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My boys go to a prestigious boarding school. Ask me anything !

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tummyduck · 07/08/2025 13:25

Ask me anything about my boys who board at an all boys’ school ! Any disrespectful questions will be ignored

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Hoppinggreen · 07/08/2025 18:31

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 13:54

We sent them at the age of 11. they are now 13 and 16.
we made the decision based upon what we thought was the best school for them.
it was my husband’s old school.
we live abroad half the time due to my husband’s work- it was a good way , we thought, to continue stability in their education.
when we are back in England they come home for the day on sunday.
otherwise see them for a long weekend every half term (exeat) and all the holidays. Which are longer than state schools

it wouldn’t have been my first choice but I have seen how it has been really good for them with all the travel we do

OR you could have stayed in one place with them while your husband travelled
Ever considered that?

UnreadyEthel · 07/08/2025 18:31

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 14:34

No, I just prefer single sex education - it is about the quality of provision as girls have different learning needs

What different learning needs do girls have? And why?

Tinnybinnylinny · 07/08/2025 18:31

Cherrytree86 · 07/08/2025 18:27

@Bananafofana

wow! How do you afford that??!

It used to be 10% of the fees back in the day….hence the ‘broke’ posh offers - kept them in the army and kept the LE officers down.

Everyday99 · 07/08/2025 18:31

WinWhenTheyreSinging · 07/08/2025 14:08

What was the value of adding 'prestigious' to the thread title, and are you sadly disappointed that people aren't pressing you to know HOW prestigious?

Eton. Where even royal boys got sa ....crazy.

ImpracticalMagic · 07/08/2025 18:32

@tummyduck It seems that you are stoically ignoring questions about when you will send your dd to board. Is that because you don't plan to after all?

Fogey · 07/08/2025 18:33

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notwavingbutdrowning1 · 07/08/2025 18:33

OP, you said your kids are very ‘socially aware and socially conscious’. Can you explain how this manifests itself, please?

beeautifullif3 · 07/08/2025 18:33

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 14:05

We thought it was a sacrifice worth making for continuing their education. To leave them in England . I have another younger child who travels with us but she is younger so more adaptable

So the boys get fucked off to boarding school , while you and precious baby girl gallivant across the world lol im sorry op this is hilarious and you came on here to admit that you have abandoned your sons and think that's amazing lol I can tell you know you won't be having much contact with those boys when they are adults

Simonjt · 07/08/2025 18:34

ImpracticalMagic · 07/08/2025 18:32

@tummyduck It seems that you are stoically ignoring questions about when you will send your dd to board. Is that because you don't plan to after all?

Maybe by girls having different needs, the op actually means she thinks girls deserve time with at least one parent.

Victoria39 · 07/08/2025 18:36

cyvguhb · 07/08/2025 18:28

I assumed the implications was that teachers preferred parents who don't interfere not ones who are rich

That's my experience with teacher friends anyway

That makes no sense at all. What are you trying to say? 🤔

Everyday99 · 07/08/2025 18:36

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 14:12

They go to a boarding school , and we do see them and speak to them

You really don't. You are meant to parent them not see and speak

Fogey · 07/08/2025 18:37

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 14:04

I think with all the safeguarding now in place (due to the hideous history) I think it a really safe place for a child to be in. I would probably say safer than your children wandering around town

You have no idea what goes on … you’re not there.

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 18:40

Hold on to your wigs people, just cooking!!

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tummyduck · 07/08/2025 18:41

Fogey · 07/08/2025 18:37

You have no idea what goes on … you’re not there.

Oh but I do.

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cyvguhb · 07/08/2025 18:41

Victoria39 · 07/08/2025 18:36

That makes no sense at all. What are you trying to say? 🤔

Isn't it obvious?

Ime experience teachers prefer parents who aren't meddling needlessly and trust the teacher to do their job

You seemed to be making an unconnected point about whether parents accept their child's behaviour or are entitled

Hermyknee · 07/08/2025 18:42

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 17:26

No. Kids don’t give a shit. 25% are assisted and at least 20% full funding from low socioeconomic families /inner cities

Where is this (mythical) school? It is the first school ever to have no peer-on-peer abuse either verbally or sexually.

Must tell that to Ofsted and KCSIE - they will need to learn. Both say it’s so prevalent that you have to assume it’s happening because it will be. They must be wrong!

OP you are paying for a good PR team too.

Tootyfilou · 07/08/2025 18:42

‘ Hard work’ what an utter classist myth . Is it only the wealthy think they work hard.
I would counter that people who have to work two or three jobs to pay their rent work a lot harder .

Tandora · 07/08/2025 18:42

cyvguhb · 07/08/2025 18:30

I thought it was generally accepted that boys and girls learn differently

Wot? Learn differently how?

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 18:43

Everyday99 · 07/08/2025 18:36

You really don't. You are meant to parent them not see and speak

What constitutes parenting ? One of mine is instilling being open and non judgmental to them. And giving them a happy home life and school life. You?

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DiscoBob · 07/08/2025 18:44

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Yeah, I'm inclined to agree there. Two of my uncles worked in a few of those schools. It's not especially exciting.

NCforthis181 · 07/08/2025 18:44

I’m in my 60s and have three male friends the same age that I have known since our late 20s. They were all sent to prestigious boarding schools at an early age followed by prestigious universities, two of them Oxbridge.

Of the three, two have never married and have never even had long term relationships, much as they would have like to. The third has just been told by his wife that she wants a divorce and all of our friends are just amazed she didn’t do it sooner. He is very difficult and she hasn’t been happy for years.

In my 20s I dated a guy who was also sent away to boarding school. He was lovely and had a great job that he loved but no relationship with his parents. He used to say that his parents didn’t want a close relationship with him when he was growing up, so why would he want a close relationship with them now.

AutumnLover1989 · 07/08/2025 18:45

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 18:43

What constitutes parenting ? One of mine is instilling being open and non judgmental to them. And giving them a happy home life and school life. You?

But you're not giving them a happy home life. How can you when they're not there? 🫤

Fogey · 07/08/2025 18:45

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ToBethornottoBeththatistheUpton · 07/08/2025 18:45

I’m interested in your job OP, what do you mean by a humanitarian? That sounds really interesting. Thanks

Victoria39 · 07/08/2025 18:45

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 18:40

Hold on to your wigs people, just cooking!!

you mean your servent is cooking 😂

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