My boys go to a prestigious boarding school. Ask me anything !

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Ask me anything about my boys who board at an all boys’ school ! Any disrespectful questions will be ignored

I can’t believe all the replies on here with holier than thou people accusing the OP of putting her husband before her children, whether true or not.

The relationships board and AIBU is stuffed with women who move from relationship to relationship, dragging their poor children along with them and subjecting them to dysfunctional ‘blended families’ and uncaring step-fathers, as they ‘deserve’ to be happy. I expect more than a few people on this thread are silently seething with envy at the academic and social advantage the OP’s children may have.

I have always spelt it like this- learning new stuff every day

You don’t see them frequently at all, you can’t back track and claim the odd sunday visits aren’t what actually happens.

This in buckets 👍👍👍

Yes i think you are right in some ways

My school was a state boarding school, not private education. Often used by army or diplomatic service families. We had no extra facilities, despite living on site 24/7. Not all boarding schools are prestigious.

“Shaping them to be fulfilled adults…”

How do you measure success in life, OP? It very much sounds as if you place significant importance on social status and wealth.

I know a few people who attended boarding schools whilst their parent worked abroad either in private companies or the forces. They say they enjoyed it.

Or maybe he wouldn’t. 🤔 as my neice who is a teacher says: Very rich parents can be as bad as the parent on benefits . Both can be entitled and think there kids can do no wrong. 😂

Very different these days. Thankfully my kids are very socially aware socially conscious and the school makes a huge deal about their responsibility to the planet and their communities and we are teaching them to be global citizens.

This! And also the ’people in the forces should immediately quit their jobs and find a new career’ 🤣

Boarding school can be a wonderfully enriching experience, your boys are lucky. It’s not easy being a boarding parent, or forces spouse for that matter, so thank you to you and your family for the sacrifices you make whilst serving.

so it’s just luck that the sane school seems to suit them both? Wasn’t that a consideration before you enrolled them?

Do you think that it’s a shame that they don’t get opportunities to socialise outside of school and meet other people a similar age to them?

Where in that comment do I value Wealth and status . Fulfilled means emotionally /spiritually a manner of things.

They do a lot of socialising out of school in the holidays. They live and breathe with people their own age.

How?

(See what I mean about your answers not actually giving any info?)

That wasn't directed at you, I was making a joke with the other poster.

There's no way you can emotionally fulfill your children when you are choosing not to be there. No hugs, no quick smiles at them as they leave for school, no making their dinners, you're just....absent. :(

Why am I reading this whole thread😂 it is so far removed from the lives of most people I know.
Before my departure could you please tell us how you earn a crumb?
Tia

Do you get paid for your humanitarian work?

Your boys and others like them are in a bubble cause they was born lucky. They only know what the world is like for rich people and that don’t make them rounded people 🙄

send them to my area for a week and they can see all sorts of people here and how the rest of us live .
bet they don’t last 5 mins…

Hundreds of posts so far would suggest that actually there are a lot who want to engage on the subject

Its natural to be interested in something that most of us will have no experience of

I'm not seething with anything 😄

My daughter excelled at her state school and is now at a highly "prestigious" (if that's the terminology we are to use) university, full of boarding school kids none of whom are doing any better than her. I've never once had any desire to send her to a private school.

I’m not sure that’s an accurate assessment. What people are questioning is the ‘why?’. Are they proficient in a sport and Millfield offers them unparalleled opportunities? Are they academically gifted and the school they choose caters specifically to that gift? The question being repeated is why would you consider following your husband in his international deployments and leaving two children behind (acknowledging the lengthy school holidays, but would surely have to coincide with returns for deployment) and not even reply when the question was asked what consideration was given to the mother remaining at home to parent the children (which the OP has confirmed doesn’t happen at school)?

Apols if already asked:

how much is the military discount?

Full boarding fees with VAT are now about £50-60k

i pay £30k per dc as day students so £60k pa which is £120k of my gross income every year. I wonder if dc would prefer us to put £1m each in investments and send them to state school.

do you ever stop and think, like I do, that the money might be better spent on them as adults in the future?