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Ex full service prostitute AMA

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 24/04/2024 20:31

I did it for around 5 years

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:00

Innerchildfrustration · 25/04/2024 12:24

Do you find it’s women of all shapes and ethnicities working OP? I know of course in other countries it will be women of their ethnicity. But I was interested in the ethnic make up of the women you met. Also did ‘looks’ matter so much? Did body shape matter?

I guess I’m trying to get into the psyche of men who do this.

Yes, I’d say there were women of all shapes, ethnicities and everything else! I wouldn’t say every prostitute I met was super good looking/slim with big boobs type body but they were all well presented

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:00

Naunet · 25/04/2024 12:52

Did any of the men ever make any kind of effort to find out if you were trafficked or coerced?

Well done on getting out OP, and for quitting the weed. I hope your life only gets better from here. X

Thank you so much
No, never, not once

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:01

bignosebignose · 25/04/2024 13:15

Extraordinary thread. Congratulations on getting out. I wasn't going to post anything until you explained your username: "My name relates to quitting weed which is one of the hardest things I have ever done. I’m getting there though."

It absolutely does get better. I suddenly stopped nearly 20 years ago and have never looked back, even when in the company of other people having a spliff. Just remember that you gave up for a reason. All the best for the future.

Thank you so much, I really appreciate this

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:01

idrinkandiknowthings · 25/04/2024 13:16

Just wanted to add my own wishes for a better and brighter future for you xx

Thank you so much x

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:02

LlynTegid · 25/04/2024 13:17

Do you think shutting down the 'review' sites such as UK Punting would reduce the use (or abuse to be more accurate) by men of women in this way?

No, I’m not sure it would. Maybe shutting sites such as Viva Street and Adult Work would help though

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:03

Kerrylass · 25/04/2024 13:20

Thanks you for posting your experiences. Im glad that life is better for you now.

I hope you don't mind me asking...
Did any man bring you to orgasm

Thank you so much
No, never

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:03

Nottogetapenny · 25/04/2024 13:34

Well done, you should be so proud of yourself! It must of been so difficult to turn your life around. But you did it. 🌸

Thank you so much

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:04

Noseybookworm · 25/04/2024 13:38

I'm glad you're out of that life and doing better now. Well done OP none of this could have been easy 😞 take care of yourself lovely 💐

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Thank you so much

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:04

RogueSt · 25/04/2024 13:38

I hope you find peace and happiness. April is the month when we celebrate the great Egyptian saint

Thank you so much

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:06

BeardyButton · 25/04/2024 14:01

OP thank you so much for your posts. This sort of thread is the best of mn. Women sharing with women! Being vulnerable so we can all learn how these power structures work. Have you thought about writing a book?! You are articulate, honest and insightful. I think you would write a fantastic book on this issue. I would read it!

And thank you again. Reading this has inspired me in some ways. I’m really proud of being a woman sometimes. Proud of the strength we can show even when the world seeks to put its boot on our throat. You are an exceptional example of this kind of strength.

Thank you so much, i really appreciate it. I would actually LOVE to write a book but I’m not sure if I have the confidence unfortunately. Maybe one day!

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:06

savethatkitty · 25/04/2024 14:03

Do you have to be super fit/attractive to be in the game or do 'normal women' do it too?

I wouldn’t say so, no. Just well presented

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:10

everythingcrossed · 25/04/2024 14:18

Thanks for this AMA and, I'd like to echo what many others have said, I'm so glad that you're safe and well now.

I do have a question, if you'd care to answer it: often, when I've read interviews with prostituted women, they've said that half the time their clients only want company and they don't do anything sexual, just listen to them. I've always been a bit suspicious of this and wondered if, in your experience, there was any truth to it.

Thank you so much
This is definitely a real thing but I’d say it was slightly exaggerated. I wouldn’t say it was such a regular occurrence, men seeming to prefer the company aspect of it but it definitely happened. It would be very rare for no sexual activity to happen at all though - I don’t think I ever experienced this

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:11

NutSmeg · 25/04/2024 14:22

Incredible AMA, OP. I'm in awe of you. Thanks for starting it and for being so honest.

I recently read a book about women doing sex work at the same time as having a normal job. Did you come across many women doing this? If so, what kinds of jobs did they have?

Thank you.

Thank you so much
This isn’t something I have ever come across personally… it sounds exhausting

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:12

bonzaitree · 25/04/2024 14:30

OP you mentioned that you managed not to spend much of the money. Does that mean you now have a good nest egg at least?

If not can you tell us what happened to the money? Some went on weed I’m sure but it’s not a super expensive drug.

My ex boyfriend took a lot of the money unfortunately

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:22

RubyWinehouse · 25/04/2024 14:40

You are one strong lady, and you should be proud of how you managed to turn your life around 💐. Are you scared that your partner will find out about it from an ex client or something?

Thank you so much
Not really, maybe a little. I think it’s very unlikely (though I am quite unlucky, haha), I’m in a completely different area now

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:22

BobbyBiscuits · 25/04/2024 14:59

I've known girls who've done sex work to varying degrees, none of them had much good to say about it.
What if any were the positives of doing it?

Absolutely 0

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Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter · 26/04/2024 21:23

LoompaOompa · 25/04/2024 15:13

I can't help wonder what your ex-partner is doing now. I hope he's in jail but sadly he's probably still out there, abusing women in one way or another.

Did he ever face any consequences for his actions? Would he be identifiable under Claire's Law?

Urm the police are aware of him but not really, no. I’m actually not sure as he’s never been convicted of anything in relation to this… but I’d like to think so

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DisforDarkChocolate · 24/04/2024 20:40

No question but I'm in awe of your strength in getting away from the ex and a life that harmed you.

This.

Illstartexercisingtomorrow · 26/04/2024 22:25

This is a really fascinating thread OP thanks for doing it. Another cheer for you for having the strength to get out, utterly incredible.

I hope you already know this, but I’d just like to say - as some pp have brought it up - if your current bf did find out about your past he has absolutely no right to judge you. No one does. You were the victim of abuse and you should never feel ashamed for what you were put through, it was not your fault.

I’m really interested to know how you actually managed immediately after you ran away. Most women who have to escape a partner are unable to because they have no where to go and certainly not enough money to rent a place immediately by themselves. So how did you do it? In the early days how did you find a place to live and finance the basics? How did you get into another job?

StasisMom · 26/04/2024 22:39

Big respect OP and I'm another who thinks you should write a book.

Neodymium · 26/04/2024 22:56

How did you make them leave the flat after the hour was up? Also, did you start out by renting the flat for that purpose or did you start elsewhere and then later rent a place?

EnthENd · 26/04/2024 23:12

Good to hear you got out and are doing well now.

Following up on a previous question: do you think the clients knew, or really ought to have known, that you were being exploited?

Whoslaughingnowhahaha · 27/04/2024 05:52

Im so glad you're in a better place now OP. It must of been really difficult. I thought about it once when money was tight but so glad I didn't go ahead.

I have two questions. When the sex was over, what happened, did the client just get up and leave or did you have to still almost pretend to be their girlfriend until they left? Also did you ever kiss any?

Daisiesanddaffodils24 · 27/04/2024 09:21

You are incredible. Well done for surviving all that you did and turning your life around. You are an inspiration. The best of luck to you going forward.🍀

Daisiesanddaffodils24 · 27/04/2024 10:51

Also! Did you ex work or just live off your earnings?