Ex full service prostitute AMA

[Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter]

I did it for around 5 years

OP you mentioned that you managed not to spend much of the money. Does that mean you now have a good nest egg at least?

If not can you tell us what happened to the money? Some went on weed I’m sure but it’s not a super expensive drug.

If the OP reported the boyfriend, would the police take this seriously? Would the OP also get into trouble? Is this something you have considered OP?
Surely the boyfriend has moved on and is likely pimping out someone else.

Thank you so much. To be honest, professionals did try to dissuade me and could see it for what it was but for whatever reason, I wasn’t receptive to this. If I was aware of something similar happening to another woman, I would definitely share my experiences. I feel like hearing from others with similar experiences that had got out the other side may have benefited me

Thank you. Yes, he still expected sex, didn’t turn him off in the slightest which I found a little strange at the time. I do suspect he got off on it though he never said as such

Yes, lube and just pushing through it to be honest. I found it more mentally challenging than physically. I never had an orgasm but I did fake it when I suspected that’s what they were trying to do … which was rare

Thank you so much

You are one strong lady, and you should be proud of how you managed to turn your life around 💐. Are you scared that your partner will find out about it from an ex client or something?

Thank you so much. I think the odd one possibly liked me but they didn’t really like on or anything. Thankfully. I would’ve found that really uncomfortable

I wasn’t interested in sex at all for a while but I feel like I’m over the worst of that now

Thank you so much. I was out before Only Fans etc became big. I do think social media glamourising sex work must be having a detrimental impact on young women though. I know when I initially started selling pics, I wouldn’t have dreamed mentioning it to anyone but my closest friends. I don’t feel I’d need to be as weary due to fear of judgment if it was something I was doing now. It’s scary really

Thank you so much

I’m not keen on men honestly

Thank you so much

Thank you so much. Honestly I don’t think it would reduce coercion etc. I agree with decriminalisation of prostitutes to avoid it being pushed underground and also because it’s hard enough to leave without having a criminal record etc

I've known girls who've done sex work to varying degrees, none of them had much good to say about it.
What if any were the positives of doing it?

I think you may have misinterpreted that post. I believe the OP meant that she was not able to spend the money because her "boyfriend" took it, not that she was able to save it.

OP, well done on having the strength to rebuild.

I can't help wonder what your ex-partner is doing now. I hope he's in jail but sadly he's probably still out there, abusing women in one way or another.

Did he ever face any consequences for his actions? Would he be identifiable under Claire's Law?

So glad you got out. You're very courageous, and I hope you have someone to confide in, maybe a therapist?

Do you know if your abuser has snared anyone else into prostitution?

Do you have any idea what was behind his behaviour?

Very harsh, and very ignorant of reality.

Do you honestly think she could have sat these men down and asked them to be honest with her about their relationships and family before proceeding?

Prostitution involves a gross power imbalance. Prostitutes are not 'complicit' in the decisions their clients make.

Put the blame for the decision that ruined your life where it rightly belongs - your fiance cared only about getting sex and had no respect whatsoever for you, for the relationship, for himself, or for the woman or women he used.

Thank you for posting this, @Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter , it’s really interesting. And I’m very glad you’re now safe and happy.
Why do you think the men were doing it? Was it because they just couldn’t be bothered to make the effort to make a woman want to have sex with them? Or do you think a large portion of them also got a kick out of the power dynamic, of thinking they had bought you?

When you say you found the men pathetic, do you mean socially or sexually or something else? I'm glad you have changed your life now.

Just want to saw how brave you are from walking away and rebuilding your life. I hope only good thing and happiness come your way

Were the men (I'm assuming it was just men) who used your services awful people, or just depressingly ordinary? Or was it a wide range of characters and backgrounds?

And yes, good on you for getting away from that life. That must have taken some steely resolve.

"You people" never starts a rational conversation.

Hi OP - I just wanted to say massive well done on getting out and surviving. A true warrior. And to be kind to your past self. She was doing her best with what she knew and to survive and navigate a world she had no control in ❤️