Ex full service prostitute AMA

[Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter]

I did it for around 5 years

Thank you so much, I really appreciate that and needed to hear it. Sometimes I do struggle with it, probably more so than anything else. I don’t think it’s likely he would ever find out but it is worrying.
Luckily, I was also a student at the time so had my student loan to rely on. I always kept the student loan a secret so I had a bit to go at. I found the flat that I moved into on Facebook market place and didn’t pay a deposit and moved what I could using taxis which was a nightmare. I did want to squirrel some money away, I do think it would’ve made it much easier but I didn’t manage to do that

I would love to do this one day but I’m not sure I’m confident or brave enough! Thank you so much

I started in my ex boyfriends flat where I also lived at the time but this was very short lived. Perhaps a few days.
I would literally point out that their time was up. ‘Looks like our time is over now, time to get ready, that’s flown by’ type comments. Sometimes they were a little reluctant but I was happy to put my foot down. Not sure what I would’ve done had they point blank refused though

Thank you so much
Maybe I’m wrong and it makes little sense but I don’t think it crossed their minds as I’m British and we’re supposed to be less susceptible to exploitation etc.

Thank you so much.
I drew the line at a peck type of kiss, a few did try and cross this boundary and I’d have to put my foot down.
Maybe half chose to stay and chat etc, maybe have another round depending on the time left and the other half left of their own accord…. Which naturally I much preferred

Thank you so much

Initially he did work. He got fired from his job and then didn’t bother find another one

Thank you so much

Thank you so much, I really appreciate it

What did you tell your BF you were doing between being a student and getting the job you have now (I'm assuming there was a gap if you were 23 when you started) or has it just not come up? Do you find him not knowing stressful? Could you see yourself telling him in the future ie before you got married? Thank god you escaped!

Hi OP, thank you for this AMA. You're so brave.

My question is did you continue to have sex with your abusive boyfrjend while you were a sex worker? If so, did you enjoy that?

There was a gap but as far as he’s concerned I was a student and then I was doing what I do now, exact dates haven’t really came into it, it probably helps it was quite a while ago now. Generally, I prefer not to talk about the period of my life due to the abusive relationship and he knows this so that helps too. I’ll never tell him and it isn’t something I really think about on a daily basis. My only concern would be if he found out from someone else etc but I think that’s pretty unlikely

Thank you so much
Yes, I did and no, I didn’t, not really anyway. He was selfish and otherwise deviant sexually

Thanks OP for sharing. This has been a really harrowing read and I'm so so glad you have escaped and are doing ok. What incredible strength and resilience.

My question is - did any of the men you slept with ever sense that you found them disgusting? Were any of them concerned you might think that? Or did they just not care?

If you're advertised as 18 and they're an unattractive guy in their 60s then surely they must have known deep down you found the whole thing repulsive.

Thank you so much, I appreciate it.
Honestly, I couldn’t say but I always felt like they were entirely oblivious. To be fair, I was an enormous people pleaser and did everything possible to make sure they felt comfortable in my company so I guess they might have mistook this for genuine attraction which is absolutely mental, I agree! I don’t like to blow my own trumpet but I don’t think anyone would’ve described me as unattractive

Do your parents know?

Thanks so much for answering OP. It's fascinating to me that they seemed to believe you were genuinely into it. Then again I guess many men seem to think the women in porn are enjoying it too. (And I've met many men who are convinced that none of the women they've slept with have ever faked an orgasm.) The level of delusion is remarkable.

No, they would’ve had no idea

Ok so my questions is, I believe that every single man who uses an escort is an absolute peace of shit, has no actual respect for women and is completely pathetic too. Would you agree with this belief from your experience?
You sound like you've done a good job moving on, I'm pleased for you!

Thank you so much! I couldn’t agree more

Did you ever turn anyone down on the basis you thought it was not appropriate?

There are some sex workers where I live, who take on men with autism and LD who are clearly very lonely and feel the only way they can get female company is to pay for it.

who take on men with autism and LD who are clearly very lonely and feel the only way they can get female company is to pay for it.

It needs to be hammered into the heads of men, disabled and otherwise, that paying for a shag is basically paying to rape someone, the guy is paying to override the woman's "no", and that being terribly lonely doesn't legitimise this. We don't see disabled women doing this much, do we?

Women don't generally have an issue with finding a shag. Men do. And men with LD etc do.
I am not excusing them, but was asking OP a question. and you are neither OP or answering it.

Women don't generally have an issue with finding a shag someone who will hurt them, murder them, rape them, or at best leave them unfulfilled and at the risk of pregnancy.

Fixed that for you.

Disabled women in particular are at high risk of being sexually assaulted. Autistic women and girls have a 90% lifetime prevalence of sexual assault, three times that of neurotypical women.

Disabled women have huge problems finding a guy who is safe and cares enough about women's pleasure to get us to orgasm.

I may not be OP, but equally I'm not going to let the myth that disabled men need prostituted women stand unchallenged, and I (mis)interpreted your post as spreading that myth.