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AMA

My boys go to a prestigious boarding school. Ask me anything !

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tummyduck · 07/08/2025 13:25

Ask me anything about my boys who board at an all boys’ school ! Any disrespectful questions will be ignored

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Victoria39 · 07/08/2025 18:21

Lemonadeat8 · 07/08/2025 17:53

Why do you think anyone would be interested? I like my child at home where I can enjoy them growing up.

Ditto to that! That’s how it should be lady. I do not trust women who want kids but them farm them of to full time nanny’s or boarding school all the time. 🙄

Tandora · 07/08/2025 18:21

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 14:34

No, I just prefer single sex education - it is about the quality of provision as girls have different learning needs

What does “girls have different learning needs” mean?

What different “learning needs” do girls have ?

Gloriia · 07/08/2025 18:22

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 17:43

military subsidy and working hard

Military subsidy. Aren't you embarrassed?

How long has your dh been posted overseas and why don't you want to stay at home and parent your dc?

Cherrytree86 · 07/08/2025 18:23

@tummyduck

what’s a humanitarian?

Ddakji · 07/08/2025 18:23

Victoria39 · 07/08/2025 18:21

Ditto to that! That’s how it should be lady. I do not trust women who want kids but them farm them of to full time nanny’s or boarding school all the time. 🙄

And what about men who farm out care of their children to the nearest unpaid or underpaid woman? Do you trust them? Because there’s a lot of them about, and plenty from state schools.

LostWithoutMum · 07/08/2025 18:23

Cherrytree86 · 07/08/2025 18:23

@tummyduck

what’s a humanitarian?

Charity shop worker

Ddakji · 07/08/2025 18:24

Tandora · 07/08/2025 18:21

What does “girls have different learning needs” mean?

What different “learning needs” do girls have ?

A female-only environment. Obviously.

Everyday99 · 07/08/2025 18:24

Have they reported bullying, abuse or unhappiness

LillyPJ · 07/08/2025 18:24

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 17:51

It you’re not your.
can you define a parent? Or are you saying it is not your experience ?

It's a shame your reply included at least two errors!

Victoria39 · 07/08/2025 18:24

Tandora · 07/08/2025 18:21

What does “girls have different learning needs” mean?

What different “learning needs” do girls have ?

I think boys can be silly or take over a lot. Not saying that’s true of all boys.

Gloriia · 07/08/2025 18:25

'The Continuity of Education Allowance (CEA) funds up to 90% of tuition fees but families must pay a minimum of 10%'

Confused

10%!

RedRock41 · 07/08/2025 18:25

Are they embarrassed by their Mother’s poor grammar and punctuation!?

Seabubbles · 07/08/2025 18:25

WinWhenTheyreSinging · 07/08/2025 14:08

What was the value of adding 'prestigious' to the thread title, and are you sadly disappointed that people aren't pressing you to know HOW prestigious?

This! With bells on

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 07/08/2025 18:26

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 17:51

It you’re not your.
can you define a parent? Or are you saying it is not your experience ?

Oh no👎 . Please don't be that pedantic twat who corrects people's grammar 😮

commuting · 07/08/2025 18:27

We are expats and moving regularly is a lot, especially on young teens, Our kids at different (teens) times thought they wanted to go to boarding school rather than move country every two to three years, We looked at boarding schools in both the UK and in Switzerland, but they both finally decided against it. In the end we decided to be a commuting family, mainly for the older ones' final three years of school, which means the younger one gets a 5 year stretch in the same school. Husband is based overseas and spends one week a month at home with us, although it doesn't always work out. It's a difficult family dynamic to manage, we all miss him and he misses home life, but it is the sacrifice we agreed on for some stability in the kids education.

I do think 11 is very young though, would never have considered that age, but I kind of understand why some families go down that route. We have friends whose 3 kids all went to the same boarding school, two of the kids loved every second of it, the 3rd one has said it ruined his life. It really is down to the personality of the kids and also how close the family unit is, whether it is a big wrench or not to move out of the family environment.

I am sure it is reassuring for you and your husband that your kids are thriving, not all overseas schools provide the equivalent education they would get in a top school in the UK..

Cherrytree86 · 07/08/2025 18:27

Bananafofana · 07/08/2025 18:21

Apols if already asked:

how much is the military discount?

Full boarding fees with VAT are now about £50-60k

i pay £30k per dc as day students so £60k pa which is £120k of my gross income every year. I wonder if dc would prefer us to put £1m each in investments and send them to state school.

do you ever stop and think, like I do, that the money might be better spent on them as adults in the future?

@Bananafofana

wow! How do you afford that??!

LostWithoutMum · 07/08/2025 18:27

Seabubbles · 07/08/2025 18:25

This! With bells on

People that start threads like this are obviously deeply unhappy about their situation and are after validation. I wouldn't dream of sending my son to boarding school.

KnickerlessParsons · 07/08/2025 18:27

Eyesopenwideawake · 07/08/2025 13:26

What qualifies as a disrespectful question?

What qualifies as “prestigious”?

JustSawJohnny · 07/08/2025 18:28

I really don't get why people start these threads. Who thinks their life is so interesting that others even have questions?

It's boarding school FFS. It's not like she washes and irons the under crackers of the rich and famous.

THEN I'd have questions 🙄

cyvguhb · 07/08/2025 18:28

Victoria39 · 07/08/2025 18:10

Or maybe he wouldn’t. 🤔 as my neice who is a teacher says: Very rich parents can be as bad as the parent on benefits . Both can be entitled and think there kids can do no wrong. 😂

I assumed the implications was that teachers preferred parents who don't interfere not ones who are rich

That's my experience with teacher friends anyway

summerskyblue · 07/08/2025 18:28

Why do you think that anyone cares?

Tinnybinnylinny · 07/08/2025 18:29

tummyduck · 07/08/2025 18:12

Where in that comment do I value Wealth and status . Fulfilled means emotionally /spiritually a manner of things.

Eh the husband is in the army - no wealth from solely an army career…..

Squishymallows · 07/08/2025 18:29

Don’t you miss them and feel sad you’re missing out on their childhood?

Seabubbles · 07/08/2025 18:30

Is this simply to brag that about the fact that the Boarding School is "Prestigious" How is that even relevant?.

cyvguhb · 07/08/2025 18:30

Tandora · 07/08/2025 18:21

What does “girls have different learning needs” mean?

What different “learning needs” do girls have ?

I thought it was generally accepted that boys and girls learn differently

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