all sorts of pastoral matters eg Andrew Tate, porn, online code of conduct, consent.
the school isnt known for its masculine /alpha male culture it has to be said

But you don’t actually need to go though do you?

Maybe. But I was a kid too, and didnt go to boarding school. My kids are far more open with me and we talk about the big stuff, than I ever was with my lovely parents

No..but most army families travel together - for various reasons -

Why would I want to answer to anyone disrespectful?

Do you ever worry that your elder children at school will feel "dumped" if you're keeping your younger children with you but not them?

What do you mean by disrespectful though? It reads like you'll only answer questions that you like or aren't uncomfortable. Which isn't really an AMA.

The bit that I don’t get is that you have chosen your husband over your kids. If travel and communication is easy to justify being apart from your kids why don’t you stay with them and travel to your husband when you can?

Sorry I missed it! Good question.
i haven’t noticed any changes personally but i have heard the amount of bursaries will go down for kids that can’t afford it /and there will be less sharing of resources to the comps for free nearby eg fields and pool as they lose their charitable status so will need to charge for these

The envy is strong on this thread. You sound very well researched and open minded OP. Bravo to you for taking the best opportunity for your kids. You know them best

It kind of works? Kids are happy? Not sure what else there is to say!

Thank you - I may not many things but I am open minded -

Haha I laugh because I am imagining their faces if I asked them this. No.